I found a condom in my daughters garbage can in her bathroom shes 15 wa do i do?

Question

yeah it was used i just went to emty the garbge in it was next to the trashcan cause her well everything is mess and overflowing ime a single dad how do i ask her without make her want to do it more the thing is she is a striaght a student ony has 3 friends ever come over(1 aboy 2 are girls) should i ask her boy friend

Answer 1

I am a mother of 3 teenage daughters, and it's not easy. First i want to applaud you for not losing it with her. Second, be thankful that she is using protection. I would CALMLY sit down and talk to her, you can't stop girls from having s*x unless you lock her up,lol. So if you come across as being nosey she will shut down. What i found worked with my girls, was we love to watch movies and my 14 yr old brought home a movie called thirteen, its about a 13 yr old who falls into drugs s*x and everything else, it opened the door to talk to them about life by referring to the movie.

good luck, it does get easier.

Answer 2

I would confront her. Tell her that you are happy that she is using protecton, but tell her that you don't want her having s*x at her age.

Do not yell at her, or loose your cool. You want her to feel like she can open up to you and talk. Also, don't start asking who, what, where, when, why.

Tell her that you would appreciate her telling you what boy, and why, but also tell her that she doesn't need to tell you now, but she needs to tell you in [you can choose the time, but make it more than 5 days...give her about a week]

Answer 3

did it look used? maybe she was curious to exactly what a condom looked like. I say confront her about it has a listening understanding parent and not as an angry I'm going to kick your a@$ parent. I know it's hard to accept your child having s*x and especially at a young age but if it is the case at least she protected herself.

Answer 4

You have to confront her, but do it as a friend or youll blow her trust and she will lie say its a friends or that she was curious to see what it looks like. Whatever she says even if you dont beleive her, say you do.... But keep a close eye from where she cant see you of course on what she does and who she hangs around with. Was the condom used? If not give her brake. Surely, your daughter us smart enough to use protection and if she will do it behind your back anyway dont blow this common sense for fear of leaving the evidence behind. She is too young in my opinion so just try to talk to her into the dangers of s*x at her age, again, AS A FRIEND mama. Good luck and I hope she listens.

Answer 5

Yep you should ask her about it. She may have just been playing around with a condom out of curiosity OR if she is having s*x at least you know she is trying to be responsible. If she is having s*x then you will need to get her on some kind of birth control other than just condoms because condoms are not reliable enough at preventing pregnancy.

If you dont feel comfortable talking to her about it do you know any adult females that are close to her? Perhaps you could get them to have a talk with her and find out what's going on and how long for.

Answer 6

tell her what you found, let her know that shes too young to be doing that kind of stuff, especially in your home! she needs to respect that. from my experience of being a sexually active teen once, i would be embarrased and angry and would not want to listen. so try and clamly explain to her the consequences and the reasons why you dont want her to be doing that. sorry thats the best i could think of, not really knowing your daughter. but good luck!

Answer 7

i would have the s*x talk with her and find out if she is being sexually active and make sure if she is that she is doing it safely maybe even get her on the pill so that you know for sure, after all if you found a condom she must be taking the proper safety

Answer 8

don't act like you're accusing her b/c that might cause her to lose her sense and not use a condom. at least she's using one. or maybe, like other people said, she was just curious to see what it looked like. i'm 15 and i know people who did that. but it probably was from her activities w/ her bf

do what that other person said and say you believe her. but also be stern and upset looking. don't blow up in her face.

Answer 9

You need to confront her and then set some ground rules.

Answer 10

omfg i hate parents like this

stop going throew things gosh!

my mom does it soo much to the ponit i turn my computer off when i leave my room and erase my text 24/7

Answer 11

confront her about it.

one question: you go through your daughters trash?

Answer 12

why does a 15 year old have a boyfriend in the first place?

Answer 13

Ask her about it. She may not be sexually active. Maybe she was just curious what a condom looks like. If she is having s*x you may want to get her on the pill. Be direct with your feelings I know you don`t want her having s*x I would still praise her for the condom use.

Answer 14

talk to her.  was it used?  was it still in the wrapper?  maybe her and some friends were just pulling it out to see.

talk to her, dude.  duh...

Answer 15

Calmly take her aside and tell her that you found it and ask what is going on. No matter what she says tell her that you will take her to the doctor to get on the pill, so that she will be more responsible. That's really as far as you need to go concerning this specific situation. You may want to have a serious talk with her about s*x and relationships and explain the methods of having responsible s*x. (and the ones that aren't so responsible so that she can avoid them.)