I fell in love with someone and couldn't see the forest for the trees. Has this ever happened to you?

Question

I am coming out of almost a year of the fact that I thought I loved someone and loved him in spite of his absurd lifestyle.

He even TOLD me he secretly deals in illicit drugs and even saw it.

He even told me he takes meth amphetamine (supposedly in his words "a recreational user"

I drink alcohol much but I don't ever, ever take illegal drugs. Never, ever ever.

My point is that I blanked out his illicit dealings and for a year (until now) I had put him on a pedestal.

How does that happen? He has a beautiful face and an engaging smile and a winning way.

Why did I fall in love and cry myself to sleep for 6 months when I fell in love with him and I realized I couldn't have him?

Have you ever fallen in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love with and after a long time of crying yourself to sleep, suddenly woke up and thought:

"What the h**l was I doing?"

Tell me your stories cos I am just recently over a ridiculously long period of crying into my pillow.

Answer 1

Oh yeah, have been there. I got pregnant to him and we were so excited even though I had this nagging thought that he would leave as he has two other young sons to two different woman and walked out without even a glance backwards, but like you I thought it would be different for us. We had twins, got engaged and then just after the boys first birthday he walks out.....hhhmmm. I do have two very beautiful little boys though. Many have been duped by a pretty face. Chin up..lol

Answer 2

You just left a relation ship and now you want to make yourself feel better by grinding the image of your ex into the ground.

You want us to say "good for you, i'm glad you left that good for nothing guy", but it's not happening.

Answer 3

No. I was always smarter than that.