I had a bad dream about my dead father last night?

Question

My father died of Cancer in March of this year. He was going down hill fast from January and it was not a suprise when he did pass.

But last night I had a dream that he was still alive, but still sick, And for some reason or another he had lost both of his legs. (He had both legs to the day he died.)There was a fire that was coming at us and I had to carry him out of his house and to the field next to their creek to be able to save him and me.

As I got farther away from the house, my father got smaller, Lighter, and thiner, until he was just a shell. Like only the skin but with out bones. I put him on the ground next to the creek but he died there anyway. I felt so sad and helpless, and I woke up crying. I understand the feeling sad and helpless, but I feel lost about the thing with the legs.

Anyone have thoughts on this?

Answer 1

LEGs they are generally made to walk.  So maybe he is sending a message to you that he is unable to leave the home.  And also what is crazy is that when you left the home he got smaller until he was nothing.  It seems the legs are symbolic of him not being able to travel or walk away, and the shell part were he disappeared seems like he can't stay away from the home.  Seems to me like when you died he might of had a hard time leaving earth.  I feel he had some kind of unfinished business there that you know about.

Answer 2

Thats a good one. maybe it is that you were there for your dad when he was leaving you to go to his next place wherever you believe it to be. but you dont want him to go. hence the no legs. because without legs you cant go away maybe....not too far. maybe you just wanted to be there for him and wanted him there with you and assurance that he wouldnt leave. where was this cancer if i may ask. was he a war vet or something. maybe he got shot or something and had to have his legs amputated?

Answer 3

im sorry for your loss mate .  Dreaming is just your brain dealing with the things you dont normally think about. Things that are in the back of your mind. But i doubt very much that your fathers death is the back of your mind so i dunno mate..strange one that is =/

Answer 4

i don't believe that dreams can be interpreted through symbols (you'd have to know the significance of each ting to have that available, so...). but i do believe that in our dreams we make connections and "see" things differently because we are released from the constraints of conscience.

so the legs in your dreams...may mean that he was helpless, and couldn't save himself from danger...more than that, i think the "message" in the dream was that you know that no matter how hard anyone tried to save him, it was not possible to avoid his death.

my dad also died in march. 23rd. nobody expected it. i had dreamed about his death, or rather the way i'd found out he died, many times: that my mom would call me on the phone because i wouldn't be there (and sometimes woke up crying after such dreams). and so it happened. since then, i've dreamed about him a few times, that he was still alive and making jokes with us around the house. never dreamed about his death since it happened.

looking back - keep in mind that you had time to say goodbye and spend some time with him before he passed. consider yourself lucky for that. the last time i saw him was a week before he died, and the last time i heard his voice, which sounded more tired than ever, although supposedly nothing was wrong, was on a wednesday. he died on a sunday. later on his work colleagues told me he had been very weak.

it's so hard to be the last to find out. and to this moment i can hardly grasp the fact  that he DIED. and sometimes it's too much.

Answer 5

Sometimes life happens pretty fast, but you cannot lose focus with reality, and the reality is that we will all owe a death sooner or later. Maybe the dream was about how when you were trying to save him from the fire (cancer) but he felt as if he was bogging you down and too much of a burden so he left making it easier for you to carry him out. In essence he sacrificed himself as to not make you suffer anymore. When we think of such things, you can't focus on that he sacrificed himself for you and feel bad for it. Because as i stated.. the reality is that we all die, see it as a constant but you can honor his noble and responsible desicion as a father to sacrifice himself for you, as it wasn't really a choice and more of his responsibility as a dad... Just remember his sacrifice and whenever things get bad look back and know that he gave his all for you and don't let him down.

Answer 6

The loss of a loved one is always hard to handle, so this dream is not irregular.

By reading this it sounds to me that you carrying your father and then him passing away could be connected in a way that you felt helpless when your father died and wished you could have done something to save him...perhaps?

Answer 7

I feel for you (especially since I lost my mom several years ago and have had many strange dreams about her since then)

As for Father having no legs, I believe it means on a subconscience level that  like when he passed away that you felt you had to carry him and had no control over the situation (with him having cancer and had to allow for fate to work it's way out)

And as with the cancer and the dream you had that as you wrote:

"As I got farther away from the house, my father got smaller, Lighter, and thiner, until he was just a shell. Like only the skin but with out bones. I put him on the ground next to the creek but he died there anyway."

Well it was like the cancer that slowly took him away & the dreams combined:  it showed how he "got smaller, lighter, & thinner"

Just my thoughts.

Hang in there & God Bless,

mike

Answer 8

this may be your unconscious way of dealing with not being able to act to help save your fathers life. doctors and medicine and if you believe it higher powers were the only things that had any affect on his life span near the end. just try and remember the good memories and don't dwell on dreams of discomfort.

Answer 9

It normal to have dreams, because I bet your still probally still thinking of him while your awake. And if you woke up crying, you still and probally will be for the rest of your life emotionally damaged. Which happens when somebody close dies. My guess that it was a bad dream is because you may not been through the stages of greef. And bad dreams are one of the parts of the "denial/ Anger" stage. I really hope you get through this, I know its probally very hard, but surround yourself with good positive people. It makes everything better.