I freaking hate my brother....?

Question

I'm Sick of my brother! Help, please?

He treats me as a piece of ****, and i ******* hate him

He's constantly making me do stuff for him like, ironing his clothes,doing his chores, making him food, and cleaning his room.

When i dont he makes me feel bad and tells me im a bad sister,and insults me and tells me that he wishes i was like his friends sisters,

So i feel really bad, and do it. He thinks hes a good brother, hes the crappiest brother ever, i wish i was an only child...

I cant ******* wait till he goes to college but until then what can i do?

Answer 1

I'm sorry he doesn't respect you very much.  It sounds like you have a few options.  1) You can ignore his guilt trip and not do things for him.  2) You can keep doing what you're doing and feel miserable like you do.  3) You can tell him that you think he is a terrible older brother and you wish he were like your friend's older brothers who take them fun places and give them money and love them.

:)  I vote for 3.

Good luck.

J

Answer 2

try to avoid him, don't do anymore things 4 him, he doesn't deserve it, he is manipulating you, and that's not cool at all, so stop all the things that u do for him, and see where that leads.GL 2 u Hun!

Answer 3

talk to him about it! When he insults you just ignore it. If he wants to be rude to you after everything you do for him, just stop and think what you are getting out of it.  

Answer 4

Say NO.  If he says clean my room and you say no and he calls you names, just pretend to go clean his room and go to your room and take a nap or something.  Sisters don't do those things for their brothers...if he says his friends' sisters do he's lying to you to get you to do it for him.  He sounds like a jerk.

Answer 5

WOW!..

I say don't do

anything at all..

**** him!!

Your not a bad sister

because if you were

you wouldn't have

done anything for his

*** when he asked to

begin with.

So, let him say what

he wants just say..

"Yeah, I love you too"

& walk away!  

Answer 6

Just ignore him and don't do his chores. You r a girl and they shouldn't be put through that pressure.  Talk to your parents and see what they have to say.

Answer 7

JUST SAY NO, if you hate him he shouldn't be able to make you feel bad....you hate each other now, but later it won't be so bad, all siblings hate each other when they r younger....you'll see, it will work out, just hang in there.

Answer 8

You shouldnt have to act like his maid! Helping people out is one thing, me and my sister do eachother favors all the time, but it sounds like he is taking it to far.

Couldnt you tell your parents?

Answer 9

dude omg, my friend does the same thing for her brother and family too, tell him you have other things to do, just straight up look him in the face and tell him you not only iron your own clothes, and make your food, but you have to do it all over again for him, ask him what he is going to do when collage starts? you gonna follow him there too lol, that would be fun for a while, just straight up tell him is all you can do, ...or act sick.. lol XD

Answer 10

Why are you doing all this stuff for him? And why does it matter that you are "the good sister"? You are enabling him to continue being a jerk. He's getting away with using and abusing you, and you must enjoy it or you would have stopped him by now. Unless your parents are making you be his slave, I don't see any reason why you should continue allowing him to abuse you in this way. If it gives you great joy to do things for him, then continue. It sounds like there's no joy in this, so stop doing it. No one has the right to make you do or feel anything. You give people the power to do that. He does what he does 'cause there's something in it for him. He sounds like a spoiled rotten user, who's been given the green light to do so. Does he run your parents like this too? I'd tell him that if he'll pay you a wage for doing all his stuff for him, you might consider continuing his abuse, but as of right now, you quit. Yeah, he'll give you lots of grief about it, but you'll be free. Unless you like all this guilt he lays on you. Some people feed off of this kind of thing, so I'm not sure what you're getting out of his abuse. Cut yourself loose, my little sister. I too am a little sister. I had to put up with my brother's verbal barbs, but not like you are. My parents never would have allowed him to make me do his chores. Let the lazy slug do his own stuff. Who's gonna do it for him in college? You gonna follow him there to make his bed & wipe his nose? Ah, I see the light dawn in his eyes. He'll eventually find some other girl to be his slave, as he sure hasn't learned how to do these things himself. You're not doing him any favors either. How's he supposed to learn all this stuff? I raised my son by teaching him to do things for himself, so that he wouldn't make the women around him into his slaves. Independance is important, even to mini-men, like your brother. By allowing him to experience doing things for himself, you'll be helping him to turn into a real man who can handle things on his own. Back off, and let him grow up. You'll know when he does when you actually like being around him. It took my brother over 40 years to turn into a human being! Hopefully, it won't be long for yours. There's always hope, even for brothers! <*)))><

Answer 11

Stop doing all of your brothers things, he is using you and taking advantage of you. If he cared for you in any way he wouldn't be making you feel bad.

