I found a used condom in my boyfriends bag is it his?

Question

My boyfriend of 15 years borrowed my 12 year old daughters old school bag a few months ago and had left it here ( we dont live together) with his clothes still in it. and my daughter had spilt glue in her new school bag and wanted me to wash it so i did and told her she could use the bag that her father had borrowed, so I emptied all his clothes and gave the bag to her to use. so she went into her room to pack her school bag for the next day and she had a look in the front pocket of the bag and found a used condom in the front pocket and asked me what it was doing in her front pocket, I of course had no idea what it was doing there, i had a good look at it and could tell the way it was kind of rolled at the bottom and the top was inside out that it had indeed come off some man's p***s ( there was no s***n inside though). So i confronted my boyfriend about it and of course he denied it saying one of my family members must have planted it the only trouble with his excuse is that I haven't had any family members over for quite a few months so that has blown that excuse out of the water. Now since being told that his only excuse is that he doesn't wear condoms he doesn't know how it got there and say's he'll pay for a DNA test to prove it wasn't him but i am unsure if they could get much from it seeing there was no s***n in it.

I want to know what you think about it is he innocent or not?

I've since been told that he has in the past tried to get on to one of my friends and he has also slept with another woman when we were supposed to have been broken up (the only trouble was that i didn't realise we were split up at that time) and I only found out about it because he was told she might have had a STD otherwise i wouldn't have known anything about it and he is an alcolholic.

I would like to know your opinion

Answer 1

If you only look at the facts, he looks guilty.  I found the best way to find the truth is to look at facts and not listen to the excuses.  You have 15 years in and a past of infidelity.  If you love him and want to stay together, you should do everything now to get on the same page.  I would say insist he go to marriage counseling with you through your health provider or church.  These things don't fix themselves.

Answer 2

yes it's he's and you know it let him go it ain't worth it

Answer 3

I'm so sorry, but it's his. Good luck!

Answer 4

No its not his, someone in your family wants to split you two up so they put one of their used condoms in his bag to frame him...YES ITS HIS. Come on! Do you really believe the bull he's feeding you?

Answer 5

My opinion is: your boyfriends bag is HIS bag, not yours.  Stop sticking your nose where it doesnt belong and you wont be subjugated to that stuff.

Answer 6

It's his.  He just can't fess up to it.  I would take a good look at your relationship, especially if he has tried to cheat in the past.

Answer 7

Get out of denial. He's a liar and you know it.

Answer 8

To be honest hun, this sounds like bad news...I'd call his bluff and say go ahead, try and get it tested, see what he does.

If he's cheated on you in the past, he may do it again. And if this other woman may have had an sti, please tell me you've both been tested?

Answer 9

A, He is a Alcoholic, He lies to you that's what alcoholics do best. Is he suggesting it is from your 12 year old daughter is the owner, or is he suggesting that a family member would place a condom in his bag. Or is he suggesting that he has been with anther person. I think he was too drunk to get it up which is why it is empty, which is why he didn't throw the thing away as he should have done.  

Answer 10

You know already that it is his. I went through the exact same thing with my ex husband. there is nothing in this world more powerful than your mind, and if it is telling you " warning this is not right" than it is not right and he is lying! He is disgusting and very lazy if that was the only way he could think of to discard it, and then left it for your daughter to find!!!!  I say leave the drunken lazy sexaholic alone, but atleast he used protection.

Answer 11

You know the answer you don't need to come here.

Answer 12

honestly i think it was his and i would leave him alone if you've been told that he tried to get with one of your friends and that he slept with another woman is he really worth it i don't understand women sometimes don't you know if he really loves you he wouldn't cheat let alone try to ask out one of your friends but if this is the type of person you are then its on you  

Answer 13

Yes... he's ******* cheating on you... WAKE UP

Answer 14

He's a loser, lose him quick before he causes you more pain.

Answer 15

Probably his, 15 years with no commitment he's wandering around.

So, if you been with him 15 years and have a 12 year old daughter, is she his? You referred to her as not, so I'm just wandering....................

Answer 16

Hmm he sounds a great partner! he lies and is an alcoholic.

Answer 17

well hes trying to prove himself innocent possibly challenging you??

ask him to explain himself everyone deserves to have their say so tell him how it cant be his famil etc.

Answer 18

Of course it's his comdon! and you know it, you don't need to run tests or whatever over the comdon.