I fell in love with my best friend?

Question

so i've liked my best friend for 7 months, found out he was bicurious, i opened up to him, took a chance, we started liking each other, started talking for 3 months, messed around with him twice, and last night i told him i loved him.

he told me he didn't feel the same way. i askd him whats goin on. he said that he doesn't think he wants to be in a relationship with a dude. (tila tequila rejection status). i found out he's been talkn to his ex gf again and they rekindled things but aren't together... i askd him why he didn't tell me the truth when i askd him if he likes me last week, and he said it's aint easy and that i should "chillll man".

since i moved an hour away from him, it's been so hard being able to see him so often. i think that's what hurt the chance of us being togehter. last time i saw him was 3 weeks ago and that was the last time we went on a date and later messed around..

so now i'm torn and don't know what to do. i really do love him, and i know i have to let him go, but WHERE DO I START since i still consider him my best friend? i want to keep it that way but i need to stop loving him the way i do...

Answer 1

you will foreget him and forgot him and you'll find true love may be see him again but i don't know how to explan my point of view in english soooo!!!!!!! try to understand me let him

Answer 2

I think you should go for it I mean do what you feel talk to them both so you would know who you really want, but kindly talk to the person that you don't want a relationship with anymore so you can be happy so.... go ahead do what you feel but choose the right  person that you feel what treats you better the ex or the best friend? good luck and I wish you the best bye!!!!!!!!!!!

xoxoxo

Answer 3

Time heals. I know it is hard but you need to try to forget about him.  

Answer 4

lonely Mr lonely i have nobody all but my ownnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn...

Answer 5

Do you still consider him your friend? It sounds to me like he is in an emotionally weird state right now and probably can't be bothered to make any kinds of commitments. He's probably scared of the possibility and...  well, probably was just thinking of himself when he was with you.

Honestly, I'd take a few days to cry about it, hang out with other friends for a while, then re-approach the idea of him being your best friend and no more hanky-panky.

Answer 6

Sometimes friends don't last forever. I'm sure he was a great guy friend and all but when you messed around you crossed the line. Move on. I know he was your friend, but just like in a relationship it's very hard to even remain acquaintances when you break up. There are plenty of people out there who need a best friend like you or maybe even a boyfriend. But watch out for rebound relationships. Don't go looking for love...let it find you. Be honest and put your availability and sexual preference out there so people know how to come across to you...so no one gets any mixed signals....hope everything works out for you.

Answer 7

I've been in your situation twice in my life, and I will say from experience that it's perhaps the hardest situation you'll ever encounter in your entire love life. However, you have to understand, if he only came out to you 7 months ago, chances are, he's probably still very uncomfortable about it.

I can't really speak for him, but you should at least not hold his feelings against him. You'll end up without a friend and with a broken heart if you push him away. My suggestion to you is to make sure he knows he's important to you, be his friend, be there for him, and love and make most of things the way they are.

I'm going to tell you from personal experience: there's no way to stop loving someone... True love is something you'll be burdened with for the rest of your life, and there's no way to remove it. The best thing to do, and this is what I suggest, is simply make the most of your feelings and your friendship --- even if it's not quite as much as you'd like for it to be, it's better than nothing.

Answer 8

tila tequila reference=brilliant lol.

i kinda had the same situation, i never got anywhere past just liking them

sry i cant help

unrequited love sux!

;[

Answer 9

u know he loves u right?

he doesn't love u as a bf-bf kinda love but he loves u as his best friend-best friend kinda love...

u will always have that.. and u should be greatful for that.. u should always keep being his friend... and if u guys mess around that would be on both ur own terms.. because u both accept it....

but u shouldn't ask him for a bf-bf kinda relationship because he will never be able 2 make u happy and u will always suffer... he doesn't even know what he wants... he is curious and is probably grateful that u were the first guy he ever messed around with... he will always be able 2 remember that.. and i think u should remember the good times, and always love what u guys have... don't obsess urself for what he can't give u... if he ever wants more than that... it'll be when he's ready.. don't try to make him want more than that, cuz u will end up losing him as a friend.

talk to him, and tell him u've fallen for him.. but that u would never want to lose his friendship and that u hope that he will always be able 2 count on u bcuz u will always be there for him... tell him u respect the fact that he doesn't want to have a relationship with a guy... but whenever he has a problem he can always count on u and u will always be there for him whenever he needs u...

try seeing other guys.. just date a few, odesn't have to be anything serious try to meet other people and see if u find soem1 who u really like and might be interested in a relationship... u will find some1 but give urself time and respect his wishes.. u will be better with some1 who is 100% sure he would like 2 have arelationship as oppose to some1 who may be happy with u, but may never want to be in a relationship... good luck!

Answer 10

Sorry, Dude, but love has to be a two-way street.  Until and unless your squeeze comes to terms with his orientation, you'd best look elsewhere for long-term happiness.

In any case, not all friends-with-benefits become lovers.  Making out with someone may feel good, but that doesn't mean they necessarily love each other.  It's always rough when relationships are mostly one-sided, or when the participants aren't actually getting the same things out of the relationship, but that's life.

You start by meeting others in the town you moved to, getting involved in activities where you'll meet others with the same interests as yours.  Be patient with yourself.  Broken hearts mend slowly.

Answer 11

i have the same problem, not that i went far like u did with ur best mate but im still in love with mine, and all i know is, is that i have to let her go and if she comes back then she was always mine and if she doesnt well then she never was and i dont wanna but i have no choice and it sounds like you dont either but the fact that you are best friends (like me and the one i love) then he'll know that you're there for him without you telling him,,he'll just know.

Answer 12

been there done that... story of my life bro... lol

distance is a huge factor thou not all the time ... and to be honest the more you dwell on him and the tila tequila rejection status which i found funny btw lol but back to my point...

if he is not it there is someone out there for you who is...

for me third time was the charm and man its a charm i wake up to every single day a year and two months and more to come!

awesome... :) but yea i mean love is a tough cookie we learn sooo much from love and dont look at it as failure look at it as a learning experience rejection happens everyday to everyone at some point, and its not the fact that we got rejected its HOW the rejection was handled!

good luck bro... hope i helped

Answer 13

That is one of the dangers of falling in love with someone who is Bisexual or not sure of their sexuality.

I think we have all run into this at one time or another, you will find someone else thou, someone who truely appreciates you for who you are.

Good luck