I feel unloved and cant stand living can anyone help?

Question

I feel so horrible. I am an 18 year old girl. I fail at every kind of friendship or relationship there is! the only year i really made friends is in 6th grade but then the girls started acting bad to be "cool" and started leaving me out. im always rejected. at work its so cliquey, i hate it. the managers are mostly 20 something cocky guys who are way nicer and converse with the prettier girls. and ignore me. i feel so left out. i just graduated high school, and i went to like 8 diff schools. it was tough. i never felt like i fit in. im shy, ive gotten less shy since i got a job but now people at work are starting to be ruder. i feel so empty. my mom doesnt understand at all. shes so snappy because my brother is acting up and shes always on the computer or at work. we are trying to find a diff church so we're in between. i need friends so bad. i feel no one cares for me. my self esteem is so low. im stressed out and i broke out and one coworker was like "ooo looks like you got the teenage bumps" and i was having a c**p day like i needed to hear that. on top of this i have to wait a year to go to community college because my mom and me cannot afford a car yet she is a single mom with no child support and last year i had to USE ALL MY MOney from work to give to gas/bills/rent/food because unemployment wasnt enough. i want friends so bad. i cant make any, im shy. please help! i hate living. im never happy i wish i could wakeup in heaven! most of my life i have has such crappy circumstances and rejected so many times i feel like giving up!

Answer 1

Don't hate living. You're here for a reason, so what if you haven't found it yet? All that means is that you just gotta keep going.

Chumbawamba's words of wisdom speak so true: "I get knocked down, but I get up again."

About finding friends, maybe you should do some self-evaluation. Often times when we think, "why does this always happen to me?" we aren't asking the right question. The right question is, "What can I change about myself to fix this?". When you're thinking along those lines, the solution is much clearer!

People are attracted to fun-loving, positive, smiling people with open body language. Are you all of those things? If not, that may be one of the things you have to work on. Maybe you could find another job, where the people are cooler, and you'd have more social contact with customers. Maybe you could start going to clubs (lots are ladies free before 10, so money's not an issue) and meeting people. Maybe you could apply for scholarships online to help pay for college.

You do have a hard-knock-life, girl! But you gotta look at the bright side. Look how many learning opportunities are being presented for you! When you start community college, it'll be a fresh start. Nobody knows your past, so become a new fresh you. Introduce yourself to everyone you sit next to in class, don't expect others to make the first move. Smile and be friendly, and I'm sure you'll have friends in no time :)

Answer 2

calm down girly, its ok. do you have a camera? when im feeling really down i take a bunch of different pictures (my hobby) and post them on deviantart.com. its a major morale booster.

everyone feels like this at some point or another. Dont try so hard to make or keep friends, someone out there will like your personality. Just relax a little bit and open yourself up. Talk to your co-workers about pointless things, if they see ou relaxed and open, they'll be the same towards you. Ask your co-workers how to treat your breakout or something. Just take everything one step at a time. make some friends online (that said dont tell them everything about yourself, online predators and all that), just some ppl who you can talk too. Deviantart.com, myspace.com, etc are good places for those kinds of things. find ppl with common interests to talk too.

things will turn out ok.  

Answer 3

You have to shine, Put your head up high. Because you are feeling low you look low and don't have that special spark in your eyes. Maybe people feel ignore you because you ignore them? Because of your low self esteem. Im sure your pretty you just need to smile more. Because you are amazing :) Come on your you noone else! Just shove of snidy comments they must be pretty low too. Just be brave ! Good luck xx

Answer 4

Hey, don't do anything rash, you sound like a great girl. I'm 16 Male, but that story sounds allot like my life, i hate it to and i hate all the pain, low self esteem and suicidal thoughts that come with it. Feel free to email me anytime about anything, ill reply asap. Don't give up, one day you'll find someone who isn't a complete *** and things will get better, just hold on

Answer 5

fwiw you seem like a fighter. that's a good thing. you did graduate high school. you did help your mom with the bills. you do have a job and aspirations for better things with community college. maybe try carpooling or arrange something with someone because i think you'd get a lot out of college.

hang in there. you sound like a tough girl and i'm very impressed. keep standing up for yourself. dont let your mom or brother's problems take you off the focus of what you need to do for yourself. you'll make friends, dont worry about it. just take care of your yourself.  

Answer 6

Awwww.... I'm so sorry you feel this way sweetie.  You sound like an awesome person... and very caring.  Are there some groups around your area that you can join?  Any volunteer work that you could do?  You just need to put yourself out there and get noticed to get friends... What about on line chats and friendship clubs??  I know you feel very alone and very low...but it's kinda up to you to do a little homework to see what's out there for you.... making friends is very easy, but yes.. it can be difficult sometimes.  Don't give up on anything... you have way too much to offer...don't every give up ok??  Keep going... keeping pushing... be determined and you will get what you want from life.