I gave a 100 dollars at a friend's wedding---is that cheap?

Question

they had the wedding here: http://www.atriumcaterers.com/weddings_glance.html

it was on a friday, so probally a tad cheaper. the place says it's 75-150 a plate

i went w/ a guest. i've known him for 8 years, since college, but we dont see each other a lot, but i still consider him a good friend. i hope he doesnt think i'm cheap! what do you think>?

Answer 1

usually when my wife and I go, I give $200 for each person. So that's $400 for the two of us. I don't think it really matters what you give. When my wife and I got married, we were just happy our friends and family were there.

Answer 2

It's very generous. Thats a lot of money. you can buy a toaster, trash can, anything! Be happy! I bet that they thought you were very generous

Answer 3

I'm sure they will be happy with every penny they got and believe me 100.00 these days is a good gift.

Answer 4

Call me beyond tacky then, because I don't know many people well enough to give them $100.  I think $40 is average, but maybe that's just me in my middle class NC area.

Answer 5

heck no on suzie orman she said give what you can afford some people give $25 some people give $200 they wouldnt thing it was being cheap it is what you can afford dont feel bad at all

Answer 6

I think if your friend is expecting money at a wedding, he is missing the the purpose of the wedding in the first place.

Answer 7

Whenever I attend a wedding I give $100 each. ($200 for my fiance and I). You are typically supposed to cover your plate. (On Long Island that can be anywhere from $85-$185)  I would never give over $200 for the both of us for the h**l of it though. If I'm close with them I'll give them $250 and for my sister's wedding I gave $400. But I do not have any kids and we are okay financially. Honestly, they may have thought it was a little weird at first, but I sure they took the fact that you just had a baby into consideration.

I don't care what people give me...if they can afford the night out I just want their company. That's really how I feel. They may feel that way too.

Answer 8

I'm getting married soon - I could use a $100 about right now.

Not cheap at all

Answer 9

$100 Dollars is very generous! Especially if your money situation is tight.

If he does think you are being cheap you might want to reevaluate your friendship with him!

Answer 10

if the low side is 75$ a plate and you went with a guest then the proper amount should have been $150 to cover your plate.  That means all you did was cover your plate (or not even) and no real gift for them since they had to pay the rest of your plates

Answer 11

I have said it before, if you want big money presents, you need to get some rich friends.

If that is what you could afford, that is fine. Nobody makes a bride choose an expensive venue, and never should she expect the guests to foot the bill for it.If she does, she is setting herself up for a rude awakening. Especially in the economy right now.

Answer 12

I guess it depends where you are from, $100 is average for one person and you double it if there are two.  But that's where I'm from (Chicago).  I'm sure, your friend will understand that you gave what you could afford and was happy that you were able to make it and celebrate with him.

Answer 13

$100 isn't cheap. It's realistic. :)

Answer 14

I would have given probably 500.

Answer 15

no I wouldn't say that's cheap. I went to my cousins wedding and gave $40, granted that's all I could really afford but still, its the thought that counts.

Answer 16

No I'd be happy as h**l if someone gave me $100 for a gift LoL

Answer 17

Haha...dude.  I know some people think you have to give a lot of money at weddings.  I can't tell you about everyone's wedding, but I can tell you about mine.  My gifts mostly ranged from $20-$100 or so.  I would say that our poorer friends gave us $20-30, our closer friends gave us $40-50 and we had the occasionally surprise $100.  I know that a few that I got were more expensive from the richer guests, but in general, that's what we got.  I think $100 is just fine...although the dinner price was MUCH more expensive than my wedding.

Answer 18

What I was told about weddings is that it's about 50$ per head... so basically you're paying for how much it cost them for you to be a guest (and whom ever else you may bring). =)

Answer 19

Um... maybe...

Answer 20

This is ridiculous.. you are NOT cheap. That is a lot.  

To whom ever posted saying it is typical to give an amount equivelant to  cover your plate...absolute rubbish. The bride and groom are throwing a party and everyone is their guest.  I would never expect my guests to "cover their plate".  We are hosting   a wonderful party and a day to celebrate with our friends. That menas we foot the bill.   I would not care if I got no gifts, just having my friends there is the real gift.

$100 is quite generous. I just went to a wedding for someone I did not know that well and  I do not have a lot of extra money right now. I gave a $25 gift card. That is all I could comfortably afford. It was the best I could do.  It is the  the thought behind it.  You were MORE THAN generous in giving $100.

Answer 21

$100 is very generous. most people i know give $50, or if they bring a date they give $100

Answer 22

you know i have a couple of weddings to go to and i was wondering the same thing.....

i think i'll just go with what i can afford.....living off of a teacher's salary isn't that luxurious and i probably couldn't afford to give any more than $100.  i think $100 is really generous!  they must be a good true blue friend!

Answer 23

You should give enough to cover the cost of the meal for you and your guest. At that price per plate-between 150 and 300, for a gift. If a person can't afford the gift they should just go to the ceremony and not the reception. Most of you people are cheap with giving gifts. At least give them enough money to cover the cost of the reception....There must be a lot of poor people on this site.

Answer 24

Daughter just got married, believe me

$100 is on the high side!

You were not cheap!

Answer 25

That is what I would call awesome. Most people are lucky if they get 50

Answer 26

no that's alot actually for a wedding present good job and dont worry about it your fine.

Answer 27

No. If the person wanted that exspensive of a wedding, they should know they won't break even. $50 a person is considered the norm where I come from.

Answer 28

I went to a wedding where half the family was living at or below the poverty line.

Most did not give cash and a lot gave homemade gifts.

The bride and groom were very gracious (they know their family).  

I never once heard them say, "Let's cut 50 invites bcs these people are poor."

You people that come back with a definitive answer about an amount are so wrong.

The right answer is:

Any gift given is never cheap!

Answer 29

wow it looks very expensive

I think is decent but it looks like they would see it as nothing but for me it seems ok

Answer 30

Rule of thumb is usally to give $100-$150, then double it if you bring a date. But not everyone goes by this, believe me. I'm sure your friend was happy with what you gave.

Answer 31

Not cheap.  Last year when I got married, we did the cash gift request thing (we have EVERYTHING we need already), and we got, I'd say on average $50-$100 per person... It's realisitically what you'd spend ona  gift anyway, yeah ?