I had a kid at 12 and my parents have been helping me take care of it.,idk about adoption yet...?

Question

Should i keep her or not?

Answer 1

You are the only one that can decide this. You didn't say how old the baby is. If she is very old she is all ready attached to you and your family and you have done it this far. Your parents are helping you so your lucky. I would keep her finish school and make a life for you and your baby. If you do keep it please don't let your parents bring it up as theirs and as your sister. It will only cause problems later when she gets older. She will findout and think of how she is going to feel when she does findout.

Answer 2

yes you should she is a blessing make her your life...

Answer 3

Wow, if I was your Mother  I could no way let you NOT keep her. I would raise her myself until you were old enough to take on the responsibility yourself. That child should always know that you are the Mother who gave birth to her. Lies will only get you in trouble in the long run. My husband is adopted and you always want to tell them the truth. She does not need to grow up thinking you are a sister. Sooner or later the truth will come out so it is best to be honest in the very beginning. You are young so you need to talk to your parents about this.

Answer 4

Troll alert.

Answer 5

I would talk with your parents, but I really think you should think lovingly of your daughter. Think deeply. Your parents could adopt her as their own, as your sister, but think of how much trouble that may cause in the future when she discovers who her real mother is. Personally, I think the best thing to do would be to put her up for adoption. But, it is really your personal choice. I am glad to hear that you are concerned with this issue and want to do the best for her. Good luck.

Answer 6

I'm guessing the "father" left.  Well, this is what happens when you have s*x at this early of an age.  I would keep the kid.  You have to fix the mistakes you have made.  That child is yours and only yours.  When he or she grows up, he/she would be proud of what you have done as a single mother (I assume the father left).  Now just think how sad she/he would be not knowing her real mother.

Answer 7

There's only 1 person that can answer that tough life altering question for you. And that's yourself honey. But you do have to give more details to your situation. Try to answer those questions and maybe you'll find the answer to your own question.

Are you having a hard time taking care of your child. Financially? Physically? Emotionally?

Are you trying to go back to school? Is the father of your child helping you? And another thing are you emotionally attached to your child that you never want to let her out of your sight and life?

You really have to think this through, because once you give her up, do you think you would be able to face her later on in the future when she comes looking for you?

Good Luck. Hope you make the right choice.

Answer 8

keep the baby and only think of adoption if it is the noly choice available

Answer 9

If you are currently looking after her then she will be attached to you and her grabdparents and it will hurt her to be adopted.  I would be wonderful for you to keep her and do the best you can to raise her with the help of your parents.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

My birthmother gave me up for adoption and it was the best thing she could do for me.  It was her way of being self-less and honestly giving someone a chance at having children who couldn't.  This is not just a choice for you but for your daughter.  It is extremely diffictult and may require some counseling before making a decision.  I have 2 children and one on the way but I am considerably older than you (almost 30) and I couldn't imagine having the responsibilities that I have now as an adult at the age of 12/13  I just want to wish you the best in whatever choice you make and remember it is your choice no matter what anyone else says.  

Take Care.

Answer 12

It's totally up to you if you want to keep the baby or not. I will say if you do decide to put your baby up for adoption, that you will need to do it soon.  It is best for babies to bond with the people that will be in their lives for ever. So the older your baby gets the harder it will for it to adapt to another family.

Answer 13

Of course you should keep her. It's your child and your responsibility. Giving her away would also be a parenting decision that would affect your child the rest of her life, just like keeping her has been, but is one of the worst and most harmful decisions you could make. Better to get what help you can from your parents and the father and his family and do your best than to risk destroying that child's life by not only leaving it with strangers but foolishly trusting strangers to raise your child properly. Only you can assure that happens.

Answer 14

dude how do you manage to get laid at 12?     if i were you i wouldnt put her up for adoption unless it becomes to much to handle and she is completely destroying your life and making it a misery

Answer 15

Take a long think about it. Think about how much you love her and ask someone what they think but only do what you think is best.

Answer 16

Sweety, I think you need to follow your heart on this one. Try not to listen to too many outside opinions. You and your daughter are the ones who have to live with the decision you make....so it needs to be the right decision for you and her. This is the most important decision of your life. Be honest with yourself and think about which would be the best thing to do for YOU and HER. Listen to your heart and the right thing to do will come to you. When you come to the right decision either way you will know it because it will feel right. My prayers are with you....big hugs :))

Answer 17

It would always be best to keep her if you can as you may end up regretting it if you give her away, all you need to do is love her and do your best. good luck xx

Answer 18

Young lady teen pregnancy and or parenthood is not a something to joke about.  In a previous question posted this same day. You indicate that you might be with child and claim that you have not had s*x since you were raped at 7 years old. Here you are suggesting that you may be with child but have not had sexual intercourse since you were raped, 5+ years ago.   Yet here your saying that you had a child that is already in this world.

Please find something else to do with your time, other then making up stories that you cant even keep straight.

Answer 19

bfore you rush into a decision look at your daughter if you feel a rush of love and protection keep her!!!!

no matter wat you do dont rush your decistion and you may regret giving her away

hope i helped

x

Answer 20

well first of allno you did not have a child at 12 lets just get that lie out of the way. your parents are not helping and your boyfriend did not leave but I am answering just to get some points good luck with "it' i mean the baby

Answer 21

Hello,

This is a big decision that will affect you for the rest of your life.  Make sure that if you decide to do this, that you get to know the people adopting your baby, and that you feel like they will let you see the baby in the future!  Be very careful of letting people on the internet, and I highly do NOT recommend an agency, because they will change the truth to their own needs, and make you promises that perhaps seem in your best interest, but can't hold up in court.  

We have adopted a baby boy, and have been trying again to adopt.  Friday, I had to undergo another home study (the final for Jacob's adoption, which will be final in a few days), and an update for our future adoption.  I'd love to be considered for adoption, and I can give you references from people who know our child's birth mom and probably her also (I'd have to ask, because I respect her privacy, and this might be hard for her to talk about).   You can send me a message, and make sure you send me your e-mail, so I can get back with you.  Whatever you decide, I can also be a friend!

Answer 22

Have your parents adopt it! then you can still live with it!

Answer 23

OMG... you are a child yourself!  I think your parents should have a large say in what the final decision is.  If I were them, I would raise the child as your sister, not your daughter.  Talk to mom and see what she thinks or plans to do.

Answer 24

i think you should keep your child just think when she grows up she will love you so so so so so so so so so so so so much, that would be so sad if you let her go, she, is your child, just think about it ok, well i hope you go with this!

Answer 25

I'll say no because you've raised her for a year now so there must be some part of you who wants to keep her. The other reason is because you are asking us what we think, that shows me that you aren't sure of what you want to do. Giving her up for adoption is a personal decision that only you can make since you're in doubt I would say it would be best for you to keep her until YOU know what you want

Answer 26

I think you really have to think of your life as well as your child's life.  This is the easy part of parenting - when they are babies and if you think that's difficult even w/ your parents' help - think about what you can or can't give your child as he/she gets older.   If you feel that you can emotional handle raising a healthy (physical and mentally) child into a capable adult - then by all means keep your child.  But if you  have doubts that you will be able to do this fairly to the child, then maybe you should think of adoption.

Answer 27

first instinct is to say that you should not give up your child, but only you and your parents know the situation that you are in.  don't give the baby up because it is the easy way out, only give the baby up for adoption if it is the ONLY way.  Don't be selfish,  think what is best for everyone involved.

Answer 28

I would adopt your baby.  My husband and I have been trying for 2 years.  So if that helps you, you could consider the greatest blessing you could give another person.

Answer 29

keep her, she is your daughter. you will regret putting her up for adoption for the rest of your life. how would you feel if your mom didnt want you?

Answer 30

Okay you refer to your daughter as "it" thats never good, but she's a year old now and I think she will be attatched to mummy.