I feel like dying, i feel like wat isz the point anymore?

Question

Not the point of living, im not suicidal or nun like dat. next week i will start 9th grade, and im 14 years old. and i think my mom is too hard on me, and i bet you hear this all the time, but i think she is too Strict. She doesnt let me do pretty much Anything.!! she doesnt exactly like all my friends, (and they are not that bad, they do not smoke, drink, do drugs, or anything like that. they are not criminals or bad people.) But she will not let me go to my friends houses when her parents are not home, and she doesnt like how all of my friends parents drive, so i cannot go to the mall, or the movies, or to the store, or anywhere fun if my friends parents are driving. it is soo annoying and ii feel like a lame person that can never do anything. she wont let me sleep over at sum of my friends houses because she doesnt really know their parents, but wont really get to know her parents because the doesnt really like the girl. Im not trying to complain about all my problems, but ive been feeling really sick about this lately,, i am about to start highschool, and im surprised she even lets me go to school or even to my job..=\. I mean, im not the best kid in the world, and a few things have happened that she has lost some of her trust in me, and sometimes when she gives me another chance, i f*ck it up, and get in more trouble, but i guess thats cuz i dont ever get to do anything, so when i do, i go craszy,,lol. But i jus dont know wat to do anymore, when i go outside she says "dont go to ;;this girls;; house" whoever it is, but i do it anyway, but she doesnt ever find out. If i had listened to everything she said, i would be in my room 24/7. I dont know, im not really sure wat im asking,but i was wondering if anyone had any advice for me or anything ii could do.

Answer 1

wow that stinks, a lot of moms are like that it might be that shes worried somethings gonna happen to you or something. my advice would be to maybe try and sit down with her and see why she wont let you and then explain to her that even though your 14 ur still responsible and wouldnt let anything happen to you.

Answer 2

wow. it sounds like you have a really strict mom. you should try talking to her (or your dad if he's any better) and explain that you're in high school now and you think you're old enough and ready to hang out at your friends house and all that. also tell her that since you're in high school no one is holding your hand anymore and you're taking responsibilities for your own actions and you are much more mature now and can handle these things. hope this helps! :o)

Answer 3

she's only protective because she cares about you. naturally the older you get the more responsibility she will let you have but don't prove her wrong for trusting you. don't mess up and she will trust you even more.

Answer 4

Tell her how you feel. Just say you want to have some fun in your life..

best wishess

xoxox.

Answer 5

She sounds like a good Mum and in about ten years, you will see this too and thank her for being 'mean'.

You say yourself that you f*** it up everytime she gives you a chance. Why would she want to let you do things if she knew that you were going to mess up again? You need to earn her trust.

Answer 6

First of all, take a deep breath and EXHALE. Your mother loves you very much and is concerned about you. I have a 15-year old and we have gone through some of the same challenges with freedom, responsibility, friends, hangouts and the like. One thing you can do is what you've already done, which is to reach out to someone. GREAT JOB! Next, try these things:

1. Make a list of the things you are grateful for. This takes the focus off of all of the perceived shortcomings. If you aren't sure where to start, start with the things you take for granted like your health and sound mind (You sound like you're a smart person).

2. Remember that your mother is human and as such, we ALL make mistakes. Try having a talk with your mother and sharing some of your feelings respectfully. If you can't do this, try writing her a letter. Even if you don't give her the letter, it may make you feel better to get the feelings down in print. If you're worried she'll find it after you've written it, tear it up and throw it away.

3. Reach out to your online friends. Your mother doesn't want you to travel to certain friends' houses but you could talk to them online thru the instant chat and messengers, right?

4. Realize that in four years, you'll be an adult capable of making all your own decisions and choices on your own. As sobering as this may sound for the future, that time will be here before you know it.

5. Don't sweat the small stuff! Find a hobby that helps you to pass the time that you would rather be spending with friends. This will show your mom that not only can you be responsible (by finishing something you start) but it will show her more of your constructive and creative sides. Crocheting, latch hook and plastic canvas are all pretty simple to learn. You could even make something for your mom!

6. Don't hesitate to seek professional help! If you are feeling that life is not worth living, seek out a professional at work or at school or even online. Life is beautiful with its challenges and twists and turns. We all face obstacles and sometimes feel that the journey is not worth the destination. There are professionals who offer their services confidentially for free.

7. Whatever you do, take time to stop and feel good about yourself exactly where you are now. You've made it this far and there's no need to quit now!!

Answer 7

It won't stay like this forever.  You can wait it out, or you can talk to your mom about it and talk to her honestly.  Don't try to sound like you're whining, just talk to her as if you were both adults and tell her your true feelings.