I feel that i don't develop socially ?

Question

I'm quite intelligent but i feel that I haven't developed socially over the last few years, i have serious problems talking to people i don't know and usually escape from it as fast as i can. Girls don't intimidate me, it's just that i can't construct a decent conversation with them and usually end up making an idiot of myself. I feel very uncomfortable being around people i don't know and usually want to get out to be on my own.

Answer 1

I recently had a bad work experience in a company where things didn't work out.  I am not as easy going at the moment as I know I really am.  Circumstances in life (i.e. job loss) can really demoralise you, but it's important that you do everything in your power to turn things around.

It's understandable to be shy when talking to new people as some people seem like potential good friends only to let you down when you need them on your side.  I think the trick is assertiveness, and not to be too open with people.

I hope this helps.

Answer 2

Not wanting to be around people is not a lack of social development it is a form of neurosis that can be overcome (if you are genuinely desirous of doing so).

Answer 3

talk to a trusted friend or family member about it. ask for some suggestions of how you might be able to overcome this - that would work with your personality. it's ok if you dont fit in like everyone else. but most people do enjoy the company of others. i had issues with new people when i was in my mid to late teens. i didnt like to be in groups or talk to new people at all. sometimes i had trouble even talking to my regular friends. but it passed.

maybe you have a bit of social anxiety disorder. you could talk to your doctor or a therapist.  

Answer 4

I think you need to learn more about who you are. Define your goals and personality. Examine things you like and don't like and paint a picture of yourself, for yourself so you know who you are. When you know who you are, others will feel you and connections will happen. It starts within..

Answer 5

Do not worry about it!  I suppose you can be quite nervous as a youngster going out into the big wide world.  The truth is that most people are not concerned about what you are thinking of saying.  Just be yourself and remeber you cannot please everyone.

Answer 6

you don't

Answer 7

You don't say how old you are, but I think you might be in your teens. If, so, then don't worry as this is all part of puberty.

I would suggest you get involved in some outdoor activity. It is much easier to social when you are actually engaged in something else.

Everyone needs time to themselves, so don't feel you are odd by wanting to be by yourself. But it is good for the soul to socialise a little. Meeting different people makes for an interesting outlook on life.

Good luck.

xx