I had a miscarriage and now dont know what to do!?

Question

My partner and I have 1 child already. Last september we decided it was te right time to try for another baby.

After many months of trying and waiting i finally fell pregnant in Apri. We couldnt work out the dates so we went for a dating scan and it told me i was apparently 6 weeks pregnant but there was no heartbeat.

We returned for another scan the following week and i was still 6 weeks pregnant and no heartbeat.

I had to then go back to the hospital to have pessaries and antibiotics to bring on a miscarriage which i went home for.

The whole experience has stopped me from wanting to get pregnant again. Infact i would say it is almost a phobia but my maternal clock is ringing away inside yearning for another baby.

Im not sure what to do!

If ayone else has felt this way before please could you help me to overcome my fear

Answer 1

hi love i know wat u r going through i thought i was 11weeks pregnant and last tues was gettin a bit of spottin so went 2 hospital 4 scan they said the baby is only about 6weeks the size of plus they couldnt find a heartbeat.have 2 go back this tues but i know deep down myself as the spottin is gettin a bit heavier and the hospital said that could be it naturally.dreadin tues its like a bad dream all i want is a baby we had been tryin 4 nearly a year and then this.am so down at the minute and my family or sayin sure u can try again but i wanted this baby plus like u scared 2 try again incase it happens again.hope everythin works out 4 you.

Answer 2

i had a miscarriage beginning of this month, i didn't really handle it well as i took me long to get use to the pregnancy because it was not planned. after the miscarriage, i felt so lonely, but ive come to terms that it happened for a reason( though i still cry and think about it once in a while) i have also decided to try for another baby as soon as my period is back to normal as that is the only way i can cope. the experience was horrible and whenever i remember it, i feel useless.

don't give up, see your gp and ask when its safe for you to try again. Best of Luck  

Answer 3

My nephew's wife had 6 miscarriages/abortions due to agenetic problem, 7th time lucky...a healthy, non-carrier girl, nearly 2 now...hang  in there!

Answer 4

things happen for a reason we all have a destiny and its up to us which path we choose. cant explain in detail but watch the butterfly effect and it will give you some idea it is a good film and maybe give you some answers in a wierd kind of way. we all have our destiny dont be disheartened if it happens it happens x

Answer 5

lots of women have early miscarriages, don't let that get you discouraged. if you really want another baby then you have to try again. i had a miscarriage at 6 weeks and i ended up getting pregnant 8 weeks later and am now 35 weeks pregnant. i can't imagine what my life would be like now if i had decided not to try again but i'm sure i would regret that decision.

Answer 6

hello hun i also had a miscarriage in april i was 10 weeks i went through the same thing as you on letting it happen natrully at home i will never get that image of what i saw out of my head

i was so confused at the time as why i couldn't carry the baby as like your self i had done it before three times infact ,i decided i wanted another straight away as that was the only thing keeping me strong knowing that our miscarriages are unfortunate but we are blessed with the fact that we can conceive and we all ready have healthy children which some people can't have

i am still trying and yes everyones scared when they become pregnant but us more to the fact we have been through what can happen it is a very scary time for us hun but if we don't try we will never no

i have made my baby a memorial site on the gone to soon website which has helped me alot you can lite candles or say what you feel for your baby its a great site and i think it may help you its free and a way of saying goodbye and feeling closer to your baby good luck babe wat ever you decide and sorry for your loss  

Answer 7

I feel your pain ((hugs)). I to had just miscarried after having 2 healthy previous pregnancies. It has been by far the most horrific thing i have been through. Im scared to death to get pg again. I have read in my miscarriage book that when u have a miscarriage that the 2nd pregnancy goes on to be a healthy baby most of the time. Your miscarriage rate after the 1'st one is only 4%. I think thats very encouraging. I have known several women who have had a m/c then went on to have a healthy full term baby afterwards. I would try again. No pun intended:)

Answer 8

I have lost two babies .the last one was in 2003.AT a hospital appointment they noticed babys heart beat was very slow then it stopped. next day i was induced and at 20 weeks my baby was born. i took a year to sort myself out then i got pregnant again.every time we went to the hospital i took panick attacks .my daughter is now three  and i am so glad i tryed again.best of luck.

Answer 9

You must be feely pretty d**n upset right now - I do hope that you have lots of supporting friends and family around you to help you recover.

It is always upsetting when miscarriages happen, and feeling scared of trying again is quite natural - you are human and will be greiving the loss of your unborn child. Give yourself time to adjust, take the hospitals advice not to try again until you have had a least 1 whole cycle - as your periods may well be all over the place at first.

Time is a great healer and with it comes the strength to pick yourself back up and try again, you have 1 child already so there should be nothing to stop you going on to have another.

I do hope you begin to feel better soon.

Take care

Jo

Answer 10

i just went thru a miscarriage myself , i know how you feel, i don't think i can go thru this whole ordeal again of TTC , but time will tell i guess

I'm sorry you going thru that

Answer 11

Don't stop trying.  If you really want another child that bad any heart ache you face along the way will just make the feeling you have when you finally conceive so much greater.  My mother had a miscarriage and she was so depressed after wards that she stopped trying.  Now it is too late and I see her looking at old pictures wishing that she hadn't stopped trying.  It breaks my heart.  Don't give up.  Once you finally have your baby, it will all be worth it.  Good luck!