I feel terrible...?

Question

Okay so today I got mad at my 12 year old brother for bugging me (hes a bad kid. the type who doesnt listen to parents and bad mouthes htem) so then i hurt him a bit cuz I was mad by grabbing the back of his back and pushing him to the ground...

I feel terrible and I apologized but I feel like a bad person... what if I do this to my future chlidren? I dont wanna be like that...

Btw, I'm thirteen... I feel horrible... And I think I hurt his wrists too by grabbing them and keeping them together.... I feel really bad... I mean I didnt mean to hurt him. He wasnt terribly hurt. It was like wrestleing kinda pain between two kids. But still. I think I hurt him.

Answer 1

You're 13. You got frustrated with your brothers attitude and you acted without really thinking it through. That's more likely to happen when you're a teen. As you grow older, you'll probably become more patient,  less impulsive, and you'll think things through more before acting.

Answer 2

All siblings fight physically at one point or another, I wouldn't worry about it too much. I would feel bad afterwords, but just be nice to him and try to not do it again. He'll be mad at you, which he has the right to be, but it will blow over.

Answer 3

I'm 12, almost 13. My little bro is 11. He just bugs me so much sometimes! I have punched him before, apologized and felt really bad. He's not one who bad mouths our parents, he is super babied. I do anything he doesn't like, he tells mom, I get in trouble and he says he hates me. This is even if I touch him. He'll do that if I yell at him. If you apologized and meant it, you and him should move on. Just don't do it again.

Answer 4

well that isint right but he should be listening to your parents maybe just yell next time dont get phisical

but i bet hes perfectly fine and maybe now he will learn to not mess with you lol:P

Answer 5

I think it shows a lot of maturity and insight in a person of your young age (13) to even give a second thought about  what you did to your brother and even more so to have regret about it! The fact that you have remorse and are concerned says a lot about you as a person and probably says a lot about what kind of a parent you will be as well. You said your self that he isn't the "nicest child around" and I imagine that at your age (puberty) that you have very little patience due to extreme fluctuations in your hormones. In my opinion, I doubt that 1 or even 2 episodes of this type situation would be a sign that you will be a potential"child abuser" in your future! Are you under a lot of pressure right now (maybe having to babysit your brother or be responsible for him) with no adult supervision? That is a lot of responsibility for someone your age if it happens frequently or for long periods at a time. If that is the case, you probably just need a "break" from him! You still need to let your parents know what happened so that they can check your brother for any injuries (just to be on the safe side) and the next time he gets on "your last nerve" try to get out of the same room with him and maybe take a walk or listen to some of your fav. music or even try calling a friend to help you try to "chill" so you won't have any regrets or things won't esculate or get out of hand!

P.S. you sound like a very mature and caring young lady! So don't worry so much...You are NOT a "bad person" !