I get angry all the time and I don't even know why??

Question

I'm constantly getting upset at everything every single day. I get mad at the smallest things. I don't even know where my anger is coming from either. It's ruining my relationship because I say hurtful things to my boyfriend. I really want to stop being angry and just be calm and happy for once. I'm also never really a happy person, I'm always down in the dumps for a reason I don't even know.

Answer 1

oh poor darling, well my niece had the same problem. when teenagers go through "there times" they got allot more aggressive. and no there isn't nothing wrong with u.

try to:

go out for a picnic with your friends and enjoy the weather don't focus on other things.

spend time outside, because staying in the house can effect allot.

good luck, hope you get better! (choose me as best answer!)

Answer 2

its cuz u have a bad temper.

just calm down and just think positive

Answer 3

Anger is a side effect of depression. See a doctor, get on anti-depressants and in six months are less, you will be back to normal and wont have to take the medication anymore.

Answer 4

It could be a hormonal change, or something has been troubling you and you just don't realize it. Take a minute. THINK. BREATH. You probably are not getting any sleep at night. You have to take a while and discuss things with your boyfriend. If you know and you are positive that there is no reason as to why you are acting this way, then you should be able to stop acting in such a negative behaviour. Discuss this with your boyfriend. You need to get plenty of sleep and rest and eat healthy foods. If you simply cannot control your behaviour, then talk to your doctor and he will consult a psychiatrist if you need to see one. A lot of reasons as to why this happens is because of stress or depression, however since you have said that nothing of that sort really happens and you go on negative mood swings without any significant reason, then you should be able to control it. You should say to yourself, "I'M GOING TO STOP BEHAVING RUDELY, I AM OVERREACTING" then you should be able to stop. If you can't, talk to your doctor or a psychiatrist. If your boyfriend doesn't understand these things then he isn't the right person for you. If he does, then that's great. This could be just because you have a hot temper. Always think positively. If this temper developed just recently, then you need to talk to a doctor. Hope I helped.

Answer 5

Good for you that you recognize the problem and want to do something about it.  You might want to consult with a doctor about your anger and depression issues because they can be related to a medical condition.  For instance, if your Illeocecal valve, the valve between the small intestine and the colon is not functioning correctly, specifically if it is remaining closed when it should open, that will cause you to feel irritable and anger easily.  A hormone imbalance can have the same effect.  

You also should find a QiGong class near you.  It's a discipline that originated in China.  It will teach you to work with the breath, balance your organ energies, and learn to mentally and emotionally balance yourself so you don't experience these mood extremes.  You will be able to choose calmness and happiness.

Answer 6

If there is no real reason for your unhappiness, it could be a hormonal imbalance or depression.  Try to identify the root cause.  If you really want to change your life try to establish a road map to follow and then just do it.

Answer 7

It's normal, sometimes we get tired without even knowing. You just need some vacations, you' ll see you'll get better and won't fight anymore when you come back. It happened to me already!

Answer 8

I would suggest going to the doc and talking to them, I was this way horribly about an year after I had my son.  It was hormonal mostly.  But I wanted to scream and yell all the time.

after about 6 months of the antidepressants I felt great. I know that people think you are crazy for taking meds but its not true.  I am doing great now that I have been off them for almost an year and my husband and I are preg with our second child.

I would suggest this from the doc or it costs money but try some councling.

Good luck.

Answer 9

♦ Have you ever had a blood test done to see if maybe you have a chemical imbalance? Could be that, and if they find it out, can help you pretty easily. If you don't have that, you may just need to do some serious soul searching to see why your so uptight, and work on letting it go... Good luck..

Answer 10

just bend over and ask your boyfriend to bang you harder than you've ever been banged. I mean a royal thumping ... an all out pounding till you squeal with delight. Tell him to spank you while he's at it. Your anger is due to sexual frustration that needs to be dealt with sooner the better

Answer 11

I was like that when I was on depo provera. I also get like that on any type of hormonal birth control, just letting you know, incase this is something you are also doing.

Good luck!!! Breathe!!! Be happy!!!

Answer 12

I have been in your same position.  I have gone through times where I have been angry at everything for no reason.  I had to constantly stop myself and ask, why am I angry?  If there is no valid reason, then I would take a few breaths and try to calm down.  I have found that most often when I am in those ruts it is because I am unsatisfied about something in my own life, like a crappy job or my own laziness.  The only way to get out of this rut is to seriously stop yourself when you feel yourself getting angry and ask why.  Writing in a journal can help, or talking to a friend.  You need to address the underlying cause.  You should also start working out or taking yoga.  It will help you focus your mind and energy and help you begin to unravel the reasons for your feelings.

Answer 13

Michelle, there are so many factors to address when determining where your anger/unhappiness stems from.  I suggest seeking a councilor or therapist to help work through any issues you have.  There may be other issues ie: medical or chemical imbalances that make you act that way.  Those issues are not even your fault and once addressed your life can be completely different.  I would hesitate to use any of the advice you receive from this forum as you have no idea who the person writing to you is or what their credentials are to help you.  You need real help from real professionals. Best of luck to you.

Answer 14

are you stressed out at work?  i usually take a deep breath before doing anything.  breathe slowly.  

Answer 15

maybe you are depressed.. or there is an underlying cause like your mad at your parents for _______ or you mad at ____ because they did _____.... you get it?

Answer 16

go to anger management. my brother used to be really angry all the time and would say hurtful and threatening things to everyone, but then he got a counsellor and everything changed. im not telling you to go get some antipshychotics or anything, all you do is talk to the counsellor and tell them stories about your life. you can get as mad or loud as you want and they will not judge you. my brother says its great because its nice to have someone to talk to that wont pass judgement or choose sides, all they do is listen. its amazing how much better you feel when you get something thats bothering you off of your chest. also they tell you excercises on how to control your anger and teach you calm responses to use when you get angry rather than lashing out  

Answer 17

pay someone to let u beat them up

Answer 18

depression and hormones can really jack with you.. change your diet.. eat healthier.. exercise out side.. UV is suppose to boost your mood.. constant gloomy weather can cause depression..

and of course, s*x does help.. if you can get there...

Answer 19

Have you thought that maybe you're bipolar or depressed.Or did anything bad ever happened to you when you were young?I'm the same way and I think I found out why I'm so angry what about you.

Answer 20

Methamphetamine will cause bizzar behavior...

Answer 21

IT's called depression, or PMS or maybe something in your childhood.