I feel like i love him more than he loves me?

Question

I feel like there is an imbalance between us...i feel like i care more about the relationship then he does.

Now i know that i need to change this if i want to get some of the power in the relationship back.... i know its not all about power but you know what i mean.

i want to be desired i dont want to be chasing him all the time for his affection, how do i back track and make good the mistakes iv made? i want him to want me and us as much as i do...

i dont want to start playing games with him but do you think that i need to back off and play a little hard to get?

Answer 1

your doing your self wrong when you do that

he only gonna take you for granted

nd thats not really fair

so bakk off a lil

nd see what happens maybe he wants to break up woth you nd you might not even realize it so watch out

Answer 2

Sounds too far gone for that. Better break up with him. Good luck.

Answer 3

if you feel an imbalance there probably is. ask your partner where the relationship is, just to be on the same page.  at the end of the talk see if what page the two of you decide your on, you want to be on.  if yes wonderful. no consider moving on.

Answer 4

All people do what is reinforced.  When he does give you affection tell him how much you love it...you can get a little racy here, men love it (obviously make sure no children are in the room if you have kids).

Answer 5

He probably loves you just as much as you love him.

But i am willing to bet that your desperation is coming through to him loud and clear as being clingy and needy.  Back off, go have a girls night out or two, don't call him for a little bit.  Stay away but stay available, he will come in time.

Generally guys don't need the constant attention that women do, let him know that you do need some yourself from time to time.

Answer 6

NO!!!!!!! Don't ever play game in love. You only get tears later on. Believe me. But what you can do is, give love the same level as his love, so make it balance. Lead him to give you more love, then you release more love to him. If he's a good man, he will give you abundant love. If he's not, he will start playing games and complaint that you don't love him enough, then that's the time you think of your relationship again whether you should go or not. I hope he is a good man. Good luck.  

Answer 7

He's not into you. There is nothing you will learn from here to make him change, and I don't think talking about it to him again will change him.  Find a man who appreciates you.

Answer 8

I am in the exact situation as you are!!! My boyfriend sometimes acts like the last thing on his list is our relationship. I have skipped going to horse races, cancelled on friends etc. just to keep our plans of hanging together. Where is he tends to put me up for second best. I know he loves me, I have no doubt about that, but I understand the "desperation" feeling that your getting. Try returning the deeds. If you and your man have a "date" or a hang out planned and a buddy of yours wants to hang out, go with the friend.

He may be acting the way he does cause he feels like YOU are going to hold the relationship together. Make him think that he needs to put a little effort in and things will change.

Good Luck and I hoped I helped!

Answer 9

Stop making yourself so available. Start being busy and really go out and do things with your friends and family. Yes, stop calling, texting and going around him. If he does not notice it, then he's not that into you. So, you should keep move on. Good luck.

P.S. I've felt the same way. I just had to keep moving on and not letting him control the situation. I figured i deserved more from him. I never got it, but got myself together.

Answer 10

do things to see if you can make him just a little jealous out some doubt in his mind

Answer 11

yeah. just back off a bit. go hang out with your girlfriends.

Answer 12

For a woman to be desired she must embrace the idea of being a mute.