I fibbed to save my hubby's feelings...............?

Question

There was a time a few months ago that I thought my marriage was over. I wont lie....I had intentions of leaving him. I didn't feel loved, or appreciated. At the time I applied for a credit card and got it. I never said anything. Here we are 4 months later and I never told him about the card. (not that its a really big deal but....) Anyway the other night I made a comment and he said"when did you get a credit card...?" I said I meant to say our credit card (he has one is his name only....) Then I felt bad because I didn't tell him about the card I do have. I told him yesterday that I actually just got a card in the mail but I told him I had JUST got it..... now I am feeling bad that I didn't just come right out and tell him in the beginning. The only reason I didn't was because of the original reason for applying for the stupid card in the first place and we are doing so well and getting back into loving each other that I didn't want to bring up that time in our lives again......

What do I do now?? Leave it alone or tell him the whole truth when he comes home tonight?

Answer 1

usually i would say to just tell the whole truth but in this case i would just leave it as is.

Answer 2

this is one of those times when the whole story doesn't need to be told.  He knows you have a card and you know he does.  Leave it there.

If you WANT to talk to him about your feelings and relationship issues, don't bring up the credit card matter to get there.

Answer 3

Keep your card and do not bother with why or when.  do not run up a tab on it so that if you need it later it will be there.

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Answer 4

leave it alone.  No need to mix up that can of worms.  What he doesn't know won't hurt either of you.

You are absolutely right to seek financial means that are exclusive to you.  A relationship cannot be good if it's not equal, and it can't be equal if there's a difference in financial control and ability.

Answer 5

My wife did the same thing this past year only things did not get better in our relationship. Before you knew it she had a credit problem and this made things worse. Now we are dealing with a financial problem.on top of everything else. Money matters and if you can't be honest about finances, will you be honest about other things in your relationship

Answer 6

Leave it alone. And if you get another one, he should think nothing of it.  

Answer 7

Leave it alone.