I feel worthless. Help please.?

Question

I feel I am missing out on life.

I have a disability called OI. It caused me to break my bones easy when I was a kid.

Now that I am an adult, I am still troubled. My bones don't break anymore, since I'm done growing. But I am only 4'11. I have bowed legs and I limp really bad. I also feel like I am REALLY ugly. Girls have even said so.

I am incredibly shy and I don't have any confidence in myself. I have a really hard time making friends. Alot of people have been really cruel to me. They use me or mock me or walk all over me.

I'd really like to have a girlfriend, but all the above issues makes it hard. I never feel like I am good enough or have anything to offer. I mean, I'm so pathetic. I've never had a girlfriend, so I've never done anything. I've never traveled anywhere. My life has been a waste. And I feel I'll never get any better.

But I know I'm better than that. I'm smart enough to be in med school. I've never had trouble with the law. I have a good sense of humor. I'm always there for people. Why don't these things seem to matter?

I've talked to a therapist. But I just wanted to talk to other people. Is there any hope for someone like me to find someone? Do girls have the patience for someone like me? The kind heartedness and the willingness to give me a chance? Because if given a chance, I think I could shine.

Answer 1

I'm a girl! I'm 14 though.

I'm sorry. I have different disabilities, like ADHD, anxiety, and asperger's syndrome. I'm good-looking on the outside, but on the inside I feel awful. I'm shy like you too, I also have a hard time making friends, and kids are cruel to me.

I feel terrible for you! Life is so cruel to some ppl, yet it seems like it's so good to others. But first, this is extremely hard for me too, but just stop caring about what other ppl think.

And maybe you could try going to a place with other physically disabled people like yourself. Idk where, but try finding somewhere.

I know it seems like in life, the cruel ones are the ones who always get ahead. But I'm a girl and I do get attracted to jerks but seriously, I'd never want to be w/ one for the long haul. I really like you, you seem like a really nice person, I really like that about you. Good luck.

Answer 2

Awww oh my gosh you sound like such a sweetheart. There is DEFINATELY a chance of you being with someone. The girls that said you were ugly were shallow and shallow people are the ones who are ugly inside and out. They don't deserve a nice person like you anyway. It's their loss, not yours.

You've been through a lot and your life has been challenging, but you've made it through! You should be sooo proud of yourself. It's not easy. You have so much to offer. Don't listen to negative criticism and rude comments that people say. How you view yourself is what matters.

Don't worry. The right girl is out there. Just give it time :-)

Answer 3

Big Guy 23

You are focusing on the packaging not the quality of the product.To be able to give the gift of laughter even when it plays on you is a wonderful gift to have.You say that you have a good heart and humor let that be your intro to the world of the "Good Life" I feel that if you key on these positive things that make you, the world will look upon you with desire.Loyalty and willingness to care the load, is very special thing to have and to give be careful lots of people want it but do not know how to be respectful of it. All the Best to you inthe future.

Answer 4

You sir, need to stop being so hard on yourself!

I think you sound like a wonderful person. I would LOVE to meet a guy with a sense of humor! All the guys in my school are jerks and all they see in any girl is *** and b***s.

It's pretty sad. I think that you should sit in front of a mirror. Look at yoruself, really look at yourself. And pick out the things that you feel are physically attractive. Write them down. Then, write down the things you feel are not very physically attractive. If you think you are a bit overweight, then go on a jog and start lifting weights. If you got bad acne, then either see a dermatologist or get some ProActive. (I've heard that stuff works wonders)

But physical appearance only gets you so far.

Your sense of humor is something you should always keep. There are to many guys in this world that only care about s*x s*x s*x. They have no sense of humor whatsoever!

And not having a girlfriend is fine.

I'm 15 right now, I've only kissed one boy in my life. My friends are doing so much more then I have. One of my friends is having s*x already. She doesn't even think it's a big deal anymore! She JUST started dating this guy about 4 days ago. And they have already done it.

I'm sitting over here in the corner while they are like Why don't you have a boyfriend? Why don't you go and hook up with him over there? and I'm like okay I don't need a boyfriend to make me happy! I don't want to hook up with someone I don't know!

Then, they all go and get drunk. Which just makes everything worse. I stay home when they do that stuff. They think I'm prude, a party pooper and all this c**p. But hey, I just don't like to do it.

I think it's stupid and pointless.

Also, If you think you are missing out on life, take a trip to some fun place with one of your friends!

Join some club or whatever you like to do and meet some new people!

Go have fun!

don't let your life pass you by! you only life once!

Unless you believe in reincarnation.

but that's a different story.

So now that I am done rambling..

have a nice day!

:)

Answer 5

Don't mind the girls who don't go out with you. Mind the ones who are in your life and those to be in your life. By minding them, I mean pay attention to. What's the point in fussing over girls who you might not get? Those who you do get are the ones that matter. You want to know why? They fell for who your really are. They accept you for who you are, not for other reasons. You'll find someone out there someday, someone who's right for you. Good luck.

PS: Just because you can't get a girlfriend does not mean you do not have worth. Don't waste your time and thoughts on things that will just trouble you and has no point in being thought about. There is definitely hope. You could start by improving confidence and make your way up. You'll get there. Also, friends come naturally. Don't pretend to be something you're not because then those people you are "friends" with might be only friends with you only for the reasons you give them. If you show them that you are a different person than what's really inside, then that's who they're going to think you are. Let the boat take you. Whatever floats your boat. =D

Answer 6

Aww. Yes you will find somebody one day. Don't listen to what those girls tell you. Just ignore them. Don't always be so negative. You don't need a girlfriend to be happy. (:

Answer 7

You have your share of challenges, but believe me, people without disabilities have the same problem - how to find a person who love you for who you are.  

I think the answer is in the business and marketing field.  If you want people with good values and are not shallow, you won't find them where materialistic people hang out.  You probably have lots to offer and just have to be creative where to look.  I've been in clubs where it's all about the looks and the money - definitely not the place to find quality relationships.

Look for people who have things in common with you - common interests, for example.  It takes time, but there is someone for everyone, I believe.  Keep improving yourself and boost that self esteem, so you will be able to take chances and accept some rejection (all men get rejected!)

Answer 8

You aren't worthless and your name on Yahoo! Answers is Big Guy and you are 4'11.