I got a feeling my son is watching his mom, how should i deal with it?

Question

3 nights ago,i came home from work early,and i saw my son hurriedly coming from the backyard late at night.i was curious and went there which was very dark and a chair was suddenly placed under the window i stood up the chair and saw my wife through a gap in the blinds taking a shower.so what else might he be doing there at that moment? i felt bad knowing that he might be spying on his own mom and thinking of sexual thoughts,i felt mad and bothered at that time but i dont know how to confront him.is it normal for his age to have an oedipal complex?how could i tell him to stop it if he was doing it?does it have to do with my wife's big b***s?cause she's his mom and very wrong.my son is a 15 y.o.loving and shy boy,yet my suspicion may be wrong.what should i do?

Answer 1

He wouldn't do that. Trust me.

Show him a magazine, cause that's just sad, looking at your own mother.

Answer 2

Cut him some slack, "very wrong" exists only in your mind.  Encourage her to have longer showers.

Answer 3

he is a teen and they have those talks so talk with ur wife and tell her what u saw and she may believe u and understand u!also u and ur wife with ur son need to talk about the birds and the bees and how what u saw was wrong and u should never do iot again(he may deny it but twist it like well some ppl may have thoughts and i dont want u to have them sumthing like that!)and dont yell or scream just be calm!umm i hoep i helped in any possible way!

God bless and Good luck

Answer 4

yes boys that age are at a stage where they begin to start to be sexually aroused and interested by the opposite s*x. they may want to try new things etc etc

because you are not sure if he was doing that or not ...see if he ever does it again...because he might have been doing something else...(hopefully for you)

you should tell your wife what you saw. and the two of you can work this out together. after all it is her son too.

Answer 5

Hmm..well is this his biological mom or a step-mother that he didnt know in his earlier years?

Other than that being his step mother that he hasnt know for very long then I really wouldn't know what else to do but to talk to him, or walk outside next time he is sitting there and ask him whats up and see what he says.  

Answer 6

well his hormones are raging.

If he is doing what you think he's doing its wrong however dont get all mad and yell at him

.Confront him with the "talk" and just yeah...you know the rest your a dad.

Im not gonna tell you to buy magazines for him

Im not gonna tell you.to tell him how you acted when you were his age

And im not gonna tell you to be light on him cause its understandable

;)...good luck

Answer 7

I agree.  Get him some magazines

Answer 8

I think he is curious about s*x. I would say nothing about it to your wife, but I would ask your son if he knows why a chair would be outside by the bathroom window.