I feel really alone.

Question

I am from Africa, but born and bred in UK. I have only my family (me -14, my two brothers-10 and 12 and my parents) then i have my mums cousins familys (her, her two sons - 10 and 9, her two sisters - her sister is engaged) and I have my dads cousin (her, her husband and her three kids) And my dads other cousin (one man) my dad has fallen out with his cousin so i just have my family and my mums cousin. I have plenty of family freinds, like alot alot but its not the same because on xmas last year all i had was my immediate family and my two uncles. one blood, one wasnt. I wish I had mroe family like a whole roost. You know the fun, kind aunt who treats you and stuff like that and the rude strict uncle who is old and like just lots of different characters. I have all that in Africa but i only go there twice a year and even then i am not THAT close to them. I wouldnt of felt like that if my dad didnt fall out with his cousin on his side because they have a daughter my age and i could of spent this summer sleeping round their new hosue and going out with her and stuff.

Answer 1

most family fights are soon forgotten as this may well be

You said you were from Africa but you are not you are a Brit as that is where you were born

Your skin color has nothing to do with your nationality and by you thinking that way you are limiting your circle of friends

Answer 2

You need an extended family.

Get involved in functions with other people, and you will find lots of people to care about, who will also care about you.

You can go to the YMCA

You can go to group functions at a local church

You can join a bowling team

or other sports team that meet regularly.

There should be groups all around you, if you look in the LOCAL section of your newspaper.

Quit feeling sorry for yourself, and wanting what is already out there...you just haven't tapped the resources yet.

^j^

Answer 3

You seem to be missing things as they were back in Africa. You have many family members around you that care for you. You can get close to as many family members as you want.

Unfortunately, my "huge" family consists of 1 Father, 1 Mother, 1 Aunt, 1 Uncle, 2 cousins, 1 husband, 2 grown kids.  All the others have already passed away.  My parents are both are not in good health. All the others (except my husband) all live out of town.  So it generally my husband and me. So be very thankful for all the family members you have.

Answer 4

It sounds like you're homesick for your extended family in Africa.  But even though you miss them, you've said you're not that close with them.  Family isn't always blood relatives.  Instead of wishing for something that isn't, try developing new relationships.  Make new friends and develop relationships with people at school.  Join after school groups and meet people with similar interests.  In time, you'll find you have more family than you ever imagined could be possible. Take the initiative and reach out to kids your own age.  You may be surprised to find that there are other kids out there who feel the same way you do and want to be accepted by you.