I got some problem and I'm very stress. Could you solve this conflict please??

Question

My group decides to make schoolwork on the evening. in the same time, my teacher told us to clean-up the classroom, my group and I didn't join the clean-up activities but my another classmates join. It start like this, (We have four people in our group, including me.) I told my First friend, my Second friend and my Third friend to GO TO MY HOUSE at 3.30 P.M and to FINISH OUR SCHOOLWORK at another empty class(Actually, my home is our group usually meeting place before we go to school)They listen it and say yes. However, my Third friend told to my Second friend to just go to school without going to my house. However, until 3.30 P.M my First friend came to my house and asking me "Where are Second friend and Third friend?" I told him "I thought I told to them to come to my house at 3.30 P.M?" my Second friend told me "I don't have any comment for this case, unless we just go to school and check them out." Therefore, I say "Okay”. We arrive to school and surprise, to heard My Second friend and Third friend HAD ALREADY ARRIVED to school and have already in our own class with my another classmates that joining up in clean-up activities. I asking to my Second friend "Are Second & Third friend were crazy, our classmate would mad at us. We came here not to clean-up the class but only to finish this d**n homework" My First friend just silent. Until I arrive to my class and I feel very mad, but still I keep patient in my heart. After that, in my process to finish the schoolwork, one of my classmate asking me "Don't you have another place to finish your homework, we’re busy here. If you want to stay here, you better help us, understand!?" I am feeling very x2 shamed as a dozen of my classmate watching us finishing the homework at front of them.

For your information, actually my Third friend would love to do his homework on our class because his girlfriend is also stay in the class to join the clean-up activities. So, I'm fed-up with my Third friend because it just like my Third friend try to KICK ME OUT in this group because he never told me to go to school and never send me a SMS to ME that they already in school. So, I am asking with all of your opinion, what should I do to solve this problem? Should I tell the truth to the Third friend? Bully him? On the other hand, Should I just GET OUT from this group?

I'm begging you for the answer? =)

Answer 1

With that many class mates working on cleaning the classroom  it would have taken only a few minutes to clean up! This would allow you to participate in the larger group activity and then get the homework assignment done after.

By being there and no helping the Larger Group of Class Mates you would have alienated your selves from them. Try apologizing to them and find ways to participate with the larger group and see who will join your study group then.

Some times the best actions are not the quickest!

Good luck getting it all back together.

P.S. It might take some time for them to forgive you so be patient...with them for the next weeks to a month.