I had a miscarriage? How do i tell my husband?

Question

my husband working to much and me going back to school put me under the stress i had a miscarriage and i don't know how to tell him about it i am so worried that if our marriage does work that he will be upset what should i do? i am in need of help

Answer 1

Hey so sorry about u lost..

But don't keep it from him the longer u keep it from him the more upset he will be that u didn't tell him about it when u first found out.

He will be upset but he will understand that u are too and u both are grieving over the lost of the baby so he should understand

Answer 2

You have to tell him, not only do you need a shoulder to lean on, he will need your support as well.  Nothing you did caused the miscarriage.  It is the hardest thing for any woman to go through, but the best thing you can do is lean on each other and go through it together.  If you can't tell him this, how can you tell him something even harder.

Good luck

Answer 3

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

But you have to tell him.  Just do it quick and simple.  Get straight to the point.  Understand that he may get upset and emotional.  Let him know that you are both feeling this loss, and that it is best to do it together, instead of apart.

Just as you might want some space and time to grieve, give him the same courtesy also.

Answer 4

YOU WILL FEEL BETTER ONCE YOU TELL HIM,  THE LONGER YOU WAIT THE HARDER HES GOING TO TAKE IT....YOU SOUND SCARED OF HIM.......IF HES A REAL MAN HE WILL BE UPSET BUT ALSO WANT TO COMFORT YOU

Answer 5

I am very sorry for your loss. Of course he will be upset, part of him was growing inside of you. I am sure if you try to tell him you will start crying and he will probably know whats going on. There is nothing you could do, and its not your fault, I know its hard to see but everything happens for a reason. I wish you luck, and again I am very sorry for your loss

Answer 6

first of all, as aweful as it may sound consider it a blessing. There was something wrong with the fetus and that's why you miscarried. Having a baby also doesn't mend a bad marriage either. it only makes things worse, and you will be raising a child in an environment that isn't happy. tell your husband he'll understand, then maybe go to some counseling to try and save your marriage.

Answer 7

were you both happy and excited? if you were then talking to him and showing him how upset it made you to lose your baby, and that you are feeling ok. The main point and main reason he should be worried is about your health. i would just explain to him that you lost it, your ok but upset, and the sooner you tell him the better..

Answer 8

My mom had 8 and my wife has had 2-

Just tell him-

ITS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!

If he gets mad **** him!

It happens to 80% of women at least once-

Answer 9

Miscarriage is going to happen whether you do everything to prevent it or not.... it's not your fault, nor your husbands.  Most times miscarriage happens due to some sort of genetic or chromosomal abnormality.

Hopefully he will understand and support you and love you no matter what. if you are concerned that this will end your marriage, are you sure you should be trying to bring a baby into such a rocky family situation in the first place?

Sorry to hear about your loss, it's never easy to handle, not to mention being so worried about your husband being so upset that it might compromise your marriage.

You should see your doctor right away if you haven't already...

Answer 10

You seem more worried about your husband upsetting than your miscarriage.