I feel like i don't fit in?

Question

Well, I lost my best friend to some stupid drama and now she is best friends with my cousin(I rarely talk to my cousin, We talk, but not, alot)......I would hate to admit but yeah, I am jelous. IT just seems so weird not having her as a best friend. Me and her still talk! I just want to have back-to old times again!

What I'm worried about is, I don't fit in.I would g o to my cousins house (and my ex best friend is going to be there) but, I don't want to show up and there like "What is you doing here"? or something like that.

The only person I have to hang out with is my cousin(she is like my best friend) (SHE is gone on vacation) and like 2 other people. I feel like I have no friends. im tired of sitting in the house all day.

How can i get me and my ex-b-friend, back to the way it was?

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Answer 1

Sadly, friends will come and go.

Answer 2

Aww. It's ok.

I know how you feel.

The one thing you need to concentrate on is to stay AWAY from drama. Nothing good ever comes from it.

Just relax and then try to figure it out.

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Answer 3

i always say why fit in when you can stand out. you can try talking to your friend and tell her that you guys should forget the past and move on and if she doesnt then try talking to new people and try making new friends.

Answer 4

well try to work out the drama with your best friend becuase she might feel the same way but doesn't want to say anything

Answer 5

Well I think its time to confront your ex-friend. Start up with  a light conversation like how have you been what have you been doing kind of thing. Then tell them you want to have a serious conversation. Start talking about the thing that caused you not to be friends. Spill all your guts about the matter cuz its the best thing to be as honest as you can possibly be. Then explain your perspective and listen to theirs. And if apologies are  in order then swallow your pride and go for it. If things go well then try to set up a day to hang out or something. I went through all the pain you are feeling and its not easy to just get over or fix something like this. Trust has to be built on both sides and honesty needs to be told. Being forth right about all of your feelings is a great way to help the communicaiton problem between you two. Best of luck hope you get your friend back

Answer 6

Same problem. All my old best friends where b*****s to me and just one day ditched me or just lost interest.

We still talk now, but, It's amazing that people who were once SO close and hung out every week are so far apart. It's so awkward when we all talk now.

I have other friends but they are doing there own thing- like on vaca. and everything. I feel like I'm shouldn't even bother calling my old friends- because I doubt they'll want to hang out.I actually think I'm depressed. =\

Answer 7

I have had the same problem before, and i know you feel like well nobody understands or something.

But all you can really do is just wait.

I mean try to talk to your best friend -or ex bff- and tell her how you feel!

Don't act all depressed, trust me it only makes you EVEN sadder.

Go outside i mean you'r best friend isn't the only person alive.

Make new ones at a mall or something, you'll feel better!

Good luck at your cousins house!

<3/ brenndah

Answer 8

s***w it. Just worry about your education and making money for now.

Answer 9

You know, whether you believe it or not, cause personally I didn't believe this when I was younger and in school either, when my grandma told me that when I do get to be older, a lot of the things that is sending your world into a spiral right now regarding friends, isn't going to matter all that much when you're older.

Of course, I certainly not belittle your question, it is very important to you... but I have come to learn over the last 10 years of being out of school and now that I am older, have my own house, my own bills (lol) and a life completely different to that of the one I had when I was younger, I realize my grandma was right.

99.9% of the people I knew when I younger, I have no clue where they are now, and they were the ones that made me think my entire life was gonna be the way it was back in 1995, lmao

If your best friend is a true best friend to you, she will always be.  And what you want to understand is, we all fight.  Fight and bicker and sometimes not even talk to one another for a period of time while having a falling out.  We ALL have fall outs with our friends.  Me and one of my best friends, Sam, have a nice hefty fight once a month, it's normal.

I wouldn't let yourself get all down and out about it and next time you see your friend and your cousin, be nice to them.  Approach them in a calm, civil manner, cause this way, you won't help build any walls between you guys.

Cause given enough time, all of you will sit, remember and laugh over how silly this disgreement might have been.

Good luck to you!

Answer 10

Hey,

Have you considered taking up activities in your community if they are available to you? If you're currently having a difficult time with your former best friend, perhaps a little period of rest might be the best thing for that relationship. Let the drama fall into the past and get back to your friend at a later time. In the mean time, use your free time to get out. Summer is one of the best seasons for making new friends. Consider sports, or go to the park, check out any local programs (like the YMCA) that might get you an opportunity to meet new people and get out of the house!

Enjoy your summer.