I gave my 100% true heart to my friend in friendship?

Question

imam hurting now i gave my life for my girl friend. you see we are both women. anyways i meant this girl 5 years ago i got was helping her leave her husband and go back to her mom. at the time i did not know her husband. i was just helping her out. anyways a month latter she went back to herr husband. after me taking off 3 days of work packing boxes and things. well i met her husband and 2 children. spent a little time with them. but the husband don't like me. he thinks i will do it again. so lately she stopped talking to me for 3 months. when all of a sudden i told her i wanted the truth why i haven't seen her. so now she write me this on my e-mail Dear Bonnie I don't want to hurt your feeling, but there's a whole lot of people you can hang with besides me. Imam happier without hanging with you and so is my family. I find your attitude just too aggressive and knowing you are jealous of me, it just does not make any sense to continue a friendship under these conditions. Nita imam hurting imam sad see this person works and i don't help me understand this letter she wrote and what you would do just hurting bad inside about all this thanks

Answer 1

ur friend is 100% right. (fullstop)

u cant keep on depending on her.. WAKE UP! she has had a family to think for, to work for.. she's not created to be with u all the time.. my mom always say to me that friends can come and go since i was a kid.. she said that she is happier w/out hanging onto u rite? does a true friend let her bestfriend confuse or in trouble bcuz of him/herself? ur life is in ur hands.. u cant hang onto her cuz she can die, she still hanging to other also.. hang onto immortals.. hang onto Him... hang onto God.. He is immortal, and dependable... He'll never leave u...

Answer 2

You were doing what real friends do.  You were being there for someone in her time of need.  Her comments were very hurtful and totally inappropriate.

Sometimes those who hurt us most are those whom we care about the most.  I don't know why that is but it is.

Your friend betrayed the friendship  for a couple of possible reasons.  Firstly, she may be parroting what her husband has been telling her.  Secondly, she may feel embarrassed that she has chosen to go back to her husband despite your wise counsel.

Thirdly, she may be regretting having taken your advice and unfair as it is you have become the bad person in this whole thing.  You are now perceived as a home wrecker.  You know it's not true of course.

Your friend needed you and you were there for her.  Now, she doesn't need you but instead of accepting your help and caring heart graciously she has turned on you.

Most people who do that sort of thing are functioning at low emotional levels.

She is right about one thing.  There ARE a whole lot of people out there that you can hang out with besides her who will appreciate your heart.  When someone has done something like this don't see it as rejection, appreciate that she has done you a great service.  She has shown you her true colors and that she is not worthy of your friendship.  Give a few weeks.  It will be interesting what she does if her marriage ends up on the rocks again.  Good luck.