I go back to school tommorow & need your help please?

Question

I'm 15 and i have to catch a bus to school, as i have no other way to commute. I already get bullied by several people on the bus. Some are younger than me, others older and a couple in my year. They all gang up on me & my only friend. And my probs are about to get extremely worse two of the new year sevens are friends with the gang. They hate me & i hate them (for what they have done & do to me) but i'm really worried about catching the bus.

The people in the gang have:

Spat on me on more than one occasion

Verbal abuse - get a lot of this

Picked on for my hair colour - They call me ginger although it's blond.

Physically beaten - twice

They got a boy to sexually touch and harass me early this yr.

They once jumped on me when i was sitting on the bus seat

Spread rumours about me & my family

Isolate me (don't mind this though)

I just want to sit on the bus wid my mate listen to my mp3 and be left alone. I sometimes feel so low that on two occasions i have though seriously about taking my own life & ending my misery.

I have ignored them, answered them back, taken them on (& lost) even walked home in the pouring rain, along a motorway, on my own because i oulden't stand it any more. I have told my parents & the shool but it doesn't make a tiny bit of difference. I'm scared stiff to walk out my own front door. What can i do? any suggestions are welcome.

thanks xx

Answer 1

Aw, poor you. Makes me think about all the horrible people in the world. Everyone should be able to take the bus to school without getting picked on, everyone has the right to go out of their front door not worrying about what's waiting outside. I'm proud that you have told someone about this and asked for help, it's the first step to sorting it out. Don't ever think about taking your life, those people shouldn't take something as precious as your life away from you. Bullies are people who have nothing better to do, and they never bully for no reason, perhaps you seem nice and friendly and they decide to use this against you because they are jealous. Schools very rarely do anything about anything, it's normally your own task to deal with, but if this is getting too much you need to keep on telling the teachers, keep on at them, if you need to broadcast it from the school hall to make them listen do it, schools should have a very strict bullying policy and if they are no protecting a student, they are letting people down and this isn't right. Try ignoring them completely, once they see that it doesn't bother you then they'll stop, think about them as being immature, pathetic people and they are beneath you, because to bully someone is about the lowest you can go. Don't let them see that it hurts or upsets you, bullies like the attention and as long as you are giving it to them, they will continue. Just think about it - in a couple of years, you'll be free of these people and you'll have a successful job while most of these bullies will be wishing they tried harder at school, you'll come out top. :) Good luck and i hope you manage to sort this out. x

Answer 2

Ah you poor thing you. if i was on that bus id kick everone of the bullys up and down the bus but i aint there to help sorry lol.. Anyway, this is terrible thing to happen to anyone. is there any way u cud get a lift 2 school from a parent or your friends parents?

Maybe you could write a written letter to the principal and explain like you have explained here. This really cant go on.Noone has any right to bully anyone else.

Is there any other school in your area that you could change to?  If not, you will just have to keep complaining to the teachers and principle until this is stopped. i feel so sorry for you, hope everything works out for u. x

Answer 3

tell everything you just told us to your parents AND a teacher

Answer 4

I sympathize with you this happened to 2 of my grandchildren and the only way we stopped it was to go to the school and confront the people responsible  and tell them if it did not stop their Parents and were going to be sued  for harassment, (What they are doing is a criminal offense) and the Police could become involved

And the school sued for an unsafe environment ( It is their responsibility to provide a safe environment ) which they are not doing

Threaten their pockets and they will do something

1 boy In Australia was awarded $ 500000 for the same thing

Good luck to you GET YOUR PARENTS TO DO SOMETHING

Answer 5

dont  let those losers ruin your day how about u and yourmate sit up the front of the bus near the driver, and away from those losers, if i was there id seriously hurt them, talk to someone imediatly tell them everything you have told us this cant go on!

Answer 6

I suspect that you are a quiet kid who likes a quiet life and finds confrontation difficult. The school should be dealing with this as they can take good positive action - there is no excuse for this behaviour!  

In the meantime, you need to make a written complaint every time it happens.  Get your parents to as well.  If the school does not deal with this bullying then go on to the School Governors and after that your MP and local papers.  If you have a mobile phone that takes photos, videos or even records audio, then record their behaviour - and show it to everyone you can.  The school needs this 'paper trail' to take serious action.  

I am concerned that your parents are not taking more action regarding the physical and sexual assaults in particular or are they stuck on a rough estate and afraid of repercussions?  Most of the time, these people are all mouth.  Stand up to them and they back down cringing like the pathetic insects they are!

You said a boy sexually assaulted you - did you report this to the school?  If it happens again, you jump off that bus and call the police - not the school. These kids sound like they come from families where they think they are invincible.  Show them they are not. No second chances, no waiting for a convenient time.  You also shout, scream and cause so much commotion that the bus has to stop.  You refuse to take any blame for this. You do not expect to be assaulted sitting on a bus!

When you get on the bus, sit by the driver and if he's quite friendly say is it OK if I sit by you as that group are bullying me.  If he has any balls, he might be able to intervene.  Don't be scared about telling tales - you are not the one in the wrong.  The more people who know what is going on the harder it is for them to get away with it for a long time.

If it gets far worse, in your situation I would refuse to get on the bus and go to school.  Explain to your parents that you can't put up with it any more and are not going to.  If they want you in school, they will have to get on the bus with you!  ring the school and say the same to them - you could not get the bus because of the bullying.  Phone the local authority and papers as well!  Make sure you do your school work though.

Sorry Sunshine, I meant to give you a thumbs up and pressed thumbs down by mistake.  Please accept 2 thumbs up in apology!!!

Answer 7

let me tell you something, bullying can cause devestating effects to peoples lives. now it is effecting you and all of those things that have happened to you are disgusting. you really need to get out of this situation before, as you said you may have, you get these suicide thoughts again and potentially act on them. In my opinion any bully is a piece of s**t! They are not worth living and breathing the same oxygen in this country. you are worth 100 times more then them, and just to let you know what gooes around, comes around. and THEY WILL (may not be getting bullied but may be something equally as painful) GET WHAT THEY DESERVE.

Now as for the bus journey, what you need to do is arrange to go onto a different bus. you and your friend can't live like this it will make you insecure for your futures and this needs to be sorted immediately. Have you even considered ringing the police? you should!

if you want anymore help then I'm willing to talk to you on instant messenger. you can also contact me through your MSN too!

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good luck and take care!

xx

Answer 8

It's they've beaten you, you seriously need to go to your parents and get a restraining order, because you've just let some worthless punks hinder your day. Oh, well if your school district works like mine (cali) they are responsible for you going to and coming back from school, just point out the kids to the principal and they'll be dealt according (I had a similar situation, got him expelled)

If your school doesn't care you're not talking to the right people go to principal, vice principal, and h**l maybe even a counselor. Even a teacher wouldn't be a bad idea.

Good luck...stupid bullies

Answer 9

Sounds like it's to the [point where you need to involve the authorities. Tell your parents you want to talk to the Police and maybe they'll believe how serious you are. If they don't, then talk to the police. I would.