I feel like im neglecting my daughter!?

Question

so i have an almost four month old baby girl, and i recently came down with a pretty nasty virus that i cant seem to get rid of. ive seen a doctor and all that already and they told me all i can do is take tylenol and drink lfuids (real helpful) but i stay home alone with my daughter all day every day while her father works, and not only do i not want to get her sick, i also just dont have the energy to be as fun and playful as usual...i barely get sleep at night because i feel so sickly, and im just worried that im not being as attentive as i should be, like im being a bad mother because i just dont have it in me to be 100% lately...hopefully ill get better soon...its been four days already and ive had a high fever and my throat is so sore that i can barely swallow water!

please give me some reassurance that im not being a horrible mother!! :(

Answer 1

no you are not a bad mother. you are sick and not being able to be your normal way with her right now is perfectly normal. soon you will be feeling better and more playful with her. just hang in there, it will get better! i know how you feel my 1 year old got sick with a virus after her 1st birthday party and gave it to me. so we are both sick plus i am also a stayathome mommy.

Answer 2

You gotta take care of yourself in order to be a good mom, taking time to get better is not a bad thing! She's only 4 months old, and Im sure a few days of you not being as attentive as usual wont hurt a thing!!

Hope you feel better soon!

Answer 3

As long as her basic needs are being met, thats all you can do right now. Always remember that you cannot take care of anyone else if you don't take care of yourself. Hope you feel better!

Answer 4

Oh, mama...you're doing just fine.

Just the fact alone that you're worried you're neglecting her proves that you're not.  If she had the ability to talk and understand you- she'd tell you to take it easy, too.  You'll get better soon.  The more you rest, the quicker you'll be better!

Answer 5

There are days that I'm not feeling good, and I feel the same way you do-that I'm not being a good mother to my child, because I'm not interacting with her as much as I "should".  On those days, I try to cuddle with her as much as possible.  

Answer 6

By keeping your baby close and nursing her, you are giving her antibodies to help her have a strong immune system.

Your daughter won't remember this time.  Just wear her in a sling when she's awake and she'll be happy to be near you.  She doesn't need anything more than your love and breastmilk :)

Answer 7

there is nothing wrong with you trying to get better the ast thing you want to do is get a baby sick<but sometimes it happens>as long as she is getting what she needs like the basics needs then its fine dont worry there will be many many many more times like this so dont worry just get to feeling better

thanks

the iron man1