I grounded my 14yr old daughter.?

Question

I got a box and put everything in it such as her radio, her cell phone, her make-up, anything that I could find in her room that she liked the most.

I grounded her from the T.V and phone.

She isgrounded to her room for a few day's.

She has book's to read and colerd penciles to draw on paper's. She does chore's too.

The only time she threw a little fet is when it was time for bed she didint have her radio to have on.

She said "MOM WITH NO RADIO I'M SCARED" Later I saw her asleep with one of her stuffed dog's. What do you think about all of this?

Answer 1

What did she do to get grounded?    Did the punishment fit the crime?

I have a 13 year old step daughter,,,,,,,I don't think I could ever punish her for any thing.

Answer 2

When I was her age my mom would ground me to the house without the phone... that was torture enough.  Music is very important to her age group, maybe that was a bit too much to take it away.

Answer 3

She's probably just used to going to sleep with the radio on - it's a comfort thing.  She's cuddling the dog out of comfort instead. Stand your ground though, if having the radio means a lot to her, she won't be naughty again in a hurry if it means you'll take it away.

Answer 4

get her a fan to put in her room.....    will help by adding some noise to help her sleep, but without the entertainment of a radio....

I was the same way at her age,   I needed some noise such as a radio, tv, or fan on to sleep, although I wasnt 'scared' to sleep without... just made it hard to without!

Answer 5

Sad ....you ought to have trained her to use her time sensibly well tell her gently at least she didnt walk out of the house.i would have.............do not be too strict blame it on her friends who may be disturbing her take her out shopping and then

Answer 6

This cannot be answered without knowing what she did to deserve such drastic action which I admit may very well have been deserved.

Answer 7

I'd say you're doing what I would do if I had to punish my daughter. As long as she know's why she's being punished and your consistent about your rules. She may hate what you're doing right now, but in the long run she'll grow up and appreciate that you set boundaries on her.  Good Job Mom :)

Answer 8

if she really is scared i dont think its really giving in if you let her have it but only when its time for her to sleep

Answer 9

to be honest, she may be telling the truth. when i was a little younget than that i was scared to sleep with the radio off as well. but as a mom its your instinct to stick to your guns! do whatever you feel is best but remember if you give in she might think youll give in to other things.

Answer 10

It is sad. I don't have experience of parenting but I would say that this will develop rebellion thoughts in her mind.

The treatment that you are giving her is symptomatic, but the problem is something else.

I think she needs your attention and comfort. If you can, regularly spend some time with her, understand her requirements, help her take some good decisions, take her for some vacation also. Because the stronger you have relation with your kids, the more are the chances that they would listen to you.

Answer 11

Good job!!!!!

Answer 12

what is she grounded for?

Answer 13

well your daughter is being very reasonable, while not trying to fight your decisions about grounding her, and she has accepted her punishments. She is a little big to be holding on to the stuffed animals to sleep, but this is a good hint, she is insecure. i think you should let her have her radio. and try talking to her, why is she so afraid to sleep alone. girls like stuffed animals, but there is no behavioral need to have them.

Answer 14

Good Discipline is the Founding of a well rounded and respectful person!

Good on you!

Answer 15

It would help to know what she did if you want our opinion/thoughts.  I certainly agree with Steve-O, children need the feeling that Mom is making these decisions and that's the bottom line.  No ifs ands or buts...some of you may disagree but this is great comfort to a child in the end.  Too many parents negotiate with their children like little adults.  There are no boundries.  Spoilt Rotton as they say...just go to the grocery store, you'll see at least 4 different tantrums.  As if everyone should do as they wish, and there are no ramifications.  What a slap in the face the world will be to those other children when they are out on the streets.  Is mommy gunna break me out of prison?

Answer 16

JOB WELL DONE!!! Do not fold she is learning there are consequences for every action and decision in life. You fold now you will be doing her NO favors.

Answer 17

I think you did the right thing!  Kids need discipline and if parents don't do it who will?????

Answer 18

Its okay, but what is the reason?

Answer 19

I hope you had a good reason to take that much stuff away and not just some petty little thing.  I know my mom use to remove the one thing most important but not my entire room just for a little thing.  Honestly i couldn't ground my child to the bedroom because that is disconnect from a child for those days when you should really be trying to talk to her.  How are you suppose to have any time with your daughter is she is grounded to her room? I would say that grounding to the house is enough and just grounding her from the other stuff (I understanding taking the cell phone though, just not the radio or her makeup or stuff like that).

Answer 20

sounds like god parenting. good kill the kids! i mean figurlittly! haha

Answer 21

i could see where grounding her from the phone tv and radio may coem in to play if for instance shes swearing or what not...compromise...if she claims to not be able to fall asleep without the radio on then tell her you get to pick the music. Also don't be too strict because I found my friends growing up  who did the most rebelling were the ones whos parents were really harsh....the moment they get an inch they'll go crazy. So punish her when she needs it but dont be too rough...I agree that not having your phone for a few days is pure heck for a teen. Especially if she isn't even giving you a hard time about the other things and she is doing chores and reading...if my mom told me she was doing all that, as a teen, I would have turned right around and walked out the front door. Be glad you have a decently calm sounding teen.

*** NEGOTIATING WITH OUR CHILDREN LIKE ADULTS IS NOT A BAD THING, MIGHT I REMIND YOU THAT YOUR JOB AS A PARENT IS TO RAISE YOUR CHILDREN TO BE ADULTS IN THE WORLD NOT TO RAISE CHILDREN THAT STILL ACT LIKE CHILDREN WHEN THEY BIOLOGICALLY BECOME ADULTS***

Answer 22

I think it sounds like an effective punishment, I hope it's for a good cause.

Answer 23

i think its all an act i'm 18 and when i was her age i did the same stuff to my perents. stick to your guns hadnt my perents grounded me for the stupid stuff  did i'd probely be in jail right now. good luck

Answer 24

Hmm Depends on what she did wrong...But yeah, sounds like you 'grounded' her good.

Answer 25

Sad.

Your daughter obviously needed some form of comfort and you took it away from her if she is sleeping with a stuffed animal. Gonna take that away from her too?