I found a horse for full lease but my mom is being difficult! Help!?

Question

I have been riding for 5.5 years, I currently lease two horses (one of which I have been riding for 5 years and is WAY too small for me now and the other is NOT the right horse for me or what I want to do) and take lessons 3 times a week in Parelli, hunter, and eventing. I took Natural Horsemanship for 3 years and Dressage for 3 years and have ridden many different horses and had MANY different experiences. I recently found an Appendix horse mare on DreamHorse that is the perfect size, age, height, and does what I want to do. I e-mailed the owner (and asked my mom) and she lives an hour away but would be willing to let me board her at our barn with a full lease. My mom told me to e-mail her until she realized that the owner and me were serious about this and is now just making excuses like, "The lady wouldn't like our barn and wouldn't let us board her horse there," and stuff! PLEASE HELP!!!

Answer 1

Maybe the real issue here is money.  Maybe your mom just doesn't think you can afford to lease another horse.  Can you break the lease on the two horses you currently have?  If so, what are the financial penalties for doing so?

If you can get rid of the two horses you have, maybe your mom would be more receptive to leasing the horse you have recently found.

If your mom truly is concerned with whether or not the horse's owner would want him staying in your barn, send her some photos and ask her if the accommodations for the horse are acceptable to her.  Ask the horse's owner to send you a copy of the lease you would be signing so you can review it with your mom.

Take an educated approach with your mom.  Get all your facts together and know what you are talking about before you sit down with her and discuss this.  You may have to make some sacrifices if there are monetary penalties for breaking the leases you have...you need to be willing to pay those yourself or to work them off by helping your mom around the house and farm more.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Maybe you should talk to your Mum. tell her how you feel and this horse may be a one in a lifetime chance for you, ask wether there is a problem having the horse.

good luck :D

Answer 3

I guess you just need to talk to your mom.  She has the right to help you make a wise decision.

Answer 4

Pay for the lease yourself. That's what I have to do, because my parents won't lease ONE horse for me, let alone two or three. Be happy with what you have and leave your mother alone. If you really want the horse, consider leasing that horse and that horse alone.

Answer 5

dear, you know you can give a leased horse back dont you. and maybe it costs too much to have three horses when you wont use 2 of them much. so all i can say is to talk to your mum about it or offer to do extra chores to make up for three horses because this is what i did when i got my new horse.

i had four horses (3 on lease 1 of my own) and i gave back 2 of the leased horses and i still see those horses on the odd ocasion. maybe you could figure something out with the owners

good luck

Answer 6

i know how you feel, sounds like my mum!!just talk to her and say,look mum, this is the perfect horse and we dont know when another onelike her will come around and all that. tell her how much you really want her and point out all the reasons why shes perfect. tell her that you told the lady about your barn and she said she would be happy for her horse to board there.

hope this helps and good luck!!

Answer 7

Have you considered that your Mum may just be unwilling to take on the cost of a third horse. Maybe you should tell her that if this one is suitable for what you want to do then you will stop leasing the other two and send them back to their owners.

there is a limit to how far money will stretch and it could be that your folks have reached that limit. - 2 horses and 3 lessons a week soon mounts up.

Answer 8

Just talk to her, there is no miracle cure for moms lol.  But I will say you are extremely lucky that you have two leases, but if they arent right for you why are you still leasing them?? Again you are SOO lucky, I have been riding for almost 12 years, I am 19 and I never once had my own horse or a lease, the most I could beg was one lesson a week, and now I pay for everything, so just be happy and talk to her.  

If anything will work on parents it is reason.  She would be very impressed if you were to print out a page with all the information about the horse, how much it would cost, why you want the horse and how it will help you.  Sit her down and say I would really appreciate this horse and here are the reasons why.  Even if it seems ridiculous she might just get you it on pure shock of your responsibility.

Answer 9

I don't know your age, but this is what I would do as an adult.  Find a good time to sit down and find out what is really bothering your mom. If you think she is just "making excuses", you need to know what her real motivation is before you can do anything to change her mind.  don't whine, be honest and maybe offer to give up your other horse that's too little, I know it costs a lot to board them. Have you thought of getting a job to help pay for all the lessons and stuff?  We parents aren't made of money lol. good luck and listen to your mother, she may know something you don't.

Answer 10

Since neither of the two horses you're leasing now are right, try to tell your Mom that by bringing the new horse in, who is perfect for you, it would be less expensive all the way around because you'd only be leasing one horse as opposed to the two that don't work for you now. Worth a try. If all else fails, ask your Mom directly why she is so against the idea.

Answer 11

I agree with the pay for him thing. I had to buy and pay for all the vet, farrier, feed, bills for my second horse, but it's been so worth it!!!!

Answer 12

Hun, I have been getting lessons once a week, an hour long for 6 years. I would love to do eventing, natural horsemanship, dressage, and hunter. I would also love to lease two horses, no matter if they "Do what I want them to".

Let your mom be. The answer could be yes or no, either way, you are still lucky.

Count your blessings.

Answer 13

Tell her that many people do it and that and it would teach me the responsibility.