I feel ultra-sensitive, paranoid, guilty, worried. Please Help!!!?

Question

Hi All,

I'd really appreciate if someone could please help me and provide me with some advice. I am ultra-sensitive to anything that anybody says to me at the moment. Even if someone says something to me in a joking manner then I still take it very personally and get upset - I will also worry about it for ages after it has happened and re-play it in my mind over and over again to try and work out why they said it and what they meant about it. I think that I may also be suffering from paranoia as I seem to be very paranoid about what other people say to me and say about me. I often think that people are looking at me in a negative way - even if I am just walking down a street and I walk past somebody and they look at me - I become paranoid that they are staring at me for some reason and that there is something wrong with me. I also feel that people are always talking about me behind my back and conspiring against me, I was friends with this person but then I found a message which they had sent about me behind my back which was generally criticising me and running me down. Since then, I have worried that people have been doing that all the time. There was also this one person at work who was really horrible to me all the time, picking on me, bullying me and trying to get me in trouble. I never stood up to them and just let it go because I hate to get into confrontational arguments. I am now constantly feeling guilty and re-playing it in my mind that I should have said something to them and should have stood up for myself. This other person who was horrible to me has now sent me a few messages asking if I'm ok but I think that she is only doing it because she feels guilty that she has been nasty to me. If she feels guilty now then why did she do it in the first place? Also, I have forgiven her before for doing this yet she just continued to be like this. As a result, I haven't replied to her messages and now feel really guilty for not replying to her - even though I haven't done anything wrong. I keep thinking that if I do forgive her then she'll just continue to do it. I am also really paranoid that people are listening into my conversations and copying what I say or do. I'm also paranoid that this one person is trying to copy me and listening in on what I'm doing and then trying to copy what I'm doing - I'm sure that they're not doing that at all but I still can't stop feeling like this for some reason, I also seem to worry about what they're doing all the time as a result.

Sorry for the essay! But could somebody please try and help with some advice as I can't sleep or concentrate on anything at the moment and would really appreciate some help on how to stop being so sensitive, paranoid, guilty and worrying about things.

Many Thanks

Peace! :)

Answer 1

You may find it really helpful to have some counselling.  Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. The therapist would be able to explore your thoughts and feelings with you and look at the reality of what is going on.  Surround yourself with positive people.  Try some relaxation exercises or meditation.  Exercise can also give you the feel good factor. Best of luck.

Answer 2

you simply have way too much invested in what other people think.  If you have your own good self opinion, what other people think doesn't amount to a hill of beans.  Suggest you would do well to see a cognitive behavioral therapist and get some of your own self image issues worked out.

Answer 3

First off, do not forgive this co-worker again, being you did once already, and she only did it to you again. it is like a game to her

and you are better off just ignoring her completely. She is just

not even worth it. Forget her, and who cares what she is playing,

cause in the end she is the loser.And, Do NOT feel bad about it!



Now, I want to say, just ignore the ones you feel are talking and

copying you behind your back, but that is a hard thing to do,

especially if you work with them. What you may try doing is,

laugh......with them, at them, whichever....but, make it into a

big joke for yourself....and stop being so hard on yourself!

If you feel that people are listening to your conversations then

only say what is needed in as few words as possible, and just

do your work, and keep thinking to yourself if everyone is trying

to listen, then what you have to say is important enough for

them to want to hear it! Right? At least, you are not ignored!

Try to establish a little more confidence in yourself, and know

that confidence shows in the way you carry yourself. Also

tell yourself that if you do not have enough confidence in

yourself, you can not expect anybody else to have any.

And convince yourself that you are worth your weight in gold,

or at least worth enough to hold your head up high, and try not

to be so serious, by developing a easier and not so wound up

position or attitude, because lets face it, Life is Hard enough,

without us making it twice as hard on ourselves! You can do it!

and, if needed, e mail me or talk to somebody,and get it off

your chest and out in the open, cause that always helps

release alot of pent up feelings and guilt, and thats your first step!

You can do it, and a friend can help! I can help, and do my best!

Good Luck and I hope this helps! even if just a little!

Remember, you can always e mail me! and, 'relax' is the key!

  

Answer 4

the problem isn't that sum1 looks at u judgingly, the problem is that you judge yourself.  

Answer 5

It's as easy as pie for someone to say ignore it, it's another issue to understand it for yourself. You need someone you trust to talk to. Allot of it may go away as you get older, but for now you sound like you are really disturbed by your thinking. Talking it out is so important.

Answer 6

Did you forget to take your medication this morning?