I feel that I do not deserve anything good in this world. Please help me out

Question

I am 26. I have MSc, A very nice husband and a baby. I have everything that life can afford. But the problem is that I feel that I am such a rubbish person that I do not deserve any of this. This is due to a very harsh environment (harsh words in daily manner for the first 10 years) during my childhood that destroyed my whole self esteem. But today I am here and I just want to forget about it and enjoy my life. I could not get out of this feeling. Please tell me some verses from the bible or any meaningful advice from your experience how I can think that I deserve best in life. Please help me

Answer 1

There is a passage in Psalm(37:9 OR 39:7, I can't remember off the top of my head)

"And now, O God, what do I wait for? My hope is in you."

I find it comforting. I'd suggest maybe going to a therapist to help you process your childhood in a healthy way. Try to find a cognitive behavioral therapist. These folks operate on the theory that negative and unproductive thinking lead to negative feelings and actions. They will help you recognize negative thoughts and teach you how to circumvent them before they get out of control leading to stress and depression. Good Luck!

Answer 2

Read Doctor Laura's book, Bad childhood, Good life

www.drlaura.com

It's hard when you have a bad childhood.   I look at it this way, Look where I was and look where I am now.   I can not believe it.

I am in a whole different world with a whole different life.   I am very proud of myself to see where I have come from and where I am now.  It really is a miracle.   That is from personal experience.   There are many people like that, like Oprah.

Answer 3

Intelligence is the challenge; use your brains and let them work! Inform yourself about much, challenge ideas and understand what is going on. Realise that your health is a topic you have to think and work on today and not when you actually see the first signs of decay. Go back to the basics, water and sun.

About the Bible: Adam and Eve were the only ones who lived in Paradise, So I do not understand why people are imitating events which happend after.

Answer 4

I know exactly how you feel because, on a very deep level, I feel the same way too.

when we are young our developing minds act like spounges soaking up information from our parents and from those around us. All of us are born with no beliefs atall. If you ask yourself 'what do I believe?' you will quickly discover that most of your beliefs are not yours atall, they have been pre programmed into you from an early age by those around you. The problem is that this belief is so deep rooted in your sub concious mind that even having a lovely family, money and a masters degree are not enough to prove to you that you deserve EVERYTHING good that this universe has to offer.

So the answer to overcoming this feeling forever is to change your beliefs and luckily its not as hard as it may sound. in fact, its gonna be ten times easier for you because you have already acknowledged in your question that you know where your 'im not worthy' belief stems from. I have found that one way of doing this is to get a pack of index cards from a stationary shop. Write on the card ' I AM A GOOD PERSON. I DESERVE AND GRATEFULLY ACCEPT ALL THE GOOD THAT THE UNIVERSE GIVES ME. if you want you can change the word universe for god or whatever you feel comfortable with. Carry the little card with you wherever you go and keep referring back to it, read it out loud, maybe standing in front of a mirror. In time you will find that your sub concious mind accepts this new belief and it will be come as deeply ingrained in your mind as your current destructive belief is.

I hope that helps and good luck.

Remember, you were given the gift of life, you are special. anything you get while you are here is nothing compared to that :)

Danny

Answer 5

so, I don't know what msc is, but i can tell you just from knowing what i know as a fellow human being that you are NOT a rubbish person (cute expression, btw)

i've had similar feelings about being a bad person, but calling myself names really never helps. think about someone you really love and value and think is a good person. think about your baby. would you ever tell your baby the things you say about yourself in your own head? we tend to be our own worst critics but sometimes we take it to another, less healthy level. basically, if you wouldn't say it to someone you love, don't say it to yourself. if you hear yourself saying something mean, (i.e. "i'm lazy" ) tell that voice that you are not going to listen to it until it's nice.

and it also will help if you define a rubbish person. for me, a bad person is someone who tries to hurt other people or doesn't care when they do. i know that i don't ever try to hurt anyone and i know that i try to make people happy, so according to my personal definition, i'm not a bad person.

idk. just a suggestion. good luck, there's too much joy in life to let your first 10 years decide how much love you feel the rest of your life. you owe it to yourself and your baby and husband to be your own biggest fan. it's a long road, but i think you can do it.

Answer 6

The deeps wounds heal slow and i should know.

Your wounds will heal in time.I am 25 and i too have a wound from the past that has not healed yet.I have a very high self esteem but the fear still haunts me sometimes.

I have no medicine to heal deep wounds on your self esteem and there is no medicine known or unknown that can.

Time heals all wounds.

If all else fails you can always pray for happiness.

Answer 7

I know exactly how you feel. I am fourteen years old and I too feels as if I am not good enough for anything in the world. I recently went to summer camp. (Leadership Empowerment Camp. Haha. I know I'm a nerd.) This man was speaking for us. This is what he said. "Never ever ever until the end of time will there be another you. You are unique. One of a kind. And that makes you priceless. You are worth infinity." This meant a lot of to me. It helped me realize that I am worth all the good things that happen to me. And you are too. The past is the past. The time is now and you have a great life! Learn to enjoy it while you can because life dosen't last forever you know? If you start to enjoy life now, you will always be remember as the beautiful happy one. The one who never let anything get her down.

I would suggest seeing a counselor or therapist. They will certainly be able to and would love to help you. And you do deserve the help. Everyone deserves to be happy! I will pray for you and for your family. :) Best wishes.

Answer 8

i feel the same way. im 30 havent done s--t with my life. no self asteam. i just started working my first job in over three years due to anxiety. i cant think straight hold anything in. i feel like im going to live as a person who makes a living working  low paying jobs becasue of my lack of concentration. imgetting back on my feet but i want so much more and dont have teh pataince to be happy instead feeling miserable about my progress. you haev alot more that is more important than material things. you have family and a husband who loves you. im te same way. we have to cherrish the most important things i n life other than material things. family, faith, a nd friends. you and i  deserve to be happy its justa matter of time before we see the reward at the end of the tunnel soon

Answer 9

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I can relate to your background and it does impact your life.  The good news is YOU can do something about that. This is a daily reading just about you !  Get it my dear.  I highly recommend it for you !  You can change your belief pattern !   God has a plan that only you can fulfill !

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