I found my half brother....?

Question

I found my half brother on facebook. I never got to meet him. I want to know him so badly.I asked to be his friend, I was so nervous. he mailed me and asked me why don't you tell me our fathers name. and I answered him. What should I tell him? How should I speak to him? I really want to be a part of his life.thanks.

Answer 1

Just take it slowly.

One day at a time.

Good Luck to both of you!

Answer 2

i think that if you want to have any questions for him than you should anwser him when he asks you questions and then go from there.

Answer 3

Just tell him. He's your half brother and you deserve to know him and he deserves to know you. Just make sure he's a good person and not someone that may cause you trouble. Best of luck!

Answer 4

I found out that I had 2 half brothers when I was 17. Searched for almost 2 years and finally found them when I was 19 years old. I wanted so badly to jump into being a family! But that kind of bond just can't happen instantly. So I think I have an idea of how you feel and I am here to share what experience has taught me.

First of all, answer harmless questions like your father's name, how old you are, general idea of where you live, etc... honestly. Although, since you don't know him very well yet I would suggest not giving out your address. .. Like when I found my brothers, I didn't get more specific than "East Texas" until I knew them. Actually, I just ended up telling one of them my address because I got a bad vibe from the other.

Anyhow, try to speak to him the same way you would any other new friend. Ask him what he likes to do, who he lives with, if he has any pets, what kind of music he likes, etc... Take notes incase they help you pick a perfect birthday present or something later on :)

Try not to rush. Your relationship with him will become whatever it becomes and you don't want to stress him out along the way. Hopefully it will be good. ... In my case, there were too many hard feelings about our father and we drifted back apart. (Neither of us grew up knowing our dads, and it seemed to bring back bad memories when we would talk.)

I wish you the best. After you get to know him, maybe you can suggest meeting somewhere. And if things don't go too smoothly, try to half-way keep up with each other. Maybe they will get better some day. I still email one of my brothers 2 or 3 times a year.  

Answer 5

I would say, tell him and really get to know each other and just see how things go. He does deserve to know his fathers name although I do gotta say to be careful because you dont really know how he is and how he will do once he finds out what u guys's dads name is.

Answer 6

Give him any information he wants on your father. It takes time to build a bond, so don't expect him to be like family right away. Talk to him just like you would anyone. If he doesn't want to be a part of your life, don't push things.

Answer 7

You have answered you're own question if  you look at it.You tell him what you have just told all of us.Plain and simple.I wish you the best of luck..

Answer 8

slow down and let him get a breath

then you and he can talk back and forth and get to know each other