I got married on 11 july 08, arrang marriage,my hubby loves me but he likes party with his friend late night?

Question

we r 3 person in family me,he,&mother'inlaw.presently after marriage i m not working. feel bore whole day and 1 day in a week he came late bcoz he had a party he like his friend circule. and don't want me to interfare tohis personal life. i don't like drinking habibt but do. i feel very tense,& feelin not well these day due to tension my BP go hige when he said todey he had a party. what i do i m not able to understand

Answer 1

relax.

Answer 2

You are over-reacting...

He can't leave his friends circle abruptly...

Wait and watch... everything will be OK...

Answer 3

I think he don't find you appealing that's why he is not changed and continue with his habit. You need to change his habit and make him more sincere with you and family. Love him as he want to love with you, talk with him, plan for future, do some outdoor activities, visit any romantic place and many more you can do for him.

Answer 4

For making him feel better U also join the party alongwith his friends

Answer 5

relax even this happened to me when i got married!!

Well make him understand that u left ur family and all just for him. he should spend some time with u.

ask him to take u to some places in eving after his ofc like temple or some stuff..

give him lots of love. tell him that u dont like drunkers. see that u should not hurt his ego.

be good to ur mom in law, take her help in this.

Answer 6

you have got married recently n he is so much with his friends that he cant leave them suddenly.. just wait for the days to pass he will get to knw ur importance n leave all the things. u just be cool dont take tension u ask him whether u can start working again this may help u get away from the tension..

Answer 7

you are over- reacting

Answer 8

u r newly married.wait some time to change his behaviour.he meets his friends weekly once not daily.dont irritate him. it is not good to u and ur family life.

Answer 9

its ur duty to do his brain wash. But very slowly. People change in a due course after marriage. Let him feel like you are giving him enough freedom ahd shld not exploit it. For that you sld allow him drink in occassions. Dont over rule. He wont be able to accpet a sudden chande or limitation..especially bcos its an arranged marriage.

give him some time, change his mind...

Answer 10

hey its so simple nothing to worry .. just make him divert from drinks by giving him more happiness than he gets by drinks .. just have s*x with him when ever u feel he will go out .. keep in mind as soon as u get pregnent he will leave those and just spent time in taking care of u

Answer 11

Relax.You have just started your life.Don't expect too much from him.You need more patience.Wait until all his friends get married.Naturally all his friends reduce their outings with friends.But partying won't end,but slowly reduced to monthly or 3 months.

Have a baby soon, which makes him more responsible as a dad.See that he consume more fruits & salads in day time meals, which makes him to drink less in parties.

Learn Yoga,which reduces your BP.

Wish you a Happy Married life!

Answer 12

I feel sorry for you, its hard enough having an arranged marriage but he seems to want to arrange your life for you as well.

The only thing I would do is make good friends with his mother and see how she coped when her husband did the same thing.

You have your whole life ahead of you and you really need to settle down and make something of your life.

Good luck.

Answer 13

Well We all agree that how so ever when we get married, say love or arranged, we give our conent in the society that my spouse is the most loveable and precious to me. Coz u said u had married recently therefore it's clear that u love him. Ur pussasiveness and an urge to spend the quatily time with him is gettin shared by his friends which isdisturbing you a lot. Ur overreation is jenuien n belive me if wat ur hubby is  doin now n u would have played the same role, he must have felt the same as ur now. Actually My point is ur hubby is takin ur overreaction for grantted. Which means he need to knnow ur value. as far frnds are concern. I say frnd is some thing called neutral power which neutralizes u from +ve or -ve energy. Don't worry In time he will came to know ur place his life. And the most important uptill that time deel the situations with ur intelligence instead of any others sujjetion.