I had a learning disability and in middle school?

Question

I was in regular class and failing everything.I asked

my mother why won't she go and talk to the school

about my trouble with school? She said she is afraid they will put me in special ed with all the trouble makers and she will not talk to the school.

She said you have to figure your way way out of your mess. Was that right? If your middle school

kid was having trouble wouldn't you go and talk to the school? Remember one thing this was in the 1970s with me.

Answer 1

Yeah you would!! I have been in special ed all through my school days!! i was going to a cristian school and they had like no special ed there so my mom and dad took me out of that schoola dn put me in public school!!! i was a little upset when I was really little because I thought I was going to get makin fun of!! i was wrong i had so many friends and if i didnt have special ed throught my school days I wouldnt of graduated!!! They help you a great deal!!! Sit down with your mom and really talk to her. Tell how much trouble your having and maybe she will change her mind!!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 2

For some reason your mom was under the impression that all Special Ed students were trouble makers, which we know is not true.  

Yes, I would go to the school and talk to the appropriate people and discuss what could be done to make school more tolerable for you.  It's not right to allow a student to feel like he/she is a failure.  

Let me add, it's also the schools responsibility to not let you feel like a failure and to work out a program suited to your needs.  

In the 70's schools weren't like they are today.  Today, schools are more equipped and more knowledgeable about learning disabilities.  Parents are also more knowledgeable about Special Education.  

I too went through grade, middle and high school with learning disabilities.  Schools and parants alike didn't know about ADD or if they did (schools) didn't have the knowledge that children with ADD or other learning disibilities had to be taught differently.

I didn't know I had ADD until I was an adult way passed school age.  My mom certainly didn't know about ADD either.  Although my mom did talk to the teacher and that was probably due to the teacher contacting my mom.  I was then given lower level school work to do during the rest of grade school.  High school was different.  I did the same work every other kid did.  

So it really comes down to the time (the 70's) and lack of knowledge that the teachers and parents have today.

With all that said and done, there still was something the schools/teachers and parents could have helped you with.

The is a very good question.  Hope I have helped you out.

Answer 3

that was wrong of her to do that I was in special ed for dislexica and ADD and now I'm in college

Answer 4

special ed is not bad at all . you can get the help you need i m in it  and my teacher is like a scent  mother to me .

before they put you in s d  they will pronebly do some testing ii was homeschooling all my life in tell 4th grade you shod of seen my different it made .

Answer 5

Then in all fairness if this is still toroubling you you should ask your GP for help

Either

1 your mother's words and action have emotionally damaged you - I mean like this was 30 yrs ago!!! and you need pysch help - or

2 you are still troubled by learning or behavioural difficulties and want psych help.

Answer 6

I would recommend that you talk to your school counselor.  Explain your problem.  She can then call your mother and ask her to come to a school meeting.  At that point the counselor can tell your mother about what the school can offer you.  

Once your disabilities are diagnosed you can get help from resource teachers; often this is one-on-one tutoring and remediation activity.  Today, dedicated Special Ed classrooms are pretty much only for the MR.  

Obviously your mother doesn't understand that with learning differences there is pretty much no way you can work yourself out of your mess.  She has the impression that you can do it, and just aren't.  There is no way to prove her wrong except to get tested to verify what your issues are.