I give up it just isn't going to happen...... all i can do is cry

Question

I got pregnant last year and i lost my baby and 3 months ( the doc said he thinks i was four but with my period and all 3)

well i decided to start trying ages ago and i am having no luck.

everyone seems to be getting pregnant round me that and having babys my sister in law just had a baby this evening..... and i wish her the best of luck. but to be honest i am a bit jellous my other sister inlaw is due in a couple of day and then there is another and she is due in OCT and dont get me wrong i do wish them the best of luck and health but there is a tiny bit of me so envious.....

me and my boyfriend BD at all the right times according to fertility friends and my doc said there couldnt be a fertility problem as we previously got preggers.....

i just cry and cry.... i really want to get pregnant but it just doesnt seem to be working........ i have even gone on lipotrim so that i can loose wieght to help........

I GIVE UP....

i am really sorry for the rant i just needed to vent....

thanks for reading x x

Answer 1

we tryed for a year with each one of our two children before we got pregnant however stress can affect the ability to get pregnant also so don't give up and you will become before you know it

Answer 2

The first thing that concerns me is that you mentioned using something called lipotrim. If you are ttc, then it's probably best not to use any sort of diet thing, even if it is all natural.  Also, from experience, all I want to say is relax and try to stop thinking about this so much.  I KNOW it's hard.  I hated it when ppl said that to me but it was true.  My husband and I ttc for 2 1/2 years.  The more stress and anxiety your body is under, the less likely you'll get pregnant.  I finally gave up and we decided to move away from our hometown since we thought we weren't goig to have a family anyway and guess what...I had stopped thinking about it and was preoccupied with settling in to our new home that I found out I was pregnant and my conception date was only a few weeks after the move.  I had finally stopped obsessing and it happened!

Also, just because you have your periods, does not mean you are ovulating.  If you are stress, you may not ovulate.  This is also true if you are overweight as I found out the hard way.  

Hopefully, it happens for you soon...wishing you well!

Answer 3

You have a better chance of conceiving when your body is relaxed. When you are so dead set on getting pregnant it puts your body under allot of stress which doesn't help the situation.

That may be how people who are not trying conceive easily, and other couples that are trying so hard have a harder time.

Best of wishes.

Answer 4

I am so sorry for your loss.

My partner and I lost 2 baby's last year. We had a m/c and an ectopic pregnancy.

We have now been trying for 8 months and still nothing.

All I can say for you is to relax.

Stop charting and thinking about ovulation and everything and just have s*x and enjoy it.

Enjoy the time you have with your partner. Go out for romantic dinners and walks and do things together that yous both enjoy. Do things that you won't be able to do when you have a baby.

Also for maybe have a massage once a month about a week after your period so your relaxed for when you's are having s*x.

Just try to forget about ttc and a baby will come to you.

Answer 5

This may not sound too supportive but appreciate the fact that you can get pregnant. Don't  worry it will happen for you. Good luck

Answer 6

The only thing you can do is to keep on trying. If you're a religious person, say prayers and ask those who love you to say prayers for you. Read up on ways to make his sperm count higher, and all those other things that can help.

I hope that you can conceive soon, so that you can be happy.

Best wishes.  

Answer 7

dont get upset. im sorry you lost a baby. that must be very hard to deal with. almost unbearable, im sure. i tried for 3 years before i got pregnant. dont pay attention to when you are supposed to ovulate. thats wasting time. try every day.. and if you still dont concieve, go back to the doc and check your eggs and your mans sperm. good luck. i know its hard, but hang in there. it will happen when you least expect it.