I feel like a loser ..help?

Question

i still live at home with parents at 21 NO job, because im in college Full time...i already have an associates degree and if it left with me i wouldnt go further but, my mom insists. Right now i wish i could just go into the working world...and move out. I HATE THIS!!!! i also have a bf and we've been going out for 5 solid years and he asked me to move in with him but my mom said NO..**** i want out..help me please????

Answer 1

It is your decision. If your mom said no...that's not her decision to make. You are 21. She is controlling. You become an adult at 18. You need to move in with your boyfriend (although I would suggest gettig a job first that way if anything happens you aren't dependent on him either). You need to be an independent person and you can't do that just by asking your mother's permission. Seriously I'm 20 living with my husband thousands of miles away from my mother. Unfortunately it got to the point where I no longer speak to my mother but she was just very controlling and hateful of my husband. Just leave. Find a job first, then leave. Your mom is trying to control you and that's not okay. You need to get out.

Answer 2

You are 21 she technically can't tell you anything. If you already have a degree, get a job, move out and be a grown person.  If you let her continue to control you, it will never stop. You will wake up 35 still in your mothers house with her being your life.  Get some balls and do what you need to do to be an adult.  Now move it.

Answer 3

leave, and move in with him if you want.  You are an adult.  Find a job anyway.  Your mom does not determine your life.  Do not leave school until you are satisfied that you will find a carreer, but you can work and go to school.  It is not up to her, and if she kicks you out you have a place to go.  If you do not want to live with a boy friend, find some people at school to share a place.  I do not know where you live, but most people with an associates can find a job that lets them live on their own with one roommate.  Mom needs to let go.  

Answer 4

Ok i can see your moms point she probably wants you to finish school.  I would have wanted that for my step-daughter to but she did just what you are thinking of.  Her husband works she stays home with the kids no degree so she has dead end jobs when she gets them.  I do have a beautiful grandbaby which i just love to death.  I do see how hard they have to work to make ends meet.  So just know that if you do and mom is paying for your school and she stops doing that you can not be mad at her because it was your choice not to finish it up the way she would like you to.  You are over 18 so in the end you do have the choice to move out you just need to know there maybe things that will happen that you maynot like.  Good Luck!!!  

Answer 5

to be honest your mother's house is the best place to be instead of your bf because you would have to look at bills and other expenses until you get out of school and have a solid good job , trust you don't want to move out yet how bad the economy is today . please get a degree first

Answer 6

The reason your mom has the final word is because you still live under her roof.

What is wrong with that? Full time college leaves you with no time to work, so why not wait until college is over and then get a full time job, set a goal. Moving in with your bf now is not going to help. Your mom will only resent your bf and your move.

Be patient. You are probably just bored with the routine.  

Answer 7

1. Youre 21

2 move in with boyfriend.

3 get a job.

Dude stop listening to your mom. You are old enough she needs to let go.

ITS YOUR LIFE. NOT YOUR MOMS.

She might think she knows whats best for you. But only you know whats best.

Welcome to adulthood.