Your right, your brother is one of the worst I have ever heard of.

Answer 12

Grow a set and tell him off, then don't buckle under!

Answer 13

I know you might hate him but baby there are a lot of people that would kill that have a brother or sister so appreciate him while you got him. Just fu** with him as much as he does you.

Answer 14

Just ignore him and tell your mother or something that he is pissing you off and that you don't want to have to do all of his chores and stuff. Let him get angry and do stuff for himself once in a while.

Answer 15

Stop waiting on this ingrate.  A good sister would want him to be a better person, not the manipulative, selfish person he is - so stop enabling him and make him learn independence.  In this way, he learns to do things for himself and he'll be more likely to respect you when you show him that you respect yourself.

Answer 16

if hes like that don`t talk to him but i know how u will feel not talking to him so stand up to him tell your parents or tell him if you don`t stop i will smack u across your face ( but don`t mean it )

Answer 17

tell your parents

Answer 18

I USE TO TREAT MY LITTLE SISTER THE SAME WAY,SHE WAS A BRAT &GOT EVERYTHING SHE WANTED& GOT AWAY W/ EVERYTHING.BECAUSE SHE WAS "JUST A LITTLE BABY!" "SHE DOES'NT KNOW ANY BETTER." MY MOM &DAD WOULD MAKE ME SICK WHEN THEY WOULD SAY THAT.SHE WAS ONLY 4YRS.YOUNGER THAN ME,SHE WAS JUST A JEALOUS LITTLE BRAT !,SO ANY CHANCE I GOT I WOULD MAKE HER LIFE MISERABLE.I MADE HER DO CHORES FOR ME SO I WOULD'NT HAVE TO DO THEM MYSELF & I USED TO KNOCK HER DOWN ALL THE TIME.THEN SOON ENOUGH I WENT OFF TO COLLEGE AND SHE TOOK OVER MY BEDROOM BECAUSE IT WAS BIGGER AND IT HAD A WALK IN CLOSET.SHE PAINTED THE WALLS 2 DIFFERENT SHADES OF PURPLE AND USED PINK FOR THE ACCENT TRIM & MOLDING. IT LOOKED REALLY GOOD, SHE'S VERY CREATIVE.I KNEW WHEN I MOVED OUT &WENT TO COLLEGE SHE WOULD THEN TAKE UP MY ROOM & REDECORATE ;IT HAD ALREADY BEEN TALKED ABOUT. MY MOM WAS GOING TO PACK AWAY MY THINGS & STORE THEM IN THE BASEMENT FOR ME,SINCE I WAS GOING TO BE GONE FOR SOME TIME AWAY @ MED SCHOOL.ALMOST A YEAR WENT BY BEFORE MY FIRST VISIT BACK &I REALLY MISSED HOME, I WAS GOING TO BE STAYING IN THE NOW GUEST ROOM WHICH USED TO BE MY SISTERS ROOM.I REMEMBER GOING TO THE BASEMENT AND LOOKING THROUGH MY THINGS MY MOM HAD PACKED AWAY FOR ME. I WANTED TO REMINISCE & BRING A FEW THINGS UP TO THE GUEST ROOM WITH ME THEN I NOTICED I WAS MISSING QUITE A FEW ITEMS.MY BASEBALL CARD COLLECTION,MY TROPHIES, AWARDS,RIBBONS.THEY WERE NOWHERE TO BE FOUND.UPSET THAT THEY MIGHT HAD BEEN GIVEN AWAY OR ACCIDENTALLY THROWN OUT I RUSHED UPSTAIRS TO ASK MY MOM OF THEIR DISSAPPEARANCE.WHEN I ASKED MY MOM SHE JUST SMILED & GLANCED OVER @MY SISTER. I PANICKED BECAUSE I KNEW THEN THAT MY SISTER  EITHER GAVE THEM AWAY OR MORE THAN LIKELY TRASHED THEM.I BEGAN TO YELL @ HER & SHE BEGAN TO CRY AND RAN UPSTAIRS,SO I CHASED HER UP TO HER ROOM & SHE SLAMMED THE DOOR & THREW HERSELF ON THE BED AND SHE SOBBED UNCONTROLLABLY AS I THREW THE DOOR OPEN  & YELLED OUT "YOUR'E A GOOD FOR NOTHING LITTLE BRAT,YOU CAN DROWN IN YOUR FAKE TEARS AND CHOKE FOR ALL I CARE; I WISH YOU WERE NEVER BORN !!" AND I TURNED AROUND TO STORM OUT THE ROOM WHEN I SHOCKINGLY REALIZED THAT MY SISTER HAD DECORATED THE WHOLE ROOM EXCEPT FOR THE ONE  WALL WHICH WAS STILL BLUE AND STILL HAD ALL MY BASEBALLCARDS & TROPHY AWARDS AND RIBBONS THAT HAD'NT BEEN MOVED. IT ALL REMAINED JUST THE WAY I HAD LEFT IT. MY SISTER DID'NT ALLOW MY MOM TO TAKE DOWN ANY OF MY THINGS FROM THAT WALL. THE SPORTS MEMORABILIA, MY TROPHIES, ALL MY AWARDS & POSTERS.MY SISTER WANTED IT TO STAY JUST THE WAY I HAD LEFT IT. JUST BELOW THE BOTTOM SHELF @ MY SISTER'S REACH SHE HAD PLACED A SIGN THAT SHE HAND CRAFTED HERSELF OUT OF WOOD &DECORATED WITH GLITTER THAT READ " KEVIN'S WALL OF FAME ". AT THAT MOMENT I REALIZED JUST HOW MUCH SHE ADORED ME &LOOKED UP TO ME AS A BIG BROTHER AND HOW AWFUL I HAD BEEN TO HER ALL THESE YEARS ,&HOW THERE WAS NOTHING I COULD SAY OR DO TO TAKE BACK WHAT AWFUL HURTFUL THINGS I SAID TO HER .I FELL TO THE GROUND &BEGAN TO CRY LIKE A LITTLE BABY AND SHE CLIMBED OUT OF BED &HUGGED ME AND SAID "KEVIN DO'NT CRY IT'S O.K.". I HELD HER TIGHT &BEGGED HER TO FORGIVE ME &SHE SAID" YOUR MY BROTHER, OF COURSE I FORGIVE YOU". THAT DAY I LEARNED HOW BLIND ONE COULD BE FROM REALIZING HOW MUCH SOMEONE COULD GENUINELY CARE  FOR ANOTHER EVEN THOUGH IT IS'NT SPOKEN OF OUT LOUD, ESPECIALLY FAMILY.LET YOUR BROTHER KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. I ALWAYS THOUGHT MY SISTER DESPISED ME UNTIL I LEARNED DIFFERENTLY. IT DID'NT HAVE TO PLAY OUT THE WAY IT DID BUT I DO'NT REGRET IT. MY SISTER & I ARE NOW THE BEST OF FRIENDS. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU.

Answer 19

Don't let him make you feel bad, you are NOT his slave! Tell him to get off his fat **** and do it himself. If his going off to college, then his going to have trouble if he can't even make his own food, or iron. Your his sister not his guardian. If he treats you like a piece of **** then DON"T do things for him. Sit him down and tell him how you feel about all this, thats the best thing to do. If he still makes you feel like c**p, then tell him to F*** OFF!

Answer 20

I'd turn the tables.  Leave him a pile of stuff to do, make a list and when he doesn't do them say the same to him.  His reaction will tell you whether he's being vindictive or he just really does think that his female family members are there to be his servants.

  If that doesn't work just outright refuse to do any more of his chores, they're his after all.  Tell him that he can't expect a free ride for the rest of his life and the sooner he gets that into his head, especially with college starting, the better he will do.

ape.

Answer 21

he (your brother) love you.........more than anything in this world.

Answer 22

dont let him make you feel bad. he knows that if he says stuff like your a bad sister then you will do it. but just say no. tell him to get off his a$$ and do it himself. if he insults you, get back at him. or if he tells you to make him a sandwich, put a worm in it, or a bug, then when he realizes you did that, he prob wont want you to make him another one. and if you get introuble for it, nark on him. i dont like doing that but if it comes down to it and you have to, do it. he'll get over that you dont want to do **** for him anymore and he'll do it himself if he really needs it done. if he tells you to iron his clothes, wrinkle them even more by rolling it in a ball and jumping on them. if he tells you to clean his room, make it even messier then before. just dont let the insults get to you and get back at him. hope i helped. (:

Answer 23

This is ridiculous. Why don't you just tell him to do it himself? If you don't like him, why should you care if he likes you? If he gives you a hard time, just confront your parents about it.

...or you can always kill him.

Answer 24

I am unfortunatley stuck in the same hole. They respond to psychology well, because it is what he is doing to you. He actually doesn't care about the room, he is acting out for attention. Once you break that to him he will get angry and yell a bunch of empty threats. Keep repeating yourself, say he's a stupid kid acting out for attention, and eventually he will stop whatever.