I got drunk last night and made out with a guy. Should I tell my girlfriend? 10 pts. for Best Answer!?

Question

I got really wasted last night to the point I only remeber bits of things. I talked to one of "my friends" and he says we made out a couple of times last night, and then I told him that I didn't know my limits last night, had too much to drink, and it will never happen again because I am not into him at all and I have a girlfriend who I would never cheat on. I'm not attracted to him at all and don't ever want to do that with him again.

I told my girlfriend that he made the move on me, and I was taken advantage of. In reality however, I allowed him to make out with me and I did it voluntarily until I realized what was happening and I started to sober up.

I would never cheat on her intentionally and I regret what happened last night--she knows I love her to death and wouldn't cheat. So should I tell my girlfriend every last detail, or just leave it at what I told her so I wont make things worse?

Answer 1

Are you in fact admitting that you were sober/in control of your faculties when the incident took place? I'm referring to your statement that says "In reality however, I allowed him to make out with me and I did it voluntarily..." which would mean that he had your consent.

I supoose you will need to clarify this better because in the next breath, you say "...until I realized what was happening and I started to sober up". What exactly was it that you realized? That a man was with you in an uncompromising position, or that you realized this was an unfaithful act?

You will need to be very clear about the events that took place on that fateful night. It helps you decide better, once the facts are in place. If there are things that are unclear or seem hazy, then you can blame that on the alcohol. (Although we all have different levels of tolerance to alcohol, so you should take that into account.)

I can't presume to judge you, nor tell you what to do in your own relationship, and in life - I'm not your mother, after all. But if I was in that situation, I would tell my partner everything, including how I felt about the whole thing (if I really willed or meant for it to happen, did I like it?) because we have always been very honest about our feelings with each other.

Once again, that's me, and I considered the dynamics of my relationship. You will have to do that for yourself, no one else can do that for you. I suppose you can look at two sayings and see where your sensibilities will lie: Either "Honesty is the best and only policy" or "Sometimes a white lie will save your marriage."

Nothing in life is that clear cut, but it can help you move closer to a more concrete plan of action. Good luck.

Answer 2

I say tell her the truth, If you lie it could just end up coming out some other day later on, and adding it with the lie could make things really bad.

Been Open and Honest ..and Dont Drink too much next time  

Answer 3

I thought you already had, when I answered your last question based around same question you said HAD told her, so what's the score are you respectful or not?

Obviously due to the thumbs down I take it you don't like my honesty?

Answer 4

You say you were "wasted" and only remember "bits of things"?  Honey, nothing you do in that state is voluntary.  This "friend" of yours took advantage of you.  First off, if you don't remember it, how do you know it actually took place?  Second, if it did happen - or, now that I think about it, even if it didn't - I think I'd drop that loser friend like he was plutonium.  No decent human being would use another, especially an ostensible friend, that way.

I agree - tell your girlfriend.  But tell her all of the facts, too.  If you were truly as out of it as you say you were, the "cheating" wasn't directly your fault.  I think I'd think twice before putting myself in that situation again, though.

Answer 5

NO! You never tell your partner that you cheated on them. And that counts as cheating. Telling theperson that you did cheat on them is a very sefish thing to do, and lieing to her is worse. I would just let is go and not tell her anything. This is your burden to bear not hers.

-Connor

Answer 6

unless you wanna lie to her and have your concious be bugging you about it, tell her.

honesty is the most important thing in a relationship.

you should tell her every little thing.

Answer 7

I think you should tell her. If you don't it will just eat away at you forever. She might be ok with it, she might not, but you know it's the right thing to do. But assure her that you don't like this guy at all and will stay faithful with her.

Answer 8

Well think about it...

If the situation were flipped and it was your girlfriend who got drunk and made out with someone else, would you want her to tell you?

Answer 9

You told her, that's enough. You should be more concerned about drinking. You said you learned your lesson, we'll see. For your girlfriends sake, I hope you change.

Answer 10

Honesty is the best policy..I would rather tell her then have it on my conscience and be thinking about it all the time..She deserves to know but make it clear that you would never of done it if you weren't under the influence and how much she means to you.

Answer 11

You decided you were grown up enough to drink, and unless you're retarded, you know the consequences of drinking.

You cannot play the innocent card because you were drunk.

No one forced the alcohol down your throat.  Which means that anything you do when you're drunk, you are responsible for.

How can you say you wont do it again if you didn't even know what you were doing in the first place?

I would have suggested you just let it go and not start any high school drama.  But you already lied to her.  Now it's time for you to confess the truth.

Had you not given a lie, you could have taken it as experience and moved on.  But you told her that you were being taken advantage of, you knowingly deceived her and now you have to fix that.

Knowing what you did and lying about it is so much worse.

Answer 12

Sorry to say, but kissing someone while with someone else is in fact cheating.

Answer 13

umm..

Yes. You should tell her.

Accept what happens and if it means she's breaking up with you, thenit wasn't meant to be.

Answer 14

If you explain the situation maybe she'll understand. If she understands that it was a mistake and that you really didn't mean to do it because you were drunk, then hopefully she'll be the understanding kind. People do crazy and stupid things while they're drunk. If she does forgive you for cheating, then next you'll have to come to terms of what you did and forgive yourself. Things happen. That's just how it goes. No one is perfect.  

Answer 15

I would def. come clean, and let her ask whatever she wants to know...  and, maybe, take a closer look at your drinking.

Answer 16

The truth always has a way of coming out...think of it this way...if your friend got drunk and did something with another guy/girl then wouldn't you want her to be honest about it with you