I feel very upset when my husband come house late or being with their family always?

Question

I had a intercaste love marriage. I dn't know what will happen me, when my husband come house very late like 1.30 2.00 in night it disturbed me and sleep. I also working and sending my only child to daycare and doing all work in house also, but he won't help me. I has to do my childs study things every thing. But for any reason or for a small reason he take very care about their sisters and all. Frequently he is having their problems. But when we need they won;t bother. So i feel very upset and always without liking also my heart and body will be burning and i wont take food and sleep. I am a low BP person. And moreover i dn;t have any person from their family to tell about my problem. PLZ suggest. Thank u

Answer 1

Maybe your husband is also having a hard time understanding you as much as I did. I'm being mean :(

I guess you have to sit down and talk to him about him being too early to come home for the following day.

You need to b firm with him that he needs to set his priorities straight and that you get tired too of doing everything now. Since you came from inercaste marriage, I would assume you are from the lower caste that's why he is doing this?

Learn to stand up for yourself and for your child missy. Martyrdom is no longer rewarded these days.

Answer 2

i think u should talk 2 ur husband about ur problem. don't be upset . god will help u in this. i have also the same problem but i had arrange marriage. my husband don't care about me.if i cry then he say ki u r just acting and he say ki don't saw this 2 my ma i can't see tears in her eyes...aur bolte hai ki tum apna acting band kar.. hum to kisi se bol bhi nahi sakte lekin unki ma papa bahut aache hai.....wo bhi aache hai lekin kabhi kabhi ho jaata hai

Answer 3

I understand your problem, u feel little burn in your body that is because you have blood pressure problem and when ever you get upset or anger it happens and show you the result in your body..

Your husband is actually a good person, even if you dont believe the thing is you need to change your way of thinking.

The main cause of this problem comes from your "Thinking" you probably need to stop thinking about something that always even right now you are doing. usually this kind of problems occures due to over thinking about something unneccessarily. and that will make you unhappy all the day.

If some how you stop thinking about that and find something that make you happy and keep happy, automatically it will be resolved.

"If you are happy any one will like to be with you, but if you are not happy even you are in problem, any one will not feel comfortable with you"

DONT FORGET! All this things will affect to your child easily and he/she will face the same trouble as you if you dont change your mind I was facing the same problem due to my parents and hardly i could change in myself.

Answer 4

when i was young I read somewhere that a man who loves & respects his mother & sister is a good husband material & in future he will love & respect his wife too. u should not get upset if ur husband helps ur in-laws b'coz that's his responsibility. if u will fight over it with ur husband he will start hiding things from u, but certainly will not stop.why don't u join ur husband & help him in sorting out things, he will luv u all the more for this. regarding ur household chores u can  hire a maid if u find it difficult to manage& regarding kids, come on kids at younger age needs mother more than father. don't spoil ur health for the issue which is so trival. create a happy atmosphere at home , ur husband will not like to miss even a minute of it. There r few things in life which we can't control. married life comes with whole lot of responsibilites, try to adjust.

Answer 5

cool yar....now the socity is like this.....ok very fast do u like u husband sitting home without going to job nad having daily fun with u ...think..he is working for u...and for ur famil..take a time and TALK TO HER..OK..COOL....IT IS U LIFE U HAVE TO DECIDE THINK TWICE.....OK ALL THE BEST TO U LIFE........

Answer 6

Well u may be having a negative mindset about ur hubby. If he is coming that late every might, he might be doing some overtime in office to get some extra bit of comforts for ur family. U should ask him for the late comings before making a premindset. As far as ur in-laws or his family is concerned, u should also care about them. I think by doing so and showing (not only showing but having) ur concerns for them u would really create a decent image of urs in ur hubby's heart. he would love u more for that.

Be creative, help ur hubby, help ur in laws and try n create a healthy atmosphere at home. Dat would really cool him and he will luv u for that.  

Answer 7

i can understand ur problem.he is father .he must care about his children.first u meet his family and tell u about it .this is very important .because u had intercast marriage. dont worry .take care ur health .u have children also.

Answer 8

if he was helping your brother and sister as much as he is helping his would you be bothered if he comes late, if you were helping your brother and sister and arriving late and if he was upset and complaing how would you feel about his nature and personality....  

Answer 9

i really dont understand the question....

get a lawyer??? i really couldnt make head or tails of your situation

Answer 10

obvisously to him, family is very important. you have to tell him that HIS family is also very important......and how you think he should help out more with house jobs and also with your child.......tell him you want him home more and if he says no then its up to you what you do either leave or not :-) depending on how muhc it annoys you

Answer 11

try to make ur husband to have frequent s*x with u or make him satisfy..... this thing  will make him to care u a lot after all u r the one who can make him happy

Answer 12

d**n does anybody spell check before clicking the submit button.  

Answer 13

tell him to get his sorry *** home earlier , cause you need help . tell him you need s*x too , and he better not be lying about where hes been -  

Answer 14

i think u should talk 2 ur husband about ur problem. don't be upset . god will help u in this. i have also the same problem but i had arrange marriage. my husband don't care about me.if i cry then he say ki u r just acting and he say ki don't saw this 2 my ma i can't see tears in her eyes...aur bolte hai ki tum apna acting band kar.. hum to kisi se bol bhi nahi sakte lekin unki ma papa bahut aache hai.....wo bhi aache hai lekin kabhi kabhi ho jaata hai

Answer 15

Hi,First of all dont be UPSET. I think u should talk 2 ur hubby abt ur probs. U should thnk ur hubby was ready for this marriage without any force as u told its love marriage then yru thnking that ur husband dont love u or dont care abt u.Im also married in intercaste but my hubby is not like that.very helpful and caring too .Must be ur hubby is in problem regarding any family matter or anything else.U should understand his feelings and talk to him very quitely and in very easy manner.if ur husband loves u he will definitely listen  .You should not thnk that he is giving time to his family only obviously they are more important than u as mother father and others.U should go for dinner outside or take a holiday for a week to overcome from ur problems .It will definitely work .ALL THE BEST