I feel so bad and want to fix it.

Question

Today my son wet the bed for the fifth time in a row and he is 13 and his father got really pissed about it, He grabbed him by the arm threw him over his lap and beat the living **** on his bare bottom, then he went to the store and bought Older kid pull ups and pacifiers and baby bottles, well he put him in the diaper and made his suck on the pacifier until he stopped crying, He then decided it was time to find a babysitter for him and keeps treating him like a baby. I tried to get him to stop and he spanked me and made me wear the pull-up for a few hours, I love my husband but he is hurting my son and me, He says if i want to act the age my son is acting I can get treated the same way and is forcing me to wear diapers for good,

Answer 1

get out now!

Answer 2

Is this for real?  Obviously your husband has no right to do such a thing to you -- to say nothing of your son!  If you have family members (your side of the family) who are close by, see if you can go and stay with them for a few days while you try to get things sorted out.  Your husband needs counseling and, if this is allowed to go on much longer, so will you and your son -- so please, act now!

I'm not going to say that you and your husband can't work things out, because I think it's possible that you can -- with the appropriate professional help -- but *for the time being* you need to get yourself and your son out of the house ASAP.  His behavior is abusive to both your son and you and he obviously will not listen to reason, so I see little other option left.

Bedwetting, by the way, happens to a lot of kids at your son's age and is a medical problem, nothing to be ashamed of.  His body is growing rapidly and his bladder and the related muscles, nerves, etc. just haven't caught up yet, but they will in time.  Please act now to protect him before he suffers emotional damage that will be much more severe and long lasting.

Answer 3

Sounds like you're married to an abusive man. Is he willing to go for family counseling? If he's not willing to change, do you and your son have somewhere safe you can go for a while? Are you financially stable enough to leave him? No one has the right to treat anyone else that way. Did your son's bedwetting and behavior start as a result of the emotional abuse he lives with, does he have a physical condition that needs to be treated, or was he ever sexually abused? Whatever the reason behind your son's behavior, something's wrong that needs to be addressed. Your husband's behavior needs to change as well. I'm guessing you've suffered some psychological damage as well. I really think you could all benefit from counseling.

Answer 4

I think something is wrong with you that you would allow your husband to treat you and your son this way.  I can't imagine an adult wearing diapers unless they had a bladder problem.

Your husband needs help and so does your son.  There may be a medical problem for the reason he wets the bed.  Before I would let my husband put another hand on him, I would make sure he is OK.  

Then to protect my child, I would report your husband to child abuse.  While you are it, report him for wife abuse.

This cannot go on.  So stop him!!  

Answer 5

If you are serious, then YOUR HUSBAND IS AN ABUSIVE a*****e AND YOU NEED TO CALL THE POLICE!!!

He is abusive and physically assaults you and your son.   What kind of DAMAGE IS THIS DOING TO YOUR SON??!!!!!!   And you are letting it go on!!!!

You need to take your son to the doctor to see what medications he might be able to take.   The next time your husband starts hitting your son, you NEED TO CALL THE POLICE!!!!!

Answer 6

That's abuse!!! Sort it out quick-smart. Your husband is not right in the head for treating you or your son like this!

Answer 7

IF this is not some sick joke what the h**l are you doing? You can choose to stay and be treated that way , your son has no choice he needs you to be his pillar, his strength..there are medical reasons some boys do this late in life There are shelters and police and someone would have to kill me before I would let ANYONE treat my child that way! Document ..tell others..take pics..send to a safe place..make a plan and get the he** OUT! call a hot-line..DO something! Protect yourself and get to a safe place!

Answer 8

All I can say is I truly hope you are joking...

Answer 9

Your son is a bedwetter!

Answer 10

You need to get you and your son out of there so you can lead a normal life. But I think you know that but you just don't know how. When it comes to your kids, you need to do what's best for them. Otherwise he will have this insecure issue with relationships in the future.