I feel so lonely, I have no friends... How can I make life better?

Question

I seem to be stuck in a really big rut right now.. Im only 18 but I am so bored and sick of everything! I have been done highschool for a year, and was supposed to go away to college this september but cancelled because I chose the wrong course. I just recently quit my job of three years because people there started being really mean to me, and I dont know why. Somewhere along the lines my friends decided they don't care about me anymore, because it's always me making plans with them.. They say yes, but EVERY freaking time they flake out on me which makes me feel even worse than if they said no right off the bat.

I feel so lonely and it doesn't help that I have basically nothing to do to fill my time. I cry alot. I'm also responsible for ruining the only relationship I do have, with my boyfriend.. Because I seem so depressed all the time. He thinks it's his fault, even though I tell him it really isn't... He won't believe me.

I just feel so alone right now..... How can I be more optimistic?....

Answer 1

im the same way..

cept im only 15, all the girls at my school hate me out of jealousy.. ive been putting up with it for a year, boys just want to use me, my best friend is ditching me for a guy, she never talks to me anymore.. this whole summer ive been in the house, i cry.. myself to sleep. i dont know why i deserve this, i didnt do anything wrong to these people.. but anyways.. i hope everything gets better for you. i pray for the both of us.

Answer 2

Well my older sister had the same problem a few years ago.She finished high school and was accepted to college but she made a huge mistake (it's kinda private).She was accepted to college but they changed their minds and refused her.She didn't go to college, but she got over it.She made the right choices afterwards and forgot about the pasts.Let me just tell you this.She did not give up on anything.She just kept looking towards the future and guess what.She works as an editor in Disney Channel and married a wonderful gentlemen.

Well what i'm trying to say is that you shouldn't feel down about yourself.Look at the good things about you.Such as what are you really good at? you might get a great goal in that.My sister wanted to be an actress and look at her now she is working in disney channel.

And from all that you will definitely get good friends.Just remember this always look around you and never give up on anything.

Answer 3

Well I could tell you all the little bits and details of my life, but I won't, not to sound rude, but I just know that you have a different feeling from mine I am sure. So I will tell you this, I have experienced some of what you are going through, the general loneliness feeling and the depression and the people that I can't seem to trust or like. I felt that I have ruined relashionships with people around me, and I have felt like I have no purpose on earth but to stare at the blank walls and let my eyes water until no end. Honey, I think what you need to do is just take ten really deep breaths, it may sound silly but just try it. Get all of those bottled up feels and thoughts out of you right now. There are people that won't like you or they may just not get along with you, but remember that you are you and you cannot change that whatsoever. Try to take up a hobby or activity and just get your mind off of the past relashionships and feelings and try to take on some new ones. If you have a ride, just put the windows down and take a drive down a country back road, put on the most soothing music you can find and take in every sight and smell.

I still have that feeling of loneliness from time to time, but I think it's okay to cry if you feel sad or stressed or lonely, because remember that you are human, and it's okay to have and express your feelings that way. I can't tell you that everything will be perfect and everything will be alright, because I can't predict the future, but I can tell you that you will feel a little better if you try and look at the positive things of life too. Go to a cafe and smell all the fresh coffee bean smell, or just hang upside down from your sofa or bed, and take in life from a different perspective. Be thankful for all the things you do have, and be thankful for one beautiful thing that is a gift in itself.........life.

I wish you the best of luck hon, and good wishes for your life.  

Answer 4

you should consider talking about this with your doctor. sounds like a chemical imbalance that isn't your fault. good luck. try not to be too hard on yourself.

Answer 5

Forget them, life is to short to try and please friends that don't respect you anymore, instead make new friends and enjoy life...i was shy in high school and didn't have many friends, but i eventually realizied that life is to short to be shy and not outgoing..If i were you i would get a new job and make friends that way...and don't let people walk over you or push you around..."don't be a sidekick or anything...you would be better off without any friends then being a sidekick"..lol goodluck

Answer 6

Im in A Similar situation

Im 18 dropped out of high school and looking for a job

i got 1 and got fired almost instantly

i feel like all my friends just left me and i feel like im not succeding like every1 else is at mi age its a hard position to be in but all we can do is

keep our hopes up and try to make the situation better find ways to keep busy and look for a new job=]

Hope everything gets better for you

Answer 7

i feel alone once in a while too, but its nothing serious and im mostly a veyr happy person. however i felt the same way you did in the senior year in high school. what i learned is that is perfectly okay to feel depress and cry a lot. but what you need to do to pull yourself out of the situation is that you have to solve whatever problem you have. for ex if you dont have a job, how about find a job? if your college plan cancelled, apply again this year? just try to solve every problem you have. it might take time, but solving my own problems makes me feel like im in control and after problems are solved you will feel better. heck, you will feel better just by solving them and improving your own life.

one last thing, dont worry about you wont have friends. most middle aged, older people have VERY few friends anymore. dont compare your life to those who hang out and go out with friends everyday. just be happy being who you are.

Answer 8

i know it sucks to be in this position, and no matter what people say about how you are not alone.. you're still going to feel crappy.. but there are many people out there in the same position as you... so, even though it doesn't help, it should..

like me, im in the same position as you... except i have no boyfriend.. well i did, but he dumped me half a year ago, and i still adore him so much, even though he said he doesnt want to be friends with me. i was in the lowest point in my life...  but anyways back to you....

to answer your question.. this is what I THINK you should do...

you should make your relationship with your boyfriend better.. thats very important!

and then, these are the things that helped me.... listen to a bunch of emo songs (to know everyone goes through tough times), answer other peoples questions on yahoo answer (for the same reason), and this is weird... but yoga... its silly, but i dont know why, i just loved yoga and took my mind of the negative aspects of my life....

:)