I feel my social life is in big trouble?

Question

I tend to work or study all the time.

I am already in my thirties and still unmarried.

I see many many of my friends and clients who are much older then me (in their 70's) so desperate and lonely they are willing to marry asian mail order brides half their age. Most of whom are only after their money and often have abandoned children and a good husband to pursue money.

Is there any chance I can get married with a real women, still in the child bearing age and be happy? I am such a bachelor.

Answer 1

hi guy. i know what you're saying about the asian mail order brides. im asian. i would know.

but anyways, yeah man. you know, ive seen 50 year olds find the "right" person. and since you actually want it, you should try dating.

but i mean there are those people that just are okay by themselves, that prefer being alone.

but since you actually want to find love and have kids. go do websites, eharmony, match.com, or try speed dating, it works. approach a woman.

you're too old to wait for it to come to you, its time for you to go find it.

good luck <3

Answer 2

Marry someone you work or study with, who is of childbearing age.  

Answer 3

That would depend on how much of a bachelor you are. You're going to lose alot of freedom with a relationship. You might not be happy.

Answer 4

Fortunately for you, men have less to worry about when it comes to the biological clock ticking.  If you want children, all you have to do is find someone a little younger than you.

If you want a relationship, the best thing you can do is to start putting yourself in social situations for purposes other than dating.  Join a club and start hanging out with people as genuine friends.  Get used to this and dating will flow as a natural consequence.

Answer 5

This is actually a question only you can answer. If you want to meet someone you have to make that a priority. Word and study are good but if you want to meet someone you have to make an effort, and make time. Ask friends to set you up on dates, ask out anyone you find attractive, date a little to figure out what you want. You could even do a dating service online. Lots of fish in the sea, dating will help you decide what it is you are looking for in a partner.

Answer 6

thirties is supposed to be some of best years of a man's life.

no worry, you'll find a good woman when the right time comes[:

Answer 7

yea u can get married

Answer 8

That is all up to you.  You might have to work and study less so you have time to find and date a woman.

Answer 9

Anything excellent is worth fighting for, my friend, if you want it, YOU must go out and GET IT!

Answer 10

no chance.

you choose study over living your life.

when your on your death bed you wont be thinking about your academic/ career acomplishments youll be thinking about your emotional connections with loved ones (if you had any)

its sad to think people choose a career/money over a life.

sorry just telling it how it is.

Answer 11

Life, they say, is the accumulation of your experiences.  But "they" are wrong.  Life is whatever you pay attention to.  If you are paying full attention to your work, that is your life.  Do you see what I'm getting at?

It sounds like you are already married...to your career.  Are you willing to put as much time into a real marriage as you do your career?  Are you able to discern between work time and family time?  It sounds like you are a workaholic which is just as bad, in my opinion, as those who have a food, drug, or alcohol addiction.  There are also those who go to the other extreme and are addicted to their wives and children and are not able to function outside the family circle.  

Determine that you will try to dedicate some time to finding a mate and when you find the right one, you will know it.  Then, you are going to have to decide to divide your time equally between your mate and your work.  If you could find a mate who enjoys what you enjoy as far as work and leisure time, you would be extremely lucky.

A marriage is like a garden.  If you don't tend to it each day, it will go to weed and will give you more trouble than you are prepared to handle. Keep your garden watered and weeded and it will produce a rich and rewarding life for your entire family.  Life is what you pay attention to.

Good luck man.

Answer 12

It is possible to be around people and lonely.

It is possible to be alone and not lonely.

Loneliness comes from not feeling "connected". Feeling unconnected to your surroundings comes from being unconnected to your self.

Answer 13

Nobody knows what their future will bring. The important thing is to live in the present and to find joy in your life as it is now. Desperation and thinking of a woman as just a baby making machine will put off potential mates. Develop your confidence and happiness because that is naturally attractive to women. Stop worrying and stop wishing your life away because it is just too short...

Answer 14

Well, from your question you seem to have a really cool sense of humour *the bit about thai brides made me laugh* So go out there and flaunt it! I mean, I'm 14 and dont have much experience with girls and stuff, and I probably never will cuz I'm a little tubby, but I can make people smile and am quite clever so I have some chance. You have the same chance, if not more because you have a job and a place of your own. You're also older than me so you know a lot more about the ways of the world. Sometimes you've gotta forget about work and just get out there and meet people. Join a few clubs! Get into warhammer! Do something! The right other half is out there waiting for you, so do it!

Answer 15

I'm sure there's still a good chance. More people nowadays want to wait until they're in their thirties to get married since they want to settle their career first. All you have to do is to be more outgoing, and confident. Most girls are attracted to confident and humorous kind of men.

Answer 16

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