I had a baby 7 months ago...It has been nothing but drama between the father and I...I cant take it anymore?

Question

He tells me I am a bad mother..I was even in sheppard pratt for a week with post partum physcosis....He says im a waste and I am nothing...Today I had enough and I just told him you know what just keep the baby...I cant figure out what is wrong with me why I would say that...I dont know what is wronfg with me but I know dont want to deal with him ever again.

Answer 1

I wish I can be more helpful...

You are NOT a waste and you are not a bad mother.  I don't think you even had a good chance to be a mother since you're suffering from post-partum.  You need to find a way to get some help for post-partum.  Look online for some help around your town.  And the father sounds like a horrible man and he's only making your post partum worse (which will in turn make him a horrible father- don't give the baby to him!).  Maybe you should take it one-step at a time.  Do you have any friends or family who can look after the baby while you get help?

Answer 2

First, don't ever say "just keep the baby" again.  This man is mean.  He will find a way to use it against you.  

Second, don't talk to him at all.  Have a mediator - your mother or sister or someone with a good head on their shoulders who will deal with whatever arrangements need to be made but will not get involved in the drama of this.

You have to protect yourself from this guy.  It sounds like he makes you crazy and clearly he is mean and no help at all.  

Now for the tough part:

Why did he tell you that you are a waste and a bad mother?  Come on.  Be honest.  Unless he is making a concerted effort to drive you to the looney bin, he would not say this if you did not give him fodder.

Get a hold of yourself.  If you can not handle the child by yourself, you need to find someone who can help you while you get through this tough time.  The drama has GOT to stop.  Time to grow up in a serious way.  You may not want to deal with him, but you have to and you can either take some control of yourself and the situation, or you can continue to react to his idiocy with your own idiocy, land yourself back in the hospital, and lose your child all together.

Find someone you can trust.  Someone who has a normal life with no drama.  Someone you admire.  Ask for sound advice - don't go looking for what you want to hear, because my guess is that sound advice is going to be tough to hear in this case.  Follow the advice.  Hook up with a counselor.