I feel very unhappy with my life.

Question

I don't want to commit suicide but I do feel trapped by a job I can't stand and a lack of ambition. The only thing I want is happiness but I can't see a way forward. I'm very intelligent - approximate IQ 140 - but I really lack any meaningful ambition. I'd be quite happy to win the lottery and never work again. But the fact is that a mega lottery win is a fluke. It may happen but the chances are that it won't. I need to earn at least £20K just to survive but I need a way to escape my current job. I have various disabilities that don't make job hunting easy. I don't know how to progress in the pursuit of happiness.

(My disabilities include partial deafness, Asperger's and developmental prosopagnosia, known as "face blindness".)

Answer 1

Ok. Working stinks a lot and I know too. You have to try and hold on there friend. Happiness will come to you. It truly will but being patient is critical. Tried to stay positive things will get better.

Answer 2

You dont realize how fortunate you are matey.Your I want attitude is despicable.I strongly suggest that you use your high intelligence to look around a bit more,and see how [bright] the future is for the rest of the worlds population.Dont be shocked when you discover that millions of people would give their right arms to be in your [miserable existence]Get real bruv.

Answer 3

life can deal you all sorts of hands,you are gifted with intelligence and from the sound of it you are quite mature but have the downside of your disabilities..the thing is, when your looking for a job instead of pointing your ,so to put it,"faults" out, make sure that you point out wahat makes you shine. always remember yor good points or you will always be prone to unhappiness. chin up an soar

Answer 4

  i know exactly what  you mean, in more  ways than one,

you, sound  as though you feel guilty for  something you have not

even done, am i right,  well let me ,tell you now,

you , are a  very good person, and i know how you feel at the moment,

alot  of  people  out  there  are  igorant, to other peoples  problems,

but, let  me  tell you this.

you , have got  the stamina, guts , bottle  to do what   alot  of  

people  out  there  , could  never  face or do ,

being disabled, is  just  a label , remember that.

you,  are no different from anybody else in this big  wide world,

we  may  feel  like  it from time to time,

  we  are  winners  not  loosers,

  hold your  head up, and let them all get on with what ever they

want to do .

live  your  life the way  "you"  want  too.

  not  what they tell you ,

    ok!

    

     you ,are  your  "own"  person"

    enjoy  life  to the full , the best you , and i can .

    

      



  

  

Answer 5

May be try counselling, hypnotherapy or anti-depressants?

You could also find a new hobby or do an evening course in something you are interested in. Look on the internet,job center for new jobs and apply to agencies( look in the yellow pages.)

Look on the internet for tips to help you with your disabilties , and maybe join a support group, online or otherwise.

Or you could join a local social club , or assertiveness/ confidence building class? Good luck and don't be despondent, lot's of people hate their jobs.

Answer 6

You cant just sit and wait for happiness to come along. you have to get up and make your own happiness. maybe you feel trapped in job you dont want, so you must get around and search for one that seems more your thing. maybe you dont know exactly what you want to do but not many people do. you must search for what you do want, and in your interveiws let your intelligence shine through!

i also think you would benefit getting out also and meeting people. find something you enjoy. only you, can make your self happy.

good luck and best wishes x

Answer 7

ok i know but a lot of people hate work. why dont you find a new job then quite ur old one? it may be better ! im sorry but try to do something to make you happy ! like tv, movies, sleeping? eatting cake?

dont worry and be happy theres no reaon you need to be unhappy. thats not good. i am sure you are a great person inside and out so feel good about yourself and dont worry. i hope i helped you :]

Answer 8

hi there are a lot of people out there with a lot more disabilities than you,

but you should go to job centre and see what is on offer for you as the government are getting lots more disabled people back to work.

    sounds like your job is making you very down you need to get positive thoughts and go for it,

good luck.

Answer 9

Charles, I wish to offer you some words of encouragement.

Where to start when every-ones experience is unique?

I too have faced a similar position for different health reasons.

Self-harm is just a passive expression of anger and you need to channel that in a more positive way!

Now, the brutal honest truth. You will have to cut loose from the job that is causing you so much distress. Have the guts to do it! Either find another job or just hand in your resignation - what are you afraid of? If something makes you feel so bad you contemplate hurting yourself just to have a viable reason not be there then the time has come to get real!

What is the worse that can happen?  You have to start all over again? Isn't that preferable to having the desire to end your life?

Trust someone who had the guts to do it and hang the consequence - I am still here, living, breathing and yes it wasn't without consequence but I have survived and am much happier because I had faith in myself.

Hang the job - get out there and live!

Answer 10

Everyone hates work, I do but work I just to get money then go home! If you really don’t like you’re job then I strongly suggest getting a new one more suited for you’re needs.

Answer 11

Your lack of ambition could be because you hate your job.  The disabilities you list only affect jobs where you are dealing with people and there are many other types of jobs - some office jobs, mechanical jobs, electronic jobs, for example.

I realise it's a cliche, but look at your abilities rather than your disabilities, as that's the only way to find a new job.  Certainly at an interview, you will be emphasising what you can do, rather than what you can't do. Once you're happier at work, you might find you have more enthusiasm to follow your interests in your spare time.

Answer 12

Think possitive, not negative

Thousends of people all over the world have no food or water to drink

Loads of people are looking for jobs but cant find them

Some people are to badly disbabled to work

Worst things have happened to many people, think possitive , about the good things, one day youll find a job for you and make more friends

good luck in life x

Answer 13

u sound like me i had to leave work cause they were gonna fire for taking time off due to mostllt metal illness and takin care of my mom with cancer. I may have asperberges def ptsd from when my careerr was destroyed by a "woman" ( troll suits it better ) who fires people for sport My Iq is also 140 and my ambition is too win the lottery to make up for the crimes commited against me by that b1thc and various other minions who are wasting the oxygen intedended for us decemt people