I feel so wrong...am I?

Question

I recently filed for divorce. My husband treated me very bad throughout our marriage and I cannot even remember the last time we went on a date. (sad) Anyway, there is this guy who seems really interesting to me, we have had a few conversations and I think he would be fun to hang out with. Problem is he is a co-worker. I feel so weird to even feel interested in someone so soon. What do you think?

Answer 1

Get the divorce sorted first - this just might complicate it. Don't get involved with co-workers - it gets too messy when you split.

Answer 2

Wrong?  No.  Perhaps it's too soon for you to be dating, but as long as you've already filed the paperwork to end your marriage, then it isn't "wrong" for you to date.

Answer 3

First, finish your divorce. You are still married. You also need to find out if co-workers are even allowed to date. Some companies don't want that because of all the drama that comes with it.

Answer 4

Not only should you finish your divorce, you should spend some alone time before jumping back into the dating scene.... at least one month for every year you were married.

You feel wrong because you know you are wrong.

Answer 5

Sweetie, it takes time to heal from a divorce, you need to finish the unfinished first before you get to another one because you will be making a similar mistake, 1st lesson learned should not be done again.  Deal with your divorce first and take time before you quickly jump to another relationship.  Learn people first so you never have 2 or 3 more divorces i think it would not be decent enough. So yes you are wrong, make it right otherwise your guilty consious will not leave you alone will haunt you till you make it right

Answer 6

You need to get yourself together first.  Learn from the mistakes made in your marriage, and don't repeat them in another relationship.  Set yourself some boundaries, and don't let anyone ever cross them.  Give yourself some time before you start another relationship....

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with having friends in your life, while you are going through this divorce. NOw if,. later on that friendship turns into something  more serious, good for you.

Answer 8

I have t agree w RedRabbit. Sort out your divorce first. I was in a similar situation where I was separated for 3 years, and I fell deeply for a co-worker. It was good. But things got alil messy and the girl really hurt badly. My divorce will be final in a few months and sadly the gal I wanted so much is also gone cos of the fear, hurt and mess. Keep the lines open, but be honest about wanting to sort out the divorce first. Tats being   fair to him and to you as well. :) all d best.

Answer 9

Give it some time. Get the divorce over with first. Then see how things go.