I finally bought my beach house near the hamptons -?

Question

My city friends and coworkers want to visit on weekends - my only days off - they don't like the beach? I told them my time off was beach time. They are mad at me. They want to party and go looking for stars and shopping.

I want to go to the beach and sail. Summer is too short and I paid alot of money to buy the house of my dreams so the I could be at the beach all summer long.

If the weather isn't great.. i don't mind doing something else. but I'm a sun worshiper and I think it's wrong for them to assume I want to do something else because they invited themselves for the weekend.

If I left it to them, I'd have company every weekend and have no beach time at all.

Am I being rude???

I give 1 big party/BBQ for the season and everyone is invited... that should be enough.

Answer 1

I feel so sorry for you.  It must be rough.

Answer 2

My inlaws used to own a condominium on a lake in a resort town about 3 hours away from their home.  That lake condo was their weekend retreat.  A lot of their friends owned condos in the same building and they could get together on weekends to catch up on all they'd missed during the week.

And then the hangers-on started calling up to say, "Are you going to the lake this weekend?  I'd love to go with you."  Or worse, "I'd like to use your condo the next time you stay in town."  For a while they tried to accommodate their friends and family who asked.  And then it turned into "So what are you fixing for breakfast, Sue?  Where are we going for lunch?  Do you mind if we take your boat out for a while?"  

The guests who initially understood that my inlaws were being gracious, eventually started to think of my inlaws as the servants who were supposed to provide them with a good time, all expenses paid and all cleaning up done by my inlaws.  And that's when they started telling people, "I'm so glad you enjoy the lake.  We really need that time away from our business.  I'm sorry we can't be your hosts, but here's the phone number for the property manager.  There are dozens of rental units in the 3 condo buildings, and the manager will be glad to find one for you."

You don't have to explain to anybody why you aren't inviting them out to the Hamptons.  If you do want to say something, just tell them that you have your weekends planned already and you'll be glad to give them phone numbers of places they can stay.  Tell them you hope they have a good weekend and you will look forward to hearing about it sometime later.

Answer 3

I think your friends are taking advantage of you. Plus it rude to invite oneself to someone else's home without been asked.

No your not been rude. But your so called guest are rude.