I feel so guilty?!? why??

Question

my bf punched me in the face (he says by accident...and he was completly drunk) (i lived with him) i called the cops and he ended up getting arrested or getting a ticket and has to go to court on tues. I feel sooooo guilty! I love him so mucha nd i called the cops on him! i feel so bad i cant stop crying. I wish it never happened and everything was back to normal. I cant help but think about all the goods times and all the fun we had together. Why do i feel so bad?!?! he hurt me (not too badly but enough to make make my lip swell a little and draw blood) i feel sooo horrible!

Answer 1

i dont think he was thinking of your well being when he punched YOU in the face.  Dont feel bad for him...he deserves whatever he gets.  

Answer 2

I know you care for him, however, that just sounds like a bad situation.  I really think you should rethink getting back involved with him.  Obviously you were scared enough at the time to call the cops....what's going to happen the next time he's drunk?  Will he hit you again?  I wouldn't stick around to find out.  It is never ok to hit a girl.  Also, what if your relationship progresses and your married with kids, do you want them to see daddy hitting mommy?  You really need to take yourself out of the situation and look at it clearly before it possibly gets worse.

Answer 3

why are you feeling horrible for...he should have never put a hand on you in the 1st place so he got what he deserved even if he was drunk that isnt an excuse its common that ur blaming urself because most domestic abused women do and thats why it ends up happening again...

Answer 4

Your self esteem is not good so you take a beating and then feel bad for standing up for your self.  

I'd google self esteem tips and learn how to stand up for your self when bullied, abused, belittled, dissed, etc.  

People with healthy self esteem to not put up with abuse from anyone!