I had a dream where my aunt had a premature baby boy and she said it was dead but it was not .?

Question

she said it was dead and she wrap-ed in a blanket and thew it when I looked at it the baby was alive but very small and I keep ed telling her the baby was breathing but she did not want the baby boy , she said she wanted a girl please help , this totally freaked me out since she has 2 boys 14 and 8 year old but she had a 3 month old girl die and a miscarriage with a baby girl also when she was 5 months pregnant .

Answer 1

I'm very sorry for your aunt's painful losses - those things are tough to deal with and one never forgets or fully gets past the painful feelings, even if they fade over time as they should.

It would seem that you are very close to your aunt and care a great deal about the hurt that she has felt.  She may well long for the girl that she has so far been denied.  There is an intensity of emotion that can go with that which can create a subconscious ruminating in your own sympathetic mind - even to the point that if she had a baby boy it would not be desired in light of all that is gone.

Of course wakingly that is not likely - and you indicate that indirectly in that the dream does puzzle, meaning it would be out of character for her, truly.  But, between her pain and your sympathetic feelings the dream ventilates some of the feelings you hold, a healthy exercise, actually.  

However, you do likely find it difficult to truly console her, hence the seemingly hopeless delimma of this child being dicarded.  Do not feel guilt at this or that she would ever do such a thing.  The dream is simply an exaggeration by which you might finally release some of the intense feelings you have - the opposite of your being disturbed by the dream for too long.  Odd, for sure that dreams often work this way, but it can force the dreamer to look at the pain head-on and realize one must move onto sounder emotional ground and find some normalcy again.

Your aunt may be down right now, but over time given loving support things should improve for her and the meaningfulness of the boys she has will be all the more clear.  The living tend to gain the footing to go on with what they have and recover the happiness they deserve, even if a tender spot remains - as it should.

Again, I am very sorry for these losses and the pain your family, especially your aunt, may feel.  

All the very best to you for finding happiness and keeping the sweeter memories as the pain may fade.  There is still much to be thankful for in those who are living and those lost little ones will still always be embraced in love.

Answer 2

Your aunt is in great emotional turmoil.  She is in great mental and emotional pain.  She is feigning that all is well with her but it is not. Her wish for a baby girl indicates her wish to find joy and comfort.  This woman is suffering. Go comfort her.

Regards