I feel so betrayed and confused?

Question

My so called bestfriend who i told a secret about someone to and said don't tell anyone. She told someone who told someone else and it was bad. She is being really mean to me and was cursing at me. Cause she can't admit that she told people. And i told her something else personal about me now i really can't trust her. AH any advice?

Answer 1

in all honesty by starting with the whole telling a friend a secret bout someone else (which makes it no longer a secret) you have started this vicious circle.  All you can do is talk to your friend and try to smooth things over just remember two wrongs dont make a right.

Answer 2

You've just learned an important lesson - the only way to keep a secret is to keep it to yourself.  Your friend shouldn't have told it, and I believe she knows she betrayed you.  That's why she's being so defensive.  Just make a mental note of what happened and don't tell her anything about anybody ever again.  

Answer 3

A secret is no longer a secret when you tell someone.  Even spouses who divorce get set up because they do not feel an obligation to keep a secret anymore.  If there is something very private to you, don't tell anyone.  

Secrets that can be used against you should never be shared except maybe with a doctor in confidence.  Be a good listener instead and she won't have to carry this "secret" burden for the rest of her life.  But keep any secrets that she asks you to keep or ask her not to tell you for fear you may blurt it by accident to someone else.

Answer 4

I'd suggest telling your friend how you feel. Tell her if she continues hurting you, you won't be so sure if she is your friend at all.

Answer 5

you should have told her a "phoney secret" and told her not to tell anyone. If she told someone then you would know not to tell her your real secret, but if she didnt tell anyone then you know you can trust her..

But in your case, your should sit down and talk to your friend and tell her how you are feeling about her actions.