I had a major fall out with my all time bff. n its all her fault. WAT do i do?

Question

ok. dis frend of mine had a bf. dey broke up but den still remained frends. she tried to get me to go out with him. but i sed no. i started talkin to him on AIM instead. one night we had dis 3hr convo where sarcastically i told him i loveed him. da next day i showed da convo to my frend n she laffed n sed i shouldnt hav told him i loved him bc he wouldnt take da srcasm well. she asked me agen if i liked him n i sed no, bc i relly didnt. a couple of week later she started being distant with me n i herd that she had been saying things about me. ive herd that she been callin me a s***k hoe and she even talked about me to other ppl wen i wuz no more that a few feet away. i confronted her n asked her wat wuz goin on. she sed dat i was a bad frend, since i had lied to her. she sed that i told her that i didnt like her ex but then late she herd me saying that i wuz IN love with da guy. dat culdnt b possible since at the time i wuz in total love with this other guy(i stiill am). she also told me that i had started rumors about her. i cried thoughout da whole aargument n all she did wuz sneer. twice i tried talkin to her after that but she told me dat she had nothin to say n dat she wuz done with me. dat hurt me alot. even though im 100% sure i did nothing wrong i still wanna b da one to fix our frendship. shuld i keep trying? or is she not worth it? plz help ='/

Answer 1

she's not worth it. if she is going to get mad at you for that, then you need to get a new friend and forget about her

Answer 2

too long

Answer 3

i think that u should just forget about her and find a friend that understands u because shes not worth crying

Answer 4

First off, spelling -- it's deliberate.  Please write english.  Second, you don't get involved, even "kidding" on AIM.  Those words, "I Love You" are not meant for kidding, sarcasm, or b.s.  These words mean a lot.

Third, you never ever ever get in contact with your bff's ex.  NEVER EVER.  Lesson learned.

You all sound a bit immature and young.  You say it's all her fault yet you want to be friends with this girl?  

Move on and find a more mature friend and hope you learned some valuable lessons.

Answer 5

write her a letter and say what you have just said. Keep away form the boy friend. tell her you are confused and hurt by  her actions.  To me it has gone way to far. The past is the past. "forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past". so get on with today. tell her you would prefer to be friends but it is her call. and drop the whole package. make sure you say all you need to say and what you want from the friendship. and ask your self what do you deserve in a friendship. and go from there.  Life is about what you want not what you don't want . what you think about most is what you will get the most of in your life. so you don't like what is going on chang what you are thinking. best way to do that is always ask your self . What do I really want? and go with that answer.

Answer 6

Not worth it. She tried to hook you up with her ex which is already a set up for failure. Friends don't put you in those positions.  

Answer 7

Personally I think if a friend starts calling you names like a "s***k" or a "hoe"  and start talking badly about you behind your back then she is not a true friend.

But I can understand you wanting to fix the friendship. I think it'll be hard to turn a blind eye to what she said and what she has done to you and your reputation but I think the best thing to ensure that there's no bad blood is by being completely honest to her regardless if she wants to believe it or not.

Let her know that you still want to be friends with her and that you have no ill feelings towards her. Try not to place blame on her but remind her that she did try to get you and her boyfriend together.

To me it looks like you were being honest to her and not lying by showing her the conversation that you had with her ex, which is more that what most girls would do. This is also worth bringing up to her.

Don't try to force the friendship back but lay all your cards on the table and let her know how you feel.

Even if she doesn't want to talk to you writing a letter or email to her can get the point across. Also taking the time to write something shows that you sincerely mean what you are saying, since why would you waste time writing something you didn't mean?

I hope things work out for you, mending a broken friendship can take time but stay around good company and you should be fine.  

Answer 8

Its not worth it.

I mean u tried twice n she turned u down, if she rly cared bout she wouldn't do that n she wouldn't say stuff that would hurt u cuz its just nt rite.

on top of that u did nothing wrong she just started all that drama to hurt u n make u feel bad.

Just simply try to move on if she dont wont nthin to do with u then u dont wont nthin to do with her.