I gave up my son for adoption to protect him from his father who was very violent how do i find him now?

Question

you are the only people left for me to try been on the web sites that help trace but no luck been to social services who dealt with adoption but there cannot help i dont know where else to try i understand that he may want very little to do with me but i cannot give up my search for him he is 22 born 27/01/1986 and born in london please any advise you can give thankyou so very much for taking the time to read

Answer 1

you should of got rid of the bloke not your son madam

Answer 2

you might be able to access his file from your countys hall of records (i think thats where you go) but i dont think you'll be able to find out anything. you might be able to find out what foster agency he is through and that would be a starting path but if you lost all custody rights to him you might have to wait til hes 18 to do anything or to see him.

Answer 3

To kerry k: by writing what you wrote, you make a fool and a jerk of yourself. this poor lady gave up her son to protect him. I guess you would have prefered him beaten to death by his father. That would have been better for your moral standard? Don't pollute these forums please. they are made to help people not to insult them. The worst think is i suppose you bring your bad soul to the church every sunday.. what a shame !!

Answer 4

Try the Salvation Armey.

good luck with your search.

Answer 5

OK do you know or do social services know how adopted him or you can find any thing on the Internet these days did you try there on people search well i went through a similar situation to find my mom so the best thing to do right now is not to give up

                          i love you and i hope you succeed

Answer 6

Face book , friends reunited etc..

Answer 7

Im sorry. Good luck.

Answer 8

Please let me apologize on behalf of some of the answerers here who have been so rude to you.

I am an adoptee and would have been absolutely thrilled if my mother had found me

Changes to the law in Dec 2005 allow for all members of the birth family to have access to the adoption records and make contact with their lost loved ones.  All the information you need is on this site:

http://www.gro.gov.uk/gro/content/adopti...

Best of luck, I hope all goes well.

Answer 9

There are various agencies available  that will claim to help you. Not all of these can and will so be weary,

The salvation army are a good start if the social services can not help you. I have spoken with people whom have had excellent support from them.

Also your child will be about 22 now. You could also try the records office or the registry office  where the child was registered,

There are a lot of support groups whom can help you, sent you a link to a few.

Answer 10

You can register yourself as "willing to be found" in case he is looking for you.

Go back and speak to the Fostering & Adoptions Office at Social Services and ask the procedure.  If they are being unhelpful, Citizens Advice Bureau can advise.

From the beginning of this month, Friends Reunited is now completely free.

Answer 11

I don't know too much about adoption, but how old was your son when you gave him up?  If he was just a baby, maybe it's better off that you don't try to find him, as his adoptive family maybe treating him like their own biological son, and your sudden appearance may do more harm than good.

However, if he is old enough to see why you did what you did, I'm sure that you can always put an ad somewhere and explain why you are searching for him and letting him know that his biological mom loves him and has never stopped thinking of him.

Answer 12

You might consider placing an ad in the area you think he was raised.  Back when he was given up, there wasn't near as much help for single moms to get away from abusive people.  There weren't nearly (and still aren't) enough shelters.  It seems even harder in these days, because of the internet!  If you went through an agency, or attorney, you might try there, to see if he wants to have contact (many adoptees do).  I don't think people realize how dangerous some abusive men (and women) can be, especially if they are involved with alcohol or drugs, and that you had no choice to survive than to give your son a safer home.  I hope you haven't fallen into the trap of continuing to date abusive men (a lot of women do!).  Good luck, and say a prayer.  Maybe it might help!

Answer 13

well if he was born in london he is living in londom maybe going to college um go to london and search there good to help mamm

Answer 14

try facebook everybody with access to the internet is on there