I had a boyfriend but he is married for 13 years..im pregnant..what will i do...?

Question

do i need to fight for him or leave him to his family..i love this guy so much and i knew he love me too but he also love his family...

Answer 1

he belongs to somewhere else, its unfortunate u got pregnant by a man who was already taken,if he is married u need to cut all ties, when your child is born u will need to file for child support.next time pick a man who isn't taken.

Answer 2

my wife cheated on me and it cost her her family home children and all. i felt like my world ended, would you want to feel this way? once a cheater always a cheater. you get my meaning? he will cheat on you when he doesnt know how to rekindle the fire between the 2 of you.

Answer 3

You do the same thing most other pregnant women do in your situation. You carry on while the child suffers for your actions.

Answer 4

He is always commited to a family, and if he odesn't leave them for you on his own then he obviously doesn't love you very much. I believe you should just go, if you're young then move back with whoever can help you (as in mom/dad, grandparents)

Good luck

Answer 5

no need to take him away from his family u shudn of slept with a married man make him pay for the baby or take him on the jeremy kyle show x

Answer 6

I do not think that he loves you,  he uses you,  he does not respect your feelings,  after he uses you,  now he could say that he loves his family.  He is not worth it for your love,  you should not trust him for what he says,  because if he can do these to his family for 13 years,  he can do these to you too.  He is a selfish,  who wants his own satisfaction,  do not care who might get hurt or not,  I felt bad for you to have met these kind of man,  who think of himself only,  if he really care for you,  he should respect you and your feeling,  because he has his family who love him so much.

In the first place, before you get involve to a man , you should think first,  if he is married or a single man.  I do not know what to tell you right now,  it happened already,  you made the wrong decision,  now you have to face your consequence,  either you stay with him and he destroys his 13 years relationship with his family,  or you will leave him alone,  and you will suffer because you love him,  but you can not have him,  he is committed to his family.  It is a mistake,  to have a relationship with a married man,  you can not do another mistake to get him out of his family for your sake.    I felt very sorry that you are pregnant with his baby,  the baby has to suffer the mistake that you both had done,  the baby will have to experience a broken family.  You have to decide is it worth it to have the man,  but his family had to suffer from it,  or face your mistake and leave him,  start over with your becoming baby.

For me,  it is hard to decide,  because you love the man,  you will get hurt to leave him,  but I know there is a better man for you,  a man who will accept you for who you are, and what you are,  a man you can trust and spend time together,  a man who can be there for you whether in bad times and in good times,  a man who can support and love you .

I hope you will let him go to his family,  because he loves his family,  and I wish you will find a true man that will love you.  I hope you will have the strength to go through with these problems,  I know you can do it with the some help from God , to guide you in very way,  just put your faith in Him.

Answer 7

Find a new bf and leave him alone. think of all the hurt you will cause. And the child will be the weapon of choice. Not very fair really.

Answer 8

Leave him be, why mess up his family just becuase you were messing with him!

Answer 9

Don't try to gert him to his family.  Just think of some stories that  leaves his family after a while he went back because he can take the guilt or considering also that he has some friends, relatives to tell him to go back to his family.  Different advise he will get from people.  You know what it's not you only in the world who made that kind of mistake.  But this single parents I can see them happy with their kids and they survive because they dont hurt anybody's feeling.  You get what I mean? It's better to leave in this world without hurting people. Just realise that he has family also and do you want to be his mistress forever that you can be a legal wife someday?  A lot of men that could understand a girl with past just be patience.  The right guy will come. He is not the right guy for you and you know he was taken already.  So he is not yours, no offense.  The only thing you can ask from him is to help you to support the child.  Just move on and I know you are a god fearing person because you are honest on your question that he is married.  Good luck girl. I know you can survive just have faith with God.

Answer 10

LOLOLOLOL....You actually think you have a chance at fighting for this married man?  You are seriously delusional....If he really loved you...He would have left his wife already....The only thing he loves is the free piece of azz you are giving up to him....Do yourself and your baby a favor...and get far far away from this man...You and the baby will always be his dirty little secret...

Answer 11

Unlucky....you screwed a  married man, tried to trap him (don't deny it) and now you are going to end up alone because I can assure you he will not leave his wife.

You and your child will be his dirty little secret...is that what you want your child to see as normal???

I suggest you get as far away from this man as possible and step up to being a responsible parent with morals...your child will be better off!!!

Answer 12

You will not succeed.

Men will not face pregnancy problem.

You should have understand this or you should have gone for safe s*x.

This is not love. This is s*x in the name of love.

Loving a married man is illegal.

Either give birth to a baby and face the consequences or meet a Gynecologist for safe abortion.

If you make this public, you are the first who gets bad name.

Next, you will spoil him and his family.

Answer 13

your pregnant by him i assume. He is accountable for that baby.  Dont fight for him to be with you, fight for him to be in the babies life.  I hope lesson learned?

Answer 14

He was never yours to fight for. You have no claim on him and never did so now he goes back to his family and you will have to stand alone, it is called making your bed and laying in it! This is what happens when you take someone else's mate from them.

Answer 15

love is uncontrolled able

wait for right time

Answer 16

WTF? ... he has a family! Let him have his family!!

You shouldn't have been involved with a married man!

Answer 17

Don't try to sugar coat your situation. First off he is not your boyfriend. What your first statement should of been was that. " I'm sleeping with a married man and now I'm pregnant" What do I do?. Now that's sounds alot better. Well if you were sleeping with a married man alot of people might say that you get what ever happens to you. And why didn't you ever think of birth control ?Is he aware that you are pregnant?

Let me ask you a question. Is he going to leave his wife of 13 years for you to be with you? Alot of people are that you got what is coming to you and if youare going to play the game don't get mad is you lose.

You can't expect too much if you are the other woman. But good luck I guess.  

Answer 18

if he loved u he would have never gotten u pregnant knowing full well he had a family at home waiting for him. he used u for his own selfish reasons. and now that u are pregnant he is going to come up with every excuse in the book why he cant be there and u don not want that. u dont want to have him sneak around his wifeys back just to come and see u and the baby. move on with your life and make a vow to yourself to never be the other women to another man again but always BE THE WOMEN!!!!!!!!!

Answer 19

You made your bed and now you have to lay in it. He wont leave his wife BTW

Answer 20

Leave him be. That's what you get for messing with a married man.

Answer 21

Lonely? Hon, i wish you the best.I want to tell you,you want be lonely for long.Tell the dead beat to stay away,You will find a real man other than a clown that don't care about anything but his own desires. That kind of man will always cheat.Move on.They always run the woman down.While the cheating men put them self's out there.they are what they are.I would expose him and file for child surport and go on with my life with out him.He will always cheat.

Answer 22

Hopefully, give the baby up adoption so it can have something better than an absent adulterer for a father and an easy, dimwit for a mother.

Answer 23

I agree with most others!!  You are in this situation because you are dating a married man.  Do you  have any self respect?  I think women like you are a disgrace to our gender.  Find your own man and leave the married ones alone.  We all  know how weak men are.  I am sure he loves his wife and you are his sexual satisfaction.  

Answer 24

look lady, if he wanted you and not his family then fine he would have left them, but he didnt he left you!! so why fight for somting that has nothing to do w/you? he dont want you!! leave him alone, but get him for child suport.