I get mad at my family easily

Question

I have a crappy job but i like it cuz its fun to work with the people i work with. But everytime i get home i get depressed and mad cuz then my family will start asking a bunch of questions ESPECIALLY MY MOM I know she wants to help and I told her it just frustrates me and makes me mad and if i have somethin i need to take care of she ALWAYS has to bring it up which gets me really mad and we start arguing..what am trying to ask is how can I get her to just leave me alone? and how can I control my anger towards my family

Answer 1

I feel the same, I'm going to watch this question.

Answer 2

omg i totally understand your situation

like i go to school

then come home and my mom comes home from work

and sometimes i wish she would never come home lol

but she brings up everything i have to get done like get a job...get better grades, take out the trash, everythingggggggggg and then we start arguing about everything and then it always comes down to her problems

.....but yeah i have no idea

i need help with my family too

i just can't wait to be 18 and move outtttt

Answer 3

DUCT TAPE J/K  .....JUST SAY IT WENT FINE AND TO TIRED TO TALK ABOUT IT..

Answer 4

Well unfortunately MOST of us to some extent are FAR worse and ruder and meaner to our loving family then to the strangers we associate with every day at work, school and in public.  I think it's because we can come home & let our guards down and just be ourselves....even if that part of us is sometimes less than wonderful!

However, when it really comes right down to it we all have to maintain and control our tempers PERIOD - we just walk away or learn how to communicate calmly, openly, express ourselves without the anger, show some SELF CONTROL in this uncontrolled world and especially be aware of the needs of those around us that we claim to love!  We certainly are seldom as appreciative and loving with our family as we should be.  Start off each day and as you end your work day to come home by verbally telling yourself how you WANT to behave & act when you get home.  Tell your Mom you need some down time when you get home to relax, unwind and be alone a while before she bombards you with questions - but recognize that her questions are out of love because she is YOUR MOTHER - that's what mothers do best - trust me, I'm the mother of 4 myself!  

If you have anger issues beyond the NORMAL then only YOU can get help or do something MORE Than that to control yourself because unleashing your anger at your unsuspecting family is certainly not acceptable, mature minded or okay at all!   I have 4 teenagers so I understand teenagers who lack self control - it's not unusual but that doesn't make it any more acceptable either!  We all just have to learn to calm the heck down, walk away, shut our mouths instead of hurting others around us AND learn how to express ourselves in a better way. Feeling mad is normal - behaving angrily at others is not.  Usually ANGER is a feeling that is masking other feelings too - so just control your mouth, walk away and try to identify what you might do yourself to be cooler headed after leaving work.  You must have some issue or NEED that isn't being acknowledged that brings you to that place where you lash out.  Food, rest, sleep, unwinding, being alone for a while - SOMETHING might help this matter.  Acknowledging to your family (mother especially) that you realize you are wrong & outta line and are trying to fix it will also help ya know!  

You can do this - it's good that you are at least aware of it.... that's a start